Self-confidence is one of the key personal qualities necessary for success. Here are 5 ways to develop self-confidence, presented in the book The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. Use them in life, and you will certainly become successful.
1. Sit in the front rows
Usually in lectures, conferences, briefings and seminars the back rows of the classroom are filled first. People who sit in the front rows are not afraid to stand out from the crowd. Because they believe in their intellectual abilities, manners and appearance. So, to gain confidence in yourself prefer the first rows!
2. Express your opinion
There are many bright and talented people (sitting in the same conferences and workshops) who for whatever reason are afraid to express their opinions in order to avoid saying something stupid, not to seem ridiculous, etc.
Each time a person wants to say something and says nothing, he injects himself with a portion of the poison that kills confidence.
And vice versa: the more you speak, the more confident you become, so after each time you find it more and more easy to speak in public. Voicing your opinion, you take a vitamin which strengthens confidence.
Make rule to express your opinion in every public meeting you attend. Speak voluntarily, without being asked to. Do not make exceptions. Ask questions, make suggestions and comments. And do not be the last to express your thoughts, be the first.
And do not think that you will look silly. You are an intellectually developed adult and have your opinions, which have the right to be expressed.
3. Make eye contact
How to develop self-confidence? Look in the eyes of other people. The way a person looks says a lot. You instinctively begin to doubt a man who does not look in your eyes. What is he hiding? What is he afraid of? Does he want to cheat your or to hide something from you?
If a person is not looking in the eyes of his interlocutor he seems to say: “I am weaker than you. I am insignificant. I am afraid of you” or “I feel guilty. I have done or harboured in my mind something that I want to hide. If I look in your eyes, you will see right through me.”
If you look straight in the eyes of your interlocutor, you are expressing confidence and openness.
4. Walk with confidence
Psychologists say that a languid gait is associated with a negative attitude toward oneself and the world around him. But by changing your posture and gait you can turn a negative attitude into a positive one. All the actions of the body is a result of the psyche. “Chronic losers” have a shuffling, stumbling gait. Their confidence is close to zero.
“Middling people” have a “mediocre” gait. With their movements it is just like they are saying: “I have no reason to be proud of myself.”
But there is a third type of people. They seem to radiate confidence. They walk with poise, and their look is saying: “I’m going to an important place to do important things and to do them well.”
Spread the shoulders, straighten up, lift your head, speed up the step and you will feel a surge of confidence.
5. Smile broadly
Develop the habit of smiling. Whatever the circumstances are, the smile is the strongest weapon of self-confidence.
A broad smile gives a sense of confidence, overcomes fear, does away with anxiety and eliminates despondency and despair.
Smile widely and you will feel that “the good times have come”. Smile with all thirty-two teeth! Such smile is a guarantee of success.