20 Tips on How to Build Self-Confidence

///20 Tips on How to Build Self-Confidence

build self confidenceOne of the things that keep people from changing their life is the fear of failure and lack of self-confidence to overcome this fear. Here are effective 20 tips on how to develop self-confidence. Of course, you do not have to do everything from this list, but just pick the tips you like most and try them.

1. Think positively.

By changing one thing you can change your whole life. Try to look at yourself and the world in a more peaceful and positive way. Accept yourself and others for what they are and try to see the positive side in every situation.

2. Know thyself.

You cannot conquer fear, without knowing it well. Keep a journal about yourself and your thoughts, try to be honest with yourself. Then analyze your thoughts and events of the past days and weeks, and maybe you will see the cause-effect relationships. Think what is stopping you from changing or making a new step.

3. Do not just think, but act.

In addition to the positive thinking you have to put it into action. In fact, actions are the key to the development of self-confidence. Initially, you learn to think positively, then your actions change.

4. Be kind and gentle.

Being kind to others is a powerful way to improve self-esteem. You start to feel good, thinking that you are a good person.

5. Know your principles and goals.

Can you name the principles which your life is built on? What are your goals? If you cannot easily answer these questions, think on who you are, why did you come to this world for. A person of principle is a confident person. The one who knows short-term and long-term goals of his life is a successful person.

6. Improve your posture.

Try to always keep your back straight. When you walk with a straight back, looking in front of you, and not on the ground, it gives you confidence.

7. Set a small goal and achieve it.

People often make a mistake when they set too big goals, then fail and give up. Instead, set more realistic goals and try to achieve them. With your every victory you will gain self-confidence.

8. Change some habits.

In the beginning, try not to deal with big habits, such as smoking. Change little habits, such as waking up 30 minutes earlier than usual. It should be something that you surely can do.

9. Focus on solutions.

If you like complaining or focusing on your problems, change it now. Focus on solutions to the problems, not on the problems. For example, instead of thinking “I’m lazy”, ask yourself where you can get more energy from.

10. Smile.

Your life is not so bad as you think, and there is always a reason to smile. Be happy and positive. Thus, you help not only yourself but also others.

11. Be thankful.

Be thankful for what you have in life, starting with the most obvious things such as family, health, etc. Be grateful for life itself and people will feel it in you.

12. Self-education.

Investments in yourself are one of the best strategies for creating self-confidence. You can do this in many ways, but one of the most reliable ways is to expand your knowledge. Internet is a wonderful tool, and of course, there are lots of informative books, magazines and newspapers.

13. Observe yourself.

Notice how you gesticulate and move. Do you look your interlocutor in the eyes? Do you interrupt him? Do love to give advice to others, while complaining about your own life? Be honest with yourself and then things can change.

14. Be active.

Doing something is better than doing nothing. Of course, when doing something, you can fail or make a mistake, but mistakes are part of life, and we learn from them. So do not worry about it. Just start doing something – sports, art, new job, parenting, travelling, learning a foreign language – anything you want, if it fills your life with new colors.

15. Sit in the first rows.

Often people try to take the place in the back whether it is a lecture, presentation or meeting. It is caused by a subconscious fear of being watched. Struggle this fear and develop the habit of sitting in the first rows.

16. Establish contacts.

Learn to communicate and to be first to make contact. This will help to get more self-confidence and expand the circle of acquaintances.

17. Public speaking.

Most people are afraid of public speaking, though this is a good way to enhance self-confidence. Take the floor at meetings and presentations and do not be afraid to ask questions.

18. Any comparisons with others.

There is no point in comparing yourself to others. It is useful to compare yourself only to your yesterday self.

19. Tell compliments.

Unfortunately, we do not often hear praise and compliments, though we all deserve it. And it negatively affects our self-confidence. Start telling compliments to others and it will return to you.

20. Spiritual practice.

Spiritual practice will not only help you deal with your fears and self-doubt, but also learn yourself and your purpose of life, as well as find peace and harmony in life.

Some tips may seem useful to you, some not. This is not the point. The point is to start changing and moving to a new life. Try them and you will definitely get to build self-confidence, and most importantly, change yourself and your life!


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Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.


  1. Meg Bertini March 14, 2013 at 1:20 am - Reply

    What an insightful and helpful list! I particularly like smiling and complimenting others. Anything that gets your mind away from your worries about your confidence is very helpful!

  2. Jerermy August 20, 2014 at 1:23 pm - Reply

    This just reading it is making me feeling better already

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