Loners Are Some of the Most Intellectual and Loyal People You’ll Ever Meet

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Loners are some of the most intellectual and loyal people you would ever meet.

In fact, their intelligence makes them capable of being content in solitude. That’s why I grow weary of all the negative talk about those who wish to enjoy time alone, away from the multitude.

Being a loner doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. If you think this way, you’re wrong. It’s not my opinion, it’s fact. You didn’t write the alphabet and you didn’t make the rules. There are many ingredients in the soup! Let me sort this out for you. I believe a little snatching up and rearranging is due.

First off, I’m not attacking anyone, I’m standing up for the little man, the one in the dark corner and the one whose been bullied far too long. In fact, I would love to help you get to know the loner, the introvert, the confident and quiet intellectual. Hopefully, you are no longer offended and maybe even a little curious about the loner. First, I need to clear something up.

There are two types of loners

The loner isn’t always an introvert, actually. Sometimes, the loner has a perfect ability to make friends, socialize and even get loads of attention. It’s just that they prefer to be alone. They have friends too! Loners have the ability to make top notch friends because they choose to choose carefully. Their friends are usually in a small group as well. Extroverted loners are picky about their time, selfish even, meaning they love to learn about themselves and continually learn things about life as well. And no, that doesn’t mean they are self-absorbed. I’m not positive because I am a rather introverted loner, but extroverted loners probably don’t have time for small talk either.

Jonathon Cheek, psychologist at Wellesley College, said,

Some people simply have a low need for affiliation.”

On the flip side, the introverted loner is a little different. They have issues with large crowds of people, it’s not just a choice. Introverts feel safer alone, there is no risk of social awkwardness or rejection. Although they might choose animal friends over human counterparts, as many of us do, introverted loners still care. They are intelligent and find ways to socialize a bit through online communications rather than events or concerts, which can be devastating to their peace of mind.

Some think being an introverted loner is unhealthy. They feel that enforced alone time is close to anxiety. I can understand this personally, as I have endured panic attacks when experiencing the chaotic environment of an amusement park. This is because introverts can be victims of stimulus overload! Introverted loners need more time for meditation and pampering the senses.

Whew!

I hope this helps, both you and me, because there are so many reasons, to be honest, as to why someone would choose more alone time. It could be heredity, the desire for privacy or even the result of not having many friends as a child. And don’t forget, being a loner is not the same as being lonely. I, for one, spent an entire year as a single mom with joint custody. I missed my children when they were away but it was not because I was alone. The weeks that I was by myself, I met myself. I got to know who I was and what I liked about myself. This was invaluable time that I used to learn that I needed no one to tell me who I was or how I should feel. I spent time with me and found some solid foundation on which to stand my ground, as needed. I embraced being a loner.

Loners are some of the most intellectual and loyal people you will ever meet. They can also be dangerous. Why, you ask. Because they already know what they are capable of and they no longer have to pretend. Knowledge, to the loner, is not intimidating. It is simply another opportunity to realize the strength of solitude.

Never look down on the loner. And loners, never look down on the social butterflies either.

It’s better if we work together and appreciate our differences. That’s where true intelligence and loyalty lie.

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Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.




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5 Comments

  1. Priya Patel June 29, 2016 at 7:06 pm - Reply

    This definitely made me feel better! Thanks for sharing!

  2. Slappy July 27, 2016 at 6:00 pm - Reply

    First type, yes that’s me. I’m a musician, majored in Science and Arts, woodworker, handyman, chef.

  3. Martha September 6, 2016 at 6:31 am - Reply

    I was definitely the first type in my younger years. Now I definitely see myself as blend of theater with stronger leanings toward the second type. Thank you for writing this article.

  4. Thomas October 24, 2016 at 11:46 am - Reply

    Yes I’m defiantly the second type I thought I was alone and didn’t know what was wrong with me for so long do you have any advice for someone who is still trying to figure all this out… I don’t say this often but I need your help

  5. Prinz January 26, 2017 at 3:34 pm - Reply

    I live in a community where everyone thinks you’re “the devil” i.e full of evil thoughts simply because you much prefer solitude. I completely think my world is a better place with no one involved in my life and I have no plans whatsoever of ditching that personal conviction. I totally disagree when I hear people say “no one is an island”. I just hope that people get to realise facts gradually.

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