3 Things Psychopaths Say to Make You Feel Crazy

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Although many people think psychopaths are serial killers and mass murderers, it’s actually a term used for a personality type who fulfil basic non-violent criteria.

Psychopaths are all around us, including our politicians, local business men & women and that person you sat next to on the bus this morning. Anybody can be a psychopath, but that doesn’t mean they’re going to go and commit serious crimes any time soon. In fact, only 20-25% of prisoners are psychopaths, meaning the term really doesn’t have anything to do with having a violent or criminal nature.

So what actually makes somebody a psychopath? Well, traits such as being very charismatic and charming, having little to no empathy and a grandiose sense of self-worth are clues that somebody is a psychopath but generally, they can be quite difficult to spot.

The best way to explain a psychopath is to say that they are master manipulators who can modify their own personalities and behaviours in order to become exactly the person you want them to be.

Here are some things psychopaths commonly say to manipulate you into thinking you’re going crazy:

1. “You read too much into everything.”

If you have certain suspicions and somebody tells you that you are reading too much into it, they may be right. However, if you’re right about a psychopath and they’re telling you that you are over-analysing something, more often than not, they’re manipulating you into thinking you’re the one in the wrong so that they can get away with whatever it is you’re suspecting them of.

For example, they may intentionally flirt with somebody in front of you then when you react the way they knew you would, they tell you that you’re overreacting and reading too much into the situation. Whether they do it purposefully or not, psychopaths are often making you feel insecure about things, then blaming you for that anxiety.

2. “I hate drama, you’re always arguing”

Psychopaths are perpetually bored, so they create drama and problems within relationships just to stir things up a bit. Then, once you react to certain things they’ve caused, they accuse you of starting drama and/or always wanting to argue. Again, they may not be consciously doing this, but it’s a pattern of behaviour that will play on repeat throughout the relationship.

3. “You’re crazy”

A psychopath will often do things to stir up trouble, plant seeds of doubt in your mind and leave you feeling insecure about yourself and your relationship – then they’ll call you crazy for reacting to it.

A prime example is they will plant seeds of doubt that they are texting other people, so when you happen to glance at their texts to reassure yourself, they notice and call you out on it, claiming you’re crazy and/or controlling. Pay close attention to the way they speak about their exes in this scenario, as it can give you a big hint to the way they behave.

Psychopaths are master manipulators and without consciously meaning to, they can create endless problems in your life. If you have somebody who is currently making you feel any of the above, it may well be time to assess your relationship. Let me know in the comments if you can identify with any of these points or if you have any of your own to add.

References:

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Christina

I'm a psychology student with a passion for books, good food and movies. I can often be found reading self-help articles snuggled up in bed with a cup of coffee or writing about anything and everything in a quiet cafe somewhere.




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22 Comments

  1. Jack Hockaday May 3, 2016 at 10:40 pm - Reply

    Hiya

    I have been very interested in your article that you wrote and it’s been very helpful. Thanks

    Jack

  2. Mitzi Dixon May 4, 2016 at 7:32 pm - Reply

    My boyfriend will purposely set up text messages between him an another female of sexual content for me to find. In other words set me up to get hurt for going thru his phone and treat me like I’m crazy when I don’t trust him.

    • Anton Frost May 5, 2016 at 6:57 am - Reply

      Find your self esteem and leave him. He doesn’t respect you.

    • Karen Weigle December 27, 2016 at 8:04 pm - Reply

      He likely has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Save yourself now.

  3. DL May 5, 2016 at 8:03 am - Reply

    My wife to the exact

  4. Neha May 6, 2016 at 2:41 pm - Reply

    I think all of the above defines me. What should I do?

  5. Joe N0b0dy May 6, 2016 at 4:05 pm - Reply

    you missed some: “you are imagining things” / “are you sure or did you just dream that” / “no, that’s not what happened, your remembering it wrong”, these are often accompanied with “again!” or “like always!” or “like you did with xx that time!”

  6. Iftikhar Qayum May 6, 2016 at 4:25 pm - Reply

    Thanks. Very illuminating. Come to think of it, I can now identify a few people in my life who would fit that category..!

  7. Bhim May 9, 2016 at 12:01 pm - Reply

    Is always blaming others a symptom of Psychopath? I see many blaming others even they don’t know the truth and only creating imaginary stories inside their head. It feels like characteristics to be detective!
    Can it be cured?

  8. Karen Weigle December 27, 2016 at 8:08 pm - Reply

    Many of you are describing Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Only God Himself can heal these people. I barely survived.

  9. Lexa December 28, 2016 at 8:16 pm - Reply

    I have a problem,my boyfriend and me often arguing,and I am the one he blames to be the cause of those arguments 99%.And how it starts,he will begin conversation,then will offend me 2-3 times and I react get upset and may cry.And I left with quilt felling that’s all because of me.

  10. Lexa December 28, 2016 at 8:19 pm - Reply

    And I caught myself on actually feeling lost ,thinking am crazy one and afraid to show my personality not to cause anything,like put myself in the box,but even then he finds a reason.

  11. Jord Douglas May 26, 2017 at 12:32 pm - Reply

    Just what I needed to know!

  12. Hollie Sue May 26, 2017 at 12:58 pm - Reply

    I knew one….lol

  13. Keylan Jenkins May 26, 2017 at 1:03 pm - Reply

    Totally true! I call them crazy makers

  14. Thaddeus Getman May 26, 2017 at 2:02 pm - Reply

    They say, “You’re crazy.”
    Thanks for that info.

  15. Jacqui Mitchell White May 26, 2017 at 11:26 pm - Reply

    I was married to a narcissistic psychopath it does your head in, all the lies and emotional abuse. If you have children with them it’s even worse they control and alienate you from your own children. If they have the money they have the power over you.

  16. Christopher Hernandez May 27, 2017 at 2:17 am - Reply

    Man according to this. I date nothing but Psychopaths. life makes sense now

  17. Robin Weeks Pagliasotti May 27, 2017 at 10:43 am - Reply

    This is called gaslighting, look it up. Very damaging.

  18. Finnish woman September 18, 2017 at 3:22 pm - Reply

    I dated one this summer. Everything started with exciting dates with wine in restaurants. He seemed to be sociable etc.fun at 1st. Constant messaging and come here and there and let’s go to America together. Blah blah. Then I noticed flirting with another women and texts in his phone. Suddenly at the end of this summer everything stopped to a brickwall after I visited his place in another town. I noticed he lied his age for example. Just like the pattern goes with psychopaths. He is succeeding and owning a plastic surgery company. Sadly ..it’s again and again new victims. Younger women. Children he has done with different moms..no intention being together with the moms.

  19. another victim November 21, 2017 at 11:43 pm - Reply

    I filed for a divorce after 13 years of this exact treatment from my husband whom I found out had been cheating with his ex wife dinner dates and riding in his semi with him all the while trying to rape me every time he came home like he was punishing me. Do believe after all the lines and torture he has played on me when he would come off the road that he has progressed to a serial rapist. The thing I didn’t see here but have become aware of is how maliciously they PLAN out their horrifically terrifying cruel retaliations for you if you disagree, call them out on their lies and excuses, prove your suspicions of their cheating with, most of the time,several victims even to the point of threatening to kill those who informed you of their actions. I am terrified every day, for real, yet he is the one playing the game that he is, reversing all the traits of himself over to me and very good at convincing others I am the psycho, crazy one. I could truly write a book of the many types of abuse I have been through in this time always scared to tell anyone as he is sooo good has had me thrown in jail twice because “the stories were so far apart” is what the officer told me. They inflict injuries on themselves to make sure if you call the police that you go to jail too. Their minds never take a break from plotting their next game to hurt you or anyone near to you. They know exactly what you are going to say cause you don’t lie like they do, so they can easily fabricate a story the opposite cause this is what they are masters at. I have months to go til divorce supposedly will be final, I say supposedly because I do not believe this nightmare will ever end and if it does I might not exist anymore.

  20. another victim November 21, 2017 at 11:52 pm - Reply

    forgot to say I called the cops for sexual assault, sometimes even ductaped my mouth shut so I couldn’t scream, trying to choke me so I would pass out so he could rape me when unconcioius only to unbeleivably be charged with domestic abuse.

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