6 Reasons Why Intelligent People Fail to Be Happy

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Have you noticed that some of the most intelligent and deep thinking individuals out there fail to be happy?

They may have a loving life partner, family and be successful in their job; yet, there is something that occasionally makes them feel alone, sad and discouraged. As Ernest Hemingway said, “happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know.”

Here are six possible reasons why happiness in highly intelligent people is such a rare phenomenon:

1. Intelligent people overanalyze everything

Many people with a high IQ tend to be overthinkers who constantly analyze everything happening in their life and beyond. This can be draining at times, especially when your thinking processes take you to undesirable, frustrating conclusions.

Have you heard the saying, ‘Ignorance is bliss’? It surely is – the less you understand, the more carefree and, therefore, happy you are. Being able to read people’s true selves and hidden motives is enough to make you feel disappointed with the whole world sometimes. Not even mentioning the feelings that come along with the reflection on philosophical matters, global issues and life’s timeless dilemmas that have no solutions.

2. Intelligent people have high standards

Smart people know what they want and don’t settle for less than that, no matter what area of life we are talking about. This means that it’s more difficult for them to be satisfied with their achievements, relationships and literally everything that has a place in their life.

Moreover, many people with brilliant theoretical minds happen to have poor practical intelligence and somehow idealistic views of the world. So when their expectations face the raw reality of life and other people, it inevitably leads to disappointment.

3. Intelligent people are too hard on themselves

Another reason why smart people fail to be happy is that they tend to be too strict with themselves. And here, I’m not talking only about one’s achievements and failures. Intelligent, deep thinking individuals often analyze themselves and their own behavior in such a rigorous manner like if they are intentionally seeking out things to blame themselves for.

Sometimes, you just lie there in your bed trying to fall asleep and suddenly recall a situation (which probably happened years or, at least, months ago) when you didn’t act the way you should have. This is enough to mess with your sleep and spoil your mood.

Intelligent people often experience such kind of flashbacks into their past mistakes. All this cultivates guilt, discontent and other negative emotions that can poison one’s happiness.

4. Reality is not enough

People with high IQs never cease to seek something bigger – a pattern, a meaning, a purpose. The deepest and the dreamiest of them don’t stop there – their restless mind and imagination don’t let them just relax and enjoy “the good things in life.” I guess the reality with its trivialities is just too boring for them. Such people crave for something fantastic, idealistic, eternal… and, of course, never find it in the real world.

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong here and should have lived in a different era or maybe on another planet? Deep thinking, highly intelligent people constantly feel this way. How can you be happy when you feel like a stranger to the world you live in?

5. Lack of deep communication and understanding

Being truly understood by someone is one of the greatest experiences a human being can have. How comforting it is to sit with a like-minded person somewhere quiet and have a meaningful conversation, realizing that this person understands your ideas and shares your views of the world…

Sadly, intelligent people rarely have this pleasure. Many of them feel alone and misunderstood, like if no one is able to see and appreciate the depth of their minds.

It’s now scientifically confirmed that in order to be happy, individuals with high IQs need less socialization than those with average levels of intelligence. However, it doesn’t mean that smart people don’t crave for human interaction and a good conversation. They simply prefer to talk about fascinating and meaningful things rather than discuss food, weather and one’s plans for the weekend.

No need to say that nowadays, it’s particularly difficult to find a person to have a deep conversation with. Thank today’s consumerist and materialist society for that.

6. Many people with a high IQ suffer from psychological problems

There have been many studies that link psychiatric disorders, such as social anxiety and bipolar, with high IQs. Could it be that these conditions are a kind of a side effect of a creative genius and a brilliant mind? Who knows, science is yet to unravel the mysteries of the human mind.

At the same time, the intelligent people who don’t suffer from any mental disorders are still prone to so-called existential depression, which often is a result of excessive thinking. If you are thinking all the time and analyze everything in depth, at some point, you start reflecting on life, death and the meaning of existence. Sometimes, it’s enough to make you want to re-evaluate your own life and, as a result, get sad for no obvious reason.

Can you relate to the struggles described in this article? What other things, in your opinion, make intelligent people fail to be happy? Share your thoughts with us.

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Anna LeMind

Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.





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144 Comments

  1. Balaji July 4, 2017 at 12:54 pm - Reply

    I like this article, It is really true, i realized that the most of the things are happening in my life as mentioned in the article, i use to see in my day to day life that people are very happy working 5 days a week and enjoying the weekends and being happy always. But i am not like them i am always thing about the something like, why people are behaving like this, why things are happening like this, what is the root cause for this, always thing about something, etc., i don’t know to enjoy the life.

  2. Lois July 6, 2017 at 11:36 pm - Reply

    Without thinking, I see the problem, or inefficiency, and can quickly pinpoint the cause, and therefore, the fix. I also quickly see easy improvements to take something from OK to excellent. And not to be conceited, but I’m almost always right. In a situation when I then have the authority and resources to fix it, to make my little corner of the world a better place for others, I am at my best. People who know me only from such roles would ever guess that I’m ever anything but positive, energetic, encouraging, and motivating. I’m an engineer, but I’ve also delivered , leadership development courses for high level managers and executives and it was the best job for me and I never should have left it. Helping people be the leader they want to be was incredibly fulfilling. All that over analyzing energy was spent considering my trainees, especially the ones in a 5 week course, how to encourage them to leverage their strengths, how to gently nudge them to see where and why they are less effective, and see them grow.

    The frustration and discontent comes when we can see the problems, pinpoint the causes and the fixes so easily, or the easy improvements that would provide benefit, but we’re not in a position to fix it, no one else does anything about it, and things remain broken, and someone somewhere is carrying unnecessary burden. From global problems to our homeowners’ association, we analyze analyze analyze.

    On top of that, our desire to help make things better is often taken offensively–as criticism or condescension or arrogance. I, and I think most people like me, don’t really think that way. Looking at a situation, I can compartmentalize what has occurred to create what is the present state without trying to judge who did what, when, and why. Most of the time, the cause or inefficiency is a legacy institutionalized way of doing things that in the past was the right way, and frequently was a good fix to a problem that is no longer relevant. A changed environment isn’t a reason to criticize individuals. I always assume the best in people, that they want to do the right things, want to make the world a better place. I welcome challenges, rebuttals, different perspectives, facts I haven’t considered, because when everyone feels safe to provide input, the solution gets better. I’ve always assumed a rising tide lifts all ships, that one person’s success doesn’t mean less opportunity for others.

    When I’ve been part of or led a team like that, where mutual respect is a given, we’ve accomplished some terrific things. That environment seems harder and harder to find or create.

    I always, almost to a fault I’ve been told, share the credit and own the blame. It hurts me when I can tell from the beginning that there are preconceived notions that I’m selfish and think I’m better than everyone else because of such and such degree or credential when nothing could be further from the truth. I happen to be very good at math and analytical methods. There are plenty of things I don’t do well, and an infinite number of things I don’t know about. I welcome learning from others. But when people know about what I’ve accomplished before they know ME, it is difficult to overcome those attitudes. And it hurts me badly. As a result, I’ve never, ever, hung up on my wall my diplomas, credentials, or even had a coffee cup in my office suggesting where I went to school, what degrees and credentials I’ve earned, or awards I’ve been given.

    I am legitimately ill and on disability, so now my mental state includes feeling useless. And I realize my confidence for the future is linked strongly to the facts that I worked so hard to earn the credentials, to prove myself worthy, to pay my dues and get my hands dirty, while on the other hand, based on feedback from others and my own observations, I minimized my accomplishments to avoid “intimidating” people or making them feel bad. That’s an impossible line to walk, and the stress trying to do so with a smile on my face on top of chronic diseases, drove me to physical collapse.

    I’m trying hard to figure out the happiness part.

    • Karen Tyrell July 18, 2017 at 6:15 pm - Reply

      Hi Lois, I feel like you just reached into my head and pulled my inner ramblings right out of my brain!

    • Stephanie August 7, 2017 at 10:35 am - Reply

      Lois- I could not relate to you more and I too have fallen ill and am now disabled and cannot find the happiness that I desire so much. I am very sorry for your fall and hope that you and your health can recover. I feel we would do very well talking with each other and would love that opportunity.

  3. Marvin July 9, 2017 at 9:04 am - Reply

    what is to be done about it?!?!?!

  4. Glenn July 25, 2017 at 3:04 pm - Reply

    Please
    How is an individual with all these characteristics to find direction in life that allows them to feel worthwhile and justified in being alive ????

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6 Reasons Why Intelligent People Fail to Be Happy