If you are an empath, you may struggle with conflict resolution. These techniques can help you overcome conflict without causing pain to yourself or others.
Empaths hate to upset people. This is because they will feel the other person’s emotions and suffer guilt for causing another’s pain. This can make it difficult for empaths to manage conflict resolution and get their needs met.
Unfortunately, this can lead to empaths being unable to stick up for themselves and create healthy boundaries. They will often put up with bad behaviour just to keep the peace.
Luckily, there are techniques that empaths can use to help with conflict resolution. These techniques can help them be true to themselves without causing unnecessary pain to others.
Here are five reasons why conflict resolution is difficult for empaths and effective techniques to master them.
1. You are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings
Empaths feel the emotions of others very deeply. So, if they upset someone else they experience both their own pain and the pain of the other person. So, it is little wonder that empaths avoid conflict at all costs. The irony is that empaths are actually better at dealing with conflict because of their empathetic nature.
Many people don’t care if they hurt someone else as long as they win the argument. Empaths are not like that. They can see things from the other person’s point of view and take a balanced view of disputes.
2. You can’t deal with people being angry with you
Many empaths are also highly sensitive. They react badly to other people being angry with them. For this reason, they will often not speak up when another person treats them badly. Unfortunately, the people we interact with soon learn this about empaths and know that simply a hint of anger will shut down the argument.
To overcome this is not easy for an empath. But ultimately, it comes down to learning to respect yourself and value who you are. When you are confident in your own abilities, you are less easily traumatized by another person’s anger.
Improving your self-confidence with a book or course can help. You can also use breathing techniques and grounding techniques to help you feel safe and calm in the face of another person’s anger.
3. Empaths can be easily manipulated
Because empaths dislike conflict so much, they can get easily flustered in an argument or dispute. They can then have their words twisted and manipulated until they feel they are the one in the wrong.
To overcome this, it can help empaths to write down their problems before discussing them with another person. This can help them stick to their point without being manipulated into feeling like they are in the wrong.
A simple statement of the problem or bullet point list can help. If you find yourself getting flustered, take a deep breath and glance at your statement or list to help you get back on track.
4. Empaths see all sides of the story
Because empaths can put themselves in another person’s shoes so easily, they can sometimes lose sight of their own identity, feelings and needs. The other person’s needs seem more important than their own. This makes it difficult for an empath to stick up for their own wishes.
There isn’t a simple solution to this problem. However, you can improve your conflict resolution skills with some time and work. The secret is to spend time alone getting to know yourself better. Once you have a clearer sense of identity, your own values, and of what is important to you, it will be easier for you to stay true to yourself.
5. You become overwhelmed
Often the emotions that happen in an argument or conflict are too much for an empath to deal with. Sometimes an empath will become overcome with strong emotions making them sob with despair and frustration. They will then leave the situation, unable to cope with it any longer, and abandon their attempt to be heard and understood.
Often empaths avoid conflict for so long that when they finally can’t stay quiet a moment longer they are already in a highly emotive state. The best approach to overcoming this is to deal with small problems as they arise rather than letting them build up.
It’s also wise to only begin a conversation that may involve conflict when feeling relatively calm. Once you are in a conflict situation, stick to only one point and keep bringing the conversation back to that so that you don’t feel overwhelmed.
They key for empaths to improve their conflict resolutions skills is to stay objective about the situation without letting emotions cloud their judgements. Avoid feeling words such as hate, upset or sad. Stick to the problem at hand and discuss it with the other person in a rational and objective way.
Empaths are actually very good at conflict resolution. Their ability to see someone else’s point of view and empathise with them means they are great mediators and diplomats.
However, when they are the person in a conflict, they can often struggle. The best advice is to work on your own sense of identity, values, goals and self-confidence. Doing this will make you feel more secure in yourself and more easily able to deal with negativity from others.
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