5 simple ways to increase self-confidence

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self confidenceSelf-confidence is one of the key personal qualities necessary for success. Here are 5 ways to develop self-confidence, presented in the book The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. Use them in life, and you will certainly become successful.

1. Sit in the front rows

Usually in lectures, conferences, briefings and seminars the back rows of the classroom are filled first. People who sit in the front rows are not afraid to stand out from the crowd. Because they believe in their intellectual abilities, manners and appearance. So, to gain confidence in yourself prefer the first rows!

2. Express your opinion

There are many bright and talented people (sitting in the same conferences and workshops) who for whatever reason are afraid to express their opinions in order to avoid saying something stupid, not to seem ridiculous, etc.

Each time a person wants to say something and says nothing, he injects himself with a portion of the poison that kills confidence.

And vice versa: the more you speak, the more confident you become, so after each time you find it more and more easy to speak in public. Voicing your opinion, you take a vitamin which strengthens confidence.

Make rule to express your opinion in every public meeting you attend. Speak voluntarily, without being asked to. Do not make exceptions. Ask questions, make suggestions and comments. And do not be the last to express your thoughts, be the first.

And do not think that you will look silly. You are an intellectually developed adult and have your opinions, which have the right to be expressed.

3. Make eye contact

How to develop self-confidence? Look in the eyes of other people. The way a person looks says a lot. You instinctively begin to doubt a man who does not look in your eyes. What is he hiding? What is he afraid of? Does he want to cheat your or to hide something from you?

If a person is not looking in the eyes of his interlocutor he seems to say: “I am weaker than you. I am insignificant. I am afraid of you” or “I feel guilty. I have done or harboured in my mind something that I want to hide. If I look in your eyes, you will see right through me.”

If you look straight in the eyes of your interlocutor, you are expressing confidence and openness.

4. Walk with confidence

Psychologists say that a languid gait is associated with a negative attitude toward oneself and the world around him. But by changing your posture and gait you can turn a negative attitude into a positive one. All the actions of the body is a result of the psyche. “Chronic losers” have a shuffling, stumbling gait. Their confidence is close to zero.

“Middling people” have a “mediocre” gait. With their movements it is just like they are saying: “I have no reason to be proud of myself.”

But there is a third type of people. They seem to radiate confidence. They walk with poise, and their look is saying: “I’m going to an important place to do important things and to do them well.”

Spread the shoulders, straighten up, lift your head, speed up the step and you will feel a surge of confidence.

5. Smile broadly

Develop the habit of smiling. Whatever the circumstances are, the smile is the strongest weapon of self-confidence.

A broad smile gives a sense of confidence, overcomes fear, does away with anxiety and eliminates despondency and despair.

Smile widely and you will feel that “the good times have come”. Smile with all thirty-two teeth! Such smile is a guarantee of success.

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Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.




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12 Comments

  1. Colorado Springs Roofers April 3, 2012 at 12:22 am - Reply

    I tell everyone to smile all the time! Life’s too short not to and it boosts your confidence! Plus smiling at someone could change someone’s life!

  2. aeio April 3, 2012 at 4:07 am - Reply

    I started making eye contact like crazy with everyone and I always carry conversations! one that has helped me A LOT is good posture. always keep your spine (from end to end) straight and walk tall!

  3. Katharina April 5, 2012 at 3:31 pm - Reply

    I don’t know why, but the phrase I like the most in this article is “I’m going to an important place to do important things and to do them well. And smiling, which should be done all the time! I am often surprised at how friendly people become when you smile at them.

  4. Deepak Kumar Das April 5, 2012 at 3:54 pm - Reply

    5 points really make sense for me. I missed eye contact during conversing people or in meeting and need to be work on that point.

  5. Ella April 5, 2012 at 5:30 pm - Reply

    I really, really liked this article. And it’s so true! Every one of those reflects on me myself (I am very confident) and friends of mine who are confident as well. That was great. Thank you!

  6. Adubz May 2, 2012 at 3:03 pm - Reply

    In the natural world, 3 and 5 will get you straight up killed. They are signs of AGGRESSION, not confidence. Showcase your pearly whites and stare up a gorilla and we’ll see how long you last.

    • Anna May 2, 2012 at 5:20 pm - Reply

      You are right if we talk about the animal world. However, this article is dedicated to humans 🙂

  7. Incredible tips from an incredible book! Keep doing what you’re doing to be a source of inspiration and instruction for people around the world.

    A quick technique that I use to overcome feeling lousy is to ask myself empowering “What if…” questions, instead of dis-empowering ones. This works just about every time for me.

    Hopefully it does the same for you!

  8. Derek September 16, 2012 at 7:54 pm - Reply

    I’m not sure that I fully agree with the second point. Speaking at a public meeting when you are not invited to is, in my opinion, simply rude. My all means signify to the chair that you wish to speak, but don’t just shout out.
    Additionally it does get irritating hearing people talk who are asking questions which have already been answered or are not adding anything constructive to the topic. If you are agreeing with a point already made and not adding anything except your own voice, don’t. “If you don’t have anything constructive to say don’t say anything at all” is the rule I follow.

  9. bakeca pisa January 31, 2013 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    good tips

  10. Rudy March 20, 2016 at 12:12 pm - Reply

    Positive thinking and grateful also required to achieve success

  11. Ray August 15, 2016 at 3:48 pm - Reply

    Definitely agree with the walk with confidence and smile tips. I’ve read NLP Books and one of the main tips there is that your physiology affects your psychology. Behave in a confident manner and you’ll think in a confident manner as well.

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