I offer you five techniques that will help you find out what you really want in life. Here they are:
1. Make a wish list
Try to make a list that includes as many wishes as you can think. Getting this task done may take several hours, perhaps even days. If you are serious about getting the most out of your life, find the time and make up your own wish list.
In the process of compiling this list, be very specific. For example, if you want a new car, clearly specify the model and color. If you are going to change your job, specify with certainty what kind of activities you are interested in and how much you want to earn, etc.
In short, when writing down each of your wishes, show maximum precision.
2. Imagine your perfect day
Find a comfortable place where you will not be distracted, turn on soft music, close your eyes, and relax.
Try to create a special, truly perfect day for you in your mind. First, imagine how you wake up. Who would you like to see next to you? How would you like to spend your morning? What do you prefer to do after waking up? Do you exercise, pray, practice some meditation, eat a delicious breakfast, or swim in the pool?
How do you get to work? Where do you work? What does your office look like? What kind of job do you do and what kind of people do you work with? How much is your salary or income? What do you do during your lunch break and after work? Meet with friends or spend time with your family?
Think about all the details of your perfect day. Turning to things that make you happy every day could help you find out what you really want in life on a larger scale.
3. Learn to see your goal clearly
Such kind of mental exercises can help you develop an inner vision and discover what you really want in life. They will help you tune into your own subconscious mind and get in touch with the innermost desires of your heart. The key point is the ability to not think about the process of achieving the goal but to focus solely on the goal itself.
So, turn on some nice, relaxing music, close your eyes, take several deep breaths to relieve tension, and then ask your subconscious mind what your life should look like in each of the following areas:
- Marriage and intimate relationships
- Family and friends
- Property and belongings
- Career and money
- Health and physical fitness
- Recreation and leisure
- Personal and spiritual growth
When you’re done thinking about each of these areas and visualizing the picture of your perfect life, open your eyes and write down everything you imagined as detailed as possible.
4. Visualize your dream
Every day pay some time to visualize the desired results, i.e. imagining that they have already been achieved.
For example, if you are looking to get a master’s degree or Ph.D. in psychology, visualize yourself sitting in your office with your diploma hanging on the wall. If your goal is to establish a close relationship with a kind and loving person, then visualize yourself near someone who has these qualities.
Try to practice visualization at least two times a day: in the morning upon awakening and in the evening before falling asleep.
5. Create your dream
If you are not experienced in visualization or simply want to accelerate this process, you can use images for each of your goals.
For example, if you want to spend your vacation in Hawaii, contact a travel agency and get an advertising prospect on trips to Hawaii. Carefully cut out your own photo and glue it on a picture from the prospect.
Then hang it in a place in your room/office where you will be able to see it multiple times throughout the day. Every time you will see this picture, your dream will become more and more real in your mind.
You can also make a ‘wish-album’. Cut out pictures that illustrate your goals from magazins and paste them in a notepad or a journal. Try to view this album at least once a day. It will remind you of what you really want in life. The results may surpass your expectations.
