Self-confidence is among those personality traits that are a product of nurture and not nature. It depends on how you were raised, as well as on how you respond to and interpret the events taking place in your life. It also means that it’s possible to boost your self-confidence at any age.
People who believe in themselves feel comfortable being responsible for their actions, taking reasonable criticism, and learning from their mistakes.
The good news is that self-confidence is never too late to be developed.
There are a number of steps to help boost your self-confidence. Here they are:
1. Make peace with yourself
The first and most important step is to make peace with yourself. You should not blame yourself for the fact that you may lack self-confidence. Once you accept yourself for who you are, you will feel relieved.
2. Stop communicating with negative people
In everyone’s life, there are always people who spread negativity around. Such people take any initiative or idea negatively, and no matter what you do, they are never content. Personalities with this mindset attract continuous negativity into their lives and try to infect others with it.
3. Increase the time you spend with people who believe in you
You should try to surround yourself only with people who support and encourage you. If such people make a critical remark, it will be constructive and will help you become a better person.
4. Fight your fears
Fears do not disappear by themselves, so you need to actively fight them. The point, in this case, is to initiate this fight, and soon you will not notice how your fears are fading away.
5. Change your look
Clothes are very important. The right clothing doesn’t just attract everyone’s attention but also makes you feel more confident. The point is to choose clothes that are suitable for you. By the way, do not forget about other aspects of your appearance because your outfit is just a part of your style and confidence.
6. Do some sports
As well as clothes, good shape, posture, and physical fitness are not just important for looking good but are also a sure way to boost your self-confidence. You can learn more in this article about confident body language.
7. Learn something new
Education always helps in self-improvement especially since some activities help you get rid of different fears. For example, the fear of public speaking can be defeated with the help of the right techniques.
8. Track your progress
Try to notice the positive trends that appear in the process of boosting your self-confidence. When you see the progress, it will be easier to move on.
Most importantly, encourage yourself for any achievement, and over time, you will see that you have become more confident.
I feel I will never have self confidence still. I’ve been single for 6 years now due to this. this is why i take solitude in my gaming, reading, and constantly learning. it does make me feel good when people call me the walking encyclopedia though.
Daniel. Im 54 and have been single for over 20 years. Dont feel bad. In fact every time you see a man in his 40’s or 50’s, ask yourself “If this man is single, how LONG has he been single?” Did you ever think some men have ALWAYS been single. You think that every shy kid in school who couldnt talk to girls just one day “bloomed” out of that? What I’m saying is, chanced are you are not 54 yet as I am,so you have plenty of time. I know plenty of hot women who have either been single or in a rotten relationship because they either have no self confidence or are too comfortable to change. I due to help from this site and a few others like stumbleupon.com , has let me stumble upon(LOL), have let me decide that I am going to “take out” my area of lowest self confidence. Like a hit man. Gone!
Marsha Sinetar, author of “Do what You love, the money will follow”says that when you get confident in one area, it increases spherically, it just spreads out to all other areas as well. For me Ive always wanted to be very good at martial arts, so “women can instinctively feel safe around me.” (Wow! I just learned something new about myself.) But I have a bad back and low thyroid problems for 20 yrs. I say “So what? Re-invent yourself, or die.” Nothing is worse than dying and still breathing(going on day after day) for 20,30 or more years. Lets go for it! But you have to pick just one area, and devote all your free time to it. That’s the price to get what you want. EVEN IF IT TAKES 20….30 OR 50 YRS. No time limit, no pressure!
Well articulated, thanks for sharing your story. As a coach, I work 7 simple steps to build confidence and self-esteem, a holistic approach to put yourself together…
1. Identify your uniqueness
2. Identify major successes
3. Display of symbol-of-achievements
4. Controlling sensitive/ hyper-reactive nature
5. Taking risks to boost self-confidence
6. Keeping an assertive attitude
7. Managing a healthy lifestyle