Sometimes it is very difficult to objectively analyze a personal problem. This is where various useful techniques can help you sort through the painful issue. In this article we will take a look at an effective way of analyzing a painful problem by Lise Bourbeau.
The bottom line is to very thoughtfully answer several questions. Such self-analysis offers to determine the causes of the disease, but you can use it for solving problems in other areas of life, simply by
replacing the word “disease” by the word “situation”.
1. What adjectives best describe my state at the moment?
Do not worry about how it will look. It may be “heavy”, “gloomy as the weather”, “horrible”, “sharp”, “aggressive”. Asking yourself this question, you will be able to better understand the physical basis of the situation. If you wrote that you are having a “nervous, difficult, frustrating feeling,” this is exactly what you experience every time you encounter this situation or condition.
2. What does this situation/illness compel me to?
The answer to this question should have a negative meaning. For example, “to stay away from people,” “not to go out”, “not to eat ice cream,” etc. When you write all the answers, you will be able to see exactly which your desires are blocked by this situation or the disease.
For example, if you have the flu, then the disease will prevent you from going to work. That is, your physical body blocks the desire to get from home to go to work.
3. If this wish came true, what would change in my life?
You are using the locked desire of the previous question (“not to go to work”) and imagine what would happen if you do went there. What exactly would change in your life, you chose a different version of events?
“If I went to work, I would have finished the report and would finally get a promotion.”
There may be several options. Once you write down all of them, you will understand that these are your underlying needs that are locked by some false beliefs. We have a lot of them and they are very difficult to identify, so such kind of self-analysis will open your eyes to yourself.
4. If I allowed myself to … (here you put the answer from the previous question), what terrible would happen in my life?
“If I finally finished writing a report and got a promotion, all my friends and colleagues would start to envy me and would turn away from me.”
The answer to the fourth question will help you understand what kind of false “mental block” closes the road to the realization of your goal. In our example, a person really wants to get a promotion, but the fear of losing good relations with his colleagues prevents him from it. And the disease in this case is only an external obstacle. The point is that this person in fact does not even know for sure how his friends would react to his promotion, so it is only his judgment.
After this self-analysis many things fall into place, and you better understand your own motivations.
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