What do the dreams of the deceased mean? Are they actually messages from the spirit world or just a product of our subconsciousness?

Two years ago, something terrible happened in our family – my grandfather had a stroke. He fell into a coma and eventually died two days later. This profoundly shocked all of us not only because grandpa was deeply loved and respected by everybody who had the luck to know him but also because we couldn’t imagine that he would go so early and so suddenly.

Shortly after this tragic event, I started to have weird dreams. I was seeing myself visiting my grandpa at his home and feeling quite confused – I was simultaneously glad that he was there again and puzzled trying to understand how it was possible.

In my dreams, he never said a word and replied to my questions about him being there with an enigmatic smile.

My view of what happens after death

These dreams were so regular that I began to wonder whether this might be my grandpa’s soul trying to communicate. If I was a religious person, I would certainly believe that it was so. But I don’t really agree with the views on soul and afterlife as promoted by most of the world religions.

I tend to think that human consciousness – everything that makes us who we are, including our thoughts, memories, and beliefs – is a kind of energy that leaves the body at the moment of death and gets dispersed in the surrounding environment. This basically means that a person’s energy can exist literally everywhere for some time after death and eventually finds itself becoming part of another, newborn creature.

You may think that this sounds quite similar to the known theory of reincarnation; however, the difference is that, in my opinion, it’s not the same soul that makes its journey through ages, traveling from one body to another, but rather a composition of different people’s energies that carries the experiences of multiple lives and individuals.

Moreover, I believe that it’s not only human energy that makes up each person’s consciousness but that all living beings on our planet participate in this eternal cycle of energy exchange. That’s why after death, a person’s soul returns to its starting point and becomes part of the environment again in order to reborn in a new body, saturated by the energies of the Mother Earth and other living creatures.

But let’s go back to the dreams of the deceased.

I wondered whether my grandfather was trying to send me a message or at least to say that he was fine and happy wherever he was.

I supposed that shortly after death, a soul might be in an intermediate state, unable to have the same strong bond with its body and the material world as before but capable of interacting with the living ones. Those who happen to have lost someone will agree that it’s much more comforting to think that your dear one continues to exist somewhere else, far from here, than to think that they have gone forever.

Analysis of the dreams of the deceased

However, after some time, when I began to get used to the fact of my grandpa’s death, I got a chance to look at those dreams in a more rational way. I realized that there was the same pattern in all of them – my grandpa being silent and me having confused feelings.

Yes, unfortunately, it was purely the work of the subconscious mind and had nothing to do with the afterlife. During the last years of my grandfather’s life, I didn’t visit him often and thus found it even more difficult to accept his death than those who were next to him till his last minute.

I refused to believe that the next time I would visit my grandparents’ home, my grandpa wouldn’t be there, and my subconscious mind was trying to show me this confrontation between my expectations (grandfather being there) and the reality (my confusion).

So, if you have recurring dreams of the deceased too, first of all, analyze the content of your dreams and try to find similar patterns in events, surroundings, and your feelings. I know that the idea that your deceased friend or family member is trying to communicate with you may be exciting, but in most cases, it’s the work of your subconscious and not a message from the other side.

It is always hard to accept a less attractive truth, especially in the beginning when the pain of loss is still intense, but it’s necessary to let go of the past and find the courage to go on.

If you have had a similar experience, please share your thoughts in the comments below.

Anna LeMind, B.A.

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    Hi I dreamt of my son who committed suicide 7 years ago, we at s home with his dad sisters, I see my son arrive, I call out to him, he’s ecstatic at seeing me, hugs me, he then has some flower petals, say its for the funeral of the guy he works for, as he turns to go, one side of his face is injured, I ask and he tells me he got hurt st work, but I Dnt believe him. He’s busy working with wood, then some how I see my late mum, she does not say much, but asks me to get flowers for my son,’s boss for the funeral, I see my sister in laws acting indifferently towards me, I’m hurt at their behaviour, they are eating potato savouries, offer everyone else but me. I’m hurt, but leave to go get the flowers, I ask an ex landlady of my parents if I can break flowers from her garden, she agrees asks who passed away, I lie to her and tell her my parents best friends husband. I feel ashamed it !y dream for lying. I start braking the flowers, pretty pale colors, then the white one I break only petals, I get the flowers and take them to give to the family of my son’s boss, I had it to a young white boys. I get back home and see my husbands sisters talking behind my back, I feel deep pain as I loved them as sisters in now in reality. My sleep breaks.

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      Thank you for sharing.

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    11 years after my grandfather who I was with every day and loved to death died. I was 17 at the time anyways I wasn’t happy about it i wasn’t ready for him to go as he fell ill very quick. Bothered me a lot for a few years until the dreams started. I’m not religious and don’t believe in life after desth. After the first dream like you said I was very very confused. In the dream I know he’s there but I can’t see him and I always ask him what are you doing back here but I get no reply. as if I know he’s not supposed to be in my dream. But when I wake up I always feel very happy for days just thinking about him. Had one last week.bored in bed came across this happy dreams everyone. Ps and out of all the people I know who have died it’s only him I dream of.

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    I often dream of my first husband. I had not seen my first husband in twenty years before he passed away. Yet I dream about him at least once a week. He’s walking away and I’m chasing him saying wait don’t go I love you. He stops and says I loved you for always. And the I wake up.

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      My dad, who committed sucicide about 5 or 6 years ago just visited me in my dream. Every once in a while he does. Some people say it might be sad to see him but in reality it’s the best feeling you can encounter. To this day I still cry about him and, in fact, I’m crying right now. I can not tell you the pain I felt when he died, I have two sisters and my mom was devastated. A lot of people think suicide is a selfish act but when it actually happens to you, you know it was not at all that. One time I saw him in my dream and and I thought he was still alive but then I looked at my step dad. I want to know how to visit him more and I still feel that I can keep a connection with him even if he is deceased. I hope I never have to experience that pain again, especially at age 5.

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    I’m scared really scared the same dream of my mother who passed 2003. I’m always driving and the the road become really narrow and we are going to fall off into a cliff or something the road is now big rocks. I can’t take it it’s occuring almost every night or it a bridge over water but it always the same in a way. Like I said I’m scared

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    My husband passed away 4/2/12. Now I’m getting dreams that he’s alive and our life is “back”. We talk, interact, everything as usual – but only within our walls. The outside world in never in play but within the dreams I realize & know that in the outside arena – he is still dead & gone to everyone else. So I’m confused. In my last dream I tried to discuss this with him. About him being alive again but only with our world that know one else knows or would understand. The dreams are never scary, always enjoyable but a sad retminder of his death upon waking.

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    Michelle Krohn

    Michelle January 29, 2018
    My sweetheart (husband) passed away 2 years ago. Lately I dream of him being in familiar places like in Florida, or travelling. He appears to be very young and life is as it was many years ago. They are not scary dreams, because .I have no regrets.We were happily married for 58 years. We vowed to love each other into eternity; even on the last day he said: I love you so. I wish I could be with him and I am hoping the dreams are a sign that I can join him soon.

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    My deceased husband visits me often in my dreams. Trying to decipher it is maddening.
    We knew I would have to sell our house upon his death. I moved to another state to be near children.
    I used most of the money to relocate and purchase another home. In this reoccurring dream it is always the same. He comes back, there was a mix up and he was presumed dead. He wants to know in a demanding way… where’s the money from the sale of the house, he wants it now.. he wants all his stuff and he is an angry person I never experienced. I’m panicked because I can’t cough up the money! It is not a good dream but it is always the same. I never sleep anymore for fear I’ll have this same disturbing nightmare. Guidance please!!!

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    I had a dream last night,that I was setting in a large living room and talking to several friends and relatives and we were just talking and I finally realized these people all was dead. This bothers me a lot.


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    lisa hayes

    I had an amazing dream about my parents about a year after they died. My parents died 10 days apart and I had no living siblings. I was with my mom as she passed. I played her favorite hymns during the last hours of her time on earth. She tried to sing along but all she could do was make sounds. It was a beautiful sendoff. However, I was not in the room with my father when he died. I was asleep in another bedroom. It has always bothered me knowing he was alone when he died.
    Here is my dream. My parents are living in a beautiful home inside and out. The home was very spacious and they had a lot of people taking care of them, the house, and the grounds.
    My father was always quite about his faith and when asked if he was saved he would say “that is personal.” But in my dream I was able to ask him one last time if he was saved. He did not speak the words instead it was like two minds speaking to each other. In my dream my father told me he was saved.
    I can’t tell you how peaceful I felt after my dream. I believe the beautiful house and land represented Heaven. The people who were taking care of my parents were either their guardian angels or other loved ones who had passed on. The dream gave me great peace and comfort.
    This has not been the only dream about loved ones who had passed on. Some have been warnings of events which had not happened and for telling of my pregnancy.

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    Christie Robinson

    I have had a dream about my son who passed 10years ago due to an accidental overdose,in my dreams he is in the hospital about to have surgery on his heart ,can anyone tell me what this means

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      Lisa Perry

      Maybe he is having trouble knowing how difficult it has been for you to cope with his loss. Maybe he is waiting for you to find your peace before he will accept his own peace. And that he is sorry and it hurts to see you in such pain. And it’s his way to thank you for being his mom and that it wasn’t you’re fault because you were the best mom he could have ever hoped for. That’s what I think your dream means. He wishes you peace and comfort in his memories and every thought of him brings a smile to your face.

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    I had a good friend die this past week. He committed suicide and since I found out I hve been dreaming that I am in the woods with him standing in the distant watching without him realizing him doing this awful thing. I have never been in the woods where he did it nor did I find him but every night now he is in my dreams and I have to watch that horrific thing happen over and over again

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    I had a dream about a dead friend who gave me life changing advice and I became wealthy,I attribute my success to the clue to my destiny I received from my beloved fiends career path advice…..thanks chuck.rip…..in the dream he told me I was wasting my talent working for someone else.months later I got my own shop and now employ over 30 employees and my shop makes about $10,000 a week.if not for this advice I would be back being poor.making money for someone else.if I could have my friend back I ould gladly be poor again.

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    Within a year after my son passed away at 27 in a motorcycle accident (2011) I had a dream, he came to me wearing a silly winter hat, smiling and telling me where he has traveled and that he even snow skied on the alps. He was speaking different languages but I understood him. He was so happy. Since then he has come to me in 2 dreams briefly just to wave at me through a window. One, I recall, he was on a road grater type tractor. My son loved life and if there was an opportunity to go somewhere & try something new he was there. He was also always willing to help someone, even if he didn’t know you. I think it is his way of telling me he is truly happy and getting to do things that he loves.

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    Jessie Blucher

    I dreamt last night that my brothers and mom somehow brought my father back to life after 21 years of passing just to surprise me. When my father and I make eye contact I can see him holding back his tears. I’m a mess, the moment i see my dad standing there right before me, but when my 4 kids come out of the house, and the moment he sees them he breaks down crying. He and I have a long hug crying and he is really sobbing hugging each one of my kids. He spoke to me but his voice wasn’t really his, didn’t sound like how I remember… He tells me he loves me and his grandkids are so big and beautiful. While im crying I’m crying in real life. I know its a dream and i try to see what happenes next, but right away my dream shifts into another dream completely unrelated. This is the 3rd dream I had since he passed away.

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    breefuls (Aubrey)

    When I was 22yrs old (now going to be 30yrs old in a month), my ex passed away. We had been together from the age of 13yrs always til I was 3months away from turning 21. I moved in with him and his dad when I was 16, they saved me from a life of everyday abuse. When we broke up, we stayed best friends even though I moved out, and spent tons of time together. Before his death, I had visited his house, but didn’t get to see him, as he wasn’t feeling well. I talked to his best friend (also one of my closest friends from childhood), and left calling upstairs to him that I would see him in a few days, he called back to me a goodbye. That was the last time I saw him. He was in a coma 2 days later, 3 days after that we were told he was brain dead. I spent everyday going to the hospital to play his favorite music, and his dad and I made the decision together to pull the plug on 3-3-11, as he would have liked the numbers (3 has always been my favorite, he liked 12 and repeating numbers). I made a playlist with his iPod 8hrs long of all his music, as people came in to say goodbye. After 5hrs of music and goodbyes, his dad and I followed him to the operation prep, and were the last ones to say good by. We threw his ashes out his sunroof to his favorite song, on one of our favorite roads, going 120mph, on 3-12-11. He would have loved the freedom, the speed, the music, and everyone who was in the vehicle loved him. Since then, I spent the first 4yrs having dreams where he was near me, but I could never get to him. Like in the house or to a place I was always trying to get to. Then I found him in year 5. At first, he didn’t talk, just smiled or looked confused as I sobbed into him, going on about missing him, never wanting to leave his side again. Then about a year and a half ago, he began to talk. “Oh bree bree,” his nickname for me. He would comfort me, and began to nod or shake his head to questions. Now he says a little more when I find him. We’ll talk about good times, I’ll verbally throw up everything that’s he’s missed in music/comedy/shows/things he would love if he were here today. I still love dreams where u see him, the comfort is immeasurable. Both of us being atheists, life after death isn’t something we cared to believe we could sum up. There are traits that I have that remind me of him, from us growing up together, and I would like to think that though his energy has technically moved on, a part of him will always be here. It’s silly, and I don’t care nor know if it’s true. But that’s life, and those dreams, I hope I find him every once in a while forever. He’s always the same age, he had told me when we were only 19, something told him he wouldn’t make it past 22. He’ll be that age forever in my dreams and mind. I hope we meet again, even if I find him in someone else someday or in the next life.

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    I had a dream about my mom she has been gone for14 years ago the dream was that my sister and I and other people were there in the dream my sister was beating my mom with a belt buckle and I threatened my sister if she hit her again if you know what that means let me know

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    I have a friend who’s grandpa passed away on Saturday March 10th. The week after my friend carver’s grandpa passed away they had his grandpa’s funeral.

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    Lisa Perry

    My mother passed a year and a half ago. I dream of her all the time. I feel confused about it but then I think we’ll who cares your here let me show you something. She just smiles with this far away goofy look in here eyes and smile to match. I don’t understand that expression. I’ve had dreams of other passed loved ones and they don’t look like that. The only thing that is the same is non e of them actually speak and I always feel perplexed as to what they are doing there.

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    I had a dream last night. but, before i tell you theres a reason why i had this dream. Let me tell you what had happened to me not to long ago. 2-3 days ago had an arguement with my older sister. you know we have our disagreements we all went there but for me however i was in the right and she didnt take that very well,, she was drunk so she lay her hands on me an im 8 weeks and 3 days pregnant… (the baby is fine) This family really ruined my life.. ruined everything basically .. every single one of them (besides my bro hes autistic) had put there hands on me and all i have was my voice and the truth ( live with an abusive family)… so Now my dream, I was dreaming that i was fishing, and everytime i wake up (3times) i kept on dreaming i was fishing. I dont know why and i haven’t been gone fishing at all. I Fished out 2 similar fish and the other was different. Now, this what got me hella good, the meaning of this all… me having a horrible lifestyle when i was a kid till now Sooner or later (They’ll Be Sleeping With The Fishes.. ) My Name is Joyce J Blea im 24 years old and i do believe in dreams.

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    My ex husband passed away, will be now 2 years in june.

    My now fience says i have long conversations with him very clearly in my sleep. In the past year, And many many times this has happened. Which concerns me. I only remember ever having 2 dreams of him since he passed on. And we never spoke in these 2 dreams but only him myself and our daughter are in the dream. And i see him playing with her outside. Something he never did because he was so sick.

    A bit of some history:
    We were married 13 years before our devorce was final.we had 1 child who is disabled. Turns out he was already ingaged to a ( at one point) close friend of mine before the devorce was final.
    He had ended up marrying her yet died unexpectadly1 week after marrying her. Not to his failing health but to complications from a car crash he had while my daughter was away on a vacation with his sister. ( she was only 7 years old then).

    While our marage was falling apart He always had accused me of cheating on him with (a then) friend of mine. i had told him that we had one kiss, but nothing ever happened past that. We stayed friends only a short while until i completly stoped talking to him because i ended up being hospitalized due to depression and he made me undergo shock therapy treatments which caused my memory to fail for a while. He even tried to say i was mentaly unstable and could not care for myself or mychild and i actualy alowed him to take custody of her because i began to believe him. i never new i actually had some postpartum depression that never got diagnosed until recently, and bipolar disorder which i never new i had also acompanied by cronic pain.

    Before he passed i had gotten back on my feet. He started alowing me to see my daughter on some weekends. As soon as he died his family tried to keep our daughter from me. But we got the police involved and she was given directly to me. A long drawn out custody battle between his sister and i came to lite. but after over a year her lawyer droped her case and she backed out.
    Now my daughter is doing great. Shes doing better in school. We are very close.

    Back to the dreams:
    I never have any recolection of these dreams or conversations.
    Some of these dreams my fience tells me are deep or of a sexual nature. Hearing about them i get to wondering if there is some message or meaning behind them.

    He was very into the supernatural side of life. Burning sage and believed in spirits and that he said on ocations that he could see spirits. I sometimes thought he was a little “out there”.

    Now after what i am experiencing. I Wonder if maybe he is trying to contact me.

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    Hi, I wanted to talk to somebody about this because when a grandpa of mine died when I was nearly 3, I had a dream that I was with him. He had died in an airplane crash. My dream was that I was with him trying to find his airplane keys after the crash. Come to find out, later, somebody had stolen the keys from his crash site. (in real life) And, sometimes when I’m told this, I have a weird feeling in my chest and I found something that told me where you feel you emotions. It told me I would feel genetic or ancient memories in that same place I get the weird feeling. Please help me find answers to how this happens and why. Thanks! 🙂

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    Farid Azam

    I think that the dreams of the deceased relatives or friends are not always the work of the subconscious mind. In July 1992, when my mother died, she physically appeared to with my cousin sister and even touched her shoulder. In April 2011, my deceased uncle continuously kept communicating through lucid dreams for many days till I told him to stop. Some deceased relatives appear in dreams on specific occasions to remind us. It seems that universe is a computer.

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    i was asleep but woke up cause was haveing a dream that there were black people standing in my front yard so i went to go open my door and saw all this people just standing there as if they were waiting for someone cause everytime a car would pass they would trun to look to see and when it wasnt who they were waiting for then they would look at me and smile i dont no what this means

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      Do some research about the state and city and the grounds that you live on. There may be some history of the area that you’re unaware of and is trying to tell you something.

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    Very interesting read, my Grandad recently died (19th of May) and I didn’t get a chance to see him much before the end due to University and ever since, I have been dreaming about him. The dreams are not always the same and are quite often different but always end up with me waking myself up absolutely sodden with tears and still sobbing, with a huge ache/pain in my heart.

    Originally after the first few dreams I thought this was just part of the grieving process but it keeps happening and always results in the same way! I will keep an eye on it and analyse the content of these dreams more closely!

    Thanks for your post! 🙂

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    Charles R Henderson

    Well I had bad break up from x wife, but she want divorce me.. Last night I had dream of with 3 dead people in it, one being my cousin a male, my wife was in te dream but it didn’t look like her she was acting wierd. Then she was friends with second dead person who’s a female, over house now mind you my cousin and this female when they was alive was drug addicts.. Anyway I keep trying to get wife to tell why she’s around them and my cousin speaks up says tell him, my wife goes into another room but another female appears who is dead grabs my hand and tyies to explain to me how a piece of drugs slip down my wife throat and yelled my wifes name like are you saying she on drugs and I woke up

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    Teresa king

    Hi iv just lost my partner of 5 yrs suddenly on the 10th of aug 2018 who I loved very much and him me and the next night I dreamed of him coming to me telling me he woke up to come see me and tell me he had to go back to sleep that he didn’t have long he looked younger he looked really amazing and happy we walked about our area going into different pubs we knew in the area although was people there it was as if was just us I felt so good too see him so good he started to look tired I asked him to call his family before he went I held his face and saud u know ur really unwell he said yes I habe to go back too sleep I held him we cuddled and kissed said we loved each other then I woke up I remember saying I hope this isn’t a dream to myself..he had a brain hemerage and when he got found in house he was still breathing ambulance rushed him to hospital but after 3 hrs of working on him told us nothing could help him he was put on a life support machine and we had all rest of the night to stay with him that morning we were told after tests that it would have to be turned off I got in beside him held him in his bed and through night I felt he squeezed my hand a few times. I am hurting bad..but I never remember my dreams much and never as clear and real as this felt..what could it mean ?

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    Christy Carter

    I dreamed of my ex spouses grandfather. she was sitting in a chair at the home we used to live and visit him and his grandmother. He had decayed teeth ( but in real life he had dentures). I never saw him again after the divorce of my ex. I was very close to him and the grandmother. The grandfather kept warning me to wait 13 days before I decide to open my business and then everything should be ok. I want yo open a preschool but dint know why he told me this. Do you have answers?

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    Donna Brunsma

    I dreamt about my ex husband Greg and days later I learned he died on August 19th. We had not seen each other or had any contact in over ten years. I loved Greg so very much, but he had inner demons and battled alcoholism and anger issues which caused me to divorce him. Was he trying to get a message to me?

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    Wilma Goertemiller

    I constantly feel my Grandparents on my Dad’s side visiting me and watching over me, they died about 35 to 40 years. And each time they come visit me they let me know that they still love me and are protecting me and are waiting for me but to take my time about it

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    My grandmother passed away when I was a teenager. We were pretty close. Shortly after she passed, I had a dream of her. I do not recall too much of the dream as it was many years ago. What I do recall is quite vivid though. I remember the actual thoughts I was having in the dream. I remember being very upset seeing my grandmother and very sad she was dead. I recall telling myself this isn’t real and I’m dreaming but later in the dream I found out it was real(in my dreaming mind anyways?) and was shocked that it was real. I remember how she smiled at me and reassured me. I felt an extreme calm suddenly when she embraced me. Then, she looked into my eyes and said I’m going to tell you something very important. She said please remember this, whatever you do, don’t forget. Then she said the phrase “Seven Stones.” I really do not recall the entire conversation but that part I recall vividly. For some reason it was very important to her that I remember. There was a seriousness and almost desperation in her eyes and tone when she told me to remember. I recall this very vividly even many years later. However I have no clue what that phrase could mean or represent.

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    Here’s a mind blower:
    I just woke up and it was 6:45am here in Arkansas. It’s now 7:13am. I am baffled. My dream last night.

    I was laying in bed with my ex husband and got up started going about our day. Went to use the restroom and there wasn’t a toilet in the house besides the portable potty. Use the portable potty. Started heading back into the living room and there was a drive by shooting. My ex had gotten grazed on his neck but was fine. I floated off but came back to almost like I had fainted. So I’m sitting in my moms mom’s living room when my father’s mom ( never got to meet this woman) calls me and I have a tear rolling down my cheeck. Happy tears. She tells me she is flying in from Washington state and wants to meet the great grandkids. You would think I woke up by this point but nope. She arrives and we hug and talk. Now it goes back to my ex husband and his apparent need to be with other women. A woman shows up with her husband and 2yr old son. The guys get into a fight. After the fight, the other guy beats his old lady and leaned her there without hesitation and takes her kid. I tend to her as a nurture type of mom like thing and fix her crooked nose and helps her to the couch.

    I am awake and the only thing that baffles me is my dad’s mom calling and showing up. I got her message but I’m still like wowd.

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    Joni Janes

    My brother has been gone 25 years. I do not have a bit of guilt as i was devoted to him as he was to me. He hasn’t come often but each time he is in total peace. I see his dream visits as spiritual because they have been at some of my darkest hours. One time he sat beside me as i slept and it sermed as though he was there. He looked at me lovingly and said everything will be okay. Last night or rather very early as i was waking he came again. He looked so peaceful and content and was holding a baby. He didn’t say anything and his head slowly disappeared- I don’t know what the baby means but i would like to interpret it as new beginnings. I was in so much emotional pain and I believe he cane to comfort me. Do you think so?

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      Joni Janes

      My name is Joni James. I made a typo. Sorry.

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    I do believe in a mix of unciousness feelings in dreams but believe defenitely in the deceased visiting us,either to say goodbye or just to be with us for a while.
    I think in the last case it doesn t happen to often but if it does , the dream itself has a different “aura” , normally, dreams are surrounded in a bit of a hazy , foggy light, and one forgets oten details the moment one wakes up, which is sometimes very irritable but that is just the way dreams are and yes, often a reflexion of our( psycological )events of our daily lives,(thats the way i see it, iam not saying it is like that..)
    but the dreams inwhich the deceased appear are made of such a strong light, stronger than the sun and still one can look into this light without wearing sunglasses, without blinking,
    and when one wakes up, the memory of these dreams stays ingraved in the brain, till every detail, for ever.At least that is my experience, for me it is a sign of the spirit world, and one has to see it as a good good thing, that the place where they are is really a very happy place,again i see that way , and will not claim i m right.What i do know there is the difference between the “normal dream” and the “exceptional one” and it only happened twice to me to have a dream about a deceased loved one in that quality.
    I believe the foggy ones, although it sounds funny, are the ones who reach back to our unconciousness,and yes one can always relate them back, maybe to guilt, one s fobia s,control on life etc.

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    I had a dream of my dead Aunt. She was hugging me with joy, we were laughing like we use to. Then she kissed me on the lips, what does that mean?

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    I have a loved one is needed who passed away with a brain aneurysm two years ago. I have dream of him twice both times were completely differences. One he an I were among several other people, I didn’t know anyone. In my dream he was call luster. In life he was called mark. In my dream we walked an I told him I loved him he said he knows an he loved me . . He told me he was always with me no matter what . He wants me to be happy . I told him I wanted him with me . We kissed . I woke up crying . A hard cry .

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    Interesting article. I´ve had a similar dream with my dad who recently passed away- 3 weeks ago. I saw him in my dream, he was walking in opposite direction of mine- he didnt see me- when i saw him. i ran the other way to hug him and everything – he couldnt talk or didnt talk – he died of complications after open heart surgery because of a dilated aneurism- so in the dream he would only touch his heart constantly (i dont know if anxious or out of breath) This dream was yesterday and ive been thinking all day if he was trying to tell me something.
    my loss is huge and probably i will understand it is my subconscious and not my dad telling me something. However, I do feel his presence in various ocassions.

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    Clarissa Negron Griffin

    Hello my name is Clarissa I keep having dreams of my sister who passed away from stage four cancer she was only 49 years old I was there taking care of her until she took her last breath as she was fighting to hold on I told her it’s ok and let go. Was I wrong to say that I didn’t want her to suffer no more we were very close. In my dreams she telling me she is ok and she takes my hand and puts it on her heart to feel and I feel could it beating and I could hear it too. Please help me understand

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    Kai D

    I researched this, because I had a dream of my dead sister last night. My sister Courtney died unexpectedly[during her pregnancy with my nephew] in 2010 when her boyfriend decided to put a bullet through her chest. I lost her and my nephew, I was only 11 years old. All of my family throughout the years had talked about these amazing dreams with her telling them that she is okay. Last night I had a dream of her. We were in a pitch white area. There was nothing except for a trench in-between us. Courtney held out her hand to me, and told me, “Kai, it is your time to go.” In my dream I started to reach out for her, trying to grab her hand. Once I got close to her I fell into the deep trench and awoken. Im trying to figure out what this dream meant, and I talked to my other sister about it. She thinks that Courtney is meaning that something good is about to happen in my life, and this is her letting me go to let me live my best life. At first I thought it was Courtney telling me that it was my time to be with her, hence her reaching out her hand to me. But maybe my other sister is right. She was giving each other the freedom to let each other go so I can reach better places in my life. I don’t know, this helped me a lot, thanks for the post.

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    My brother passed away in a drowning death at the age of 23 and I was 19 years of age . I am now 66 years of age and have frequently dreamed that he was alive and back in my life only to loose him again because I get side tracked in the dream looking for something else. Out of no where, my brother returned to a dream the other day. We were both in the home we grew up in; he had some gadget that had written instructions he was reading. I wanted to amaze him by showing him how my Amazon echo worked ( an item my wife does not like and believes that it doesn’t match her decour). I left my brother to find the echo, and complained to others in the dream that I couldn’t locate the echo as my wife was always moving it. When I located the echo I returned to find my broker missing. I searched everywhere and kept running into other people I have known through life and whom I have not seen in years. I woke up knowing that my brother could not be found, what do you make of this dream? I’ve had similar dreams with the same theme ( appears and then I can’t locate him).

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    I was dreaming that I told my husband that I wanted to go visit my daddy in the hospital bc he didnt have much time left.

    When we got there, I realized it was impossible to see him. He passed away when I was 12 (1962). I dont have much memories of him. My died Feb 12th and his birthday is Feb 18th

    Last August, 5 months ago my son passed away. My son was married on Feb 18th, 2018 (they picked that date but no idea it was my dads birthdate. My sons baby is due Feb 28th 2019.

    Not sure if all these dates and dreaming of my dad mean anything but thought it was strange

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    Bernice Rodriquez

    I dream of my X husband we were young and happy in a big new house then we had a paper on the kitchen counter house was being either sold or rented. What does that mean?

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    Wanda lucier

    My husband die 10 04 2018

    My husband woke me in the middle one night trying too talk to me .what do I do I haven’t been able too sleep good after that . What should I do can’t sleep or eat good sent that happing. What should I do

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    C K


    I have a recurrent dream of my deceased mother, one time she pointing her finger at my living aunt and shouting her name, one time she taps on my shoulder as if she is comforting me for something, one time she is looking at my sister and her face looks yellow and pale. And sometimes, i see people in real life in the form of animals in my dreams. Sometimes i see myself watching scenes that i cannot explain, i am just watching in the dream.

    Thank you,

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    Michelle Richter Faretta

    My brother and I had the same dream seeing out father standing at gate saying what took u so long I been waiting for u let me show u around. I told my brother the dream he stated he had the same dream.. What r the odds of that?!! Wondering what it means..

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      I have a dream about my mother who passed on 17yrs back, and she was lying on her bed and i was putting blanket on her. The next thing someone called my name through the window and i answer and open the door. In that dream I felt like something is being drilled in the middle of my head and something was also shoved in my mouth, i shout. I then saw my younger sister who also passed on in 2012 sitting right next to me. I cried for her to help me take out the sticky thing in my mouth. I woke up and my body was like freezing. I prayed and fell asleep after 3 hrs.I really don’t understand what is this dream all about but always when such dreams happen in my life its either warning of some sort or something will happen or they are protecting me from bad things.Talking from experience. Thank you

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    Bianka Sifa

    My dear husband passed away nearly 4 month ago. I had so many different dreams with him since, but all with the same pattern. In the dreams I was aware of him being deceised and questioned why he is in my life. I miss him very much in all senses. We had a good relationship, he was my mate, my lover, my greatest support. And I lost it suddenly. Maybe you are right about the reflection of my feelings in my subconsciousness. I hope it helps to get in peace with myself and stop inner conflict, I am having continuously.
    In general, I dream a lot. Some dreams are very meaningful and are reflecting my emotional state in my life.

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    Alyssa S LaHaye

    I had a dream last night that someone GOT my father on the phone and said “I have someone here who wants to talk to you” In my dream my father spoke to me through this man on a phone of some sort, I didn’t see my father the entire time i just heard his voice speaking to me while I was sleeping, nothing scary, just that he loved me and what I was doing was right, and that he was proud of me and never meant to leave me behind. Oddly, I’ve been wanting to hear from my father since his death two years ago, It was truly my father’s voice I heard while sleeping. Is this normal? We were the closest of any father or daughter I could ever name. So not sure if it’s odd, but I believe I really spoke to my father last night and got some kind of guidance, and protection from him that he’s still really here watching over me.

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    I have dreamt several times my mum coming back as if she never died, and even her meeting people in my life ,she apologizes for living without saying anything, then promises to explain later ,and asks I tell her how I have been,but I wake up before her explanation. Its been 10 yrs since she died but this keeps recurring, I need to know the meaning. Please

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    Patricia Killen

    I dream that my deceased brother isn’t really dead but has moved away to hide from the police. In my dream he secretly comes to visit me but he can’t let anyone know except me. He won’t tell me where he is living at and I feel so sad and worried about how is doing. when I wake up I am so sad because the dream feels so real.

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    Hi there. Recently(since beginning of 2019) I’ve been dreams of my late cousin sister whom we shared the same surname. She had young twins when she passed on and was about to get married. This morning another dream occurred of her returning from the dead, she was all fresh, radiant, glowing and happy and she was responding to the questions that i asked her. Somehow when i try to analyze these lucid dreams, i think and feel like she’s trying to show me a way and or shielding or guiding me from something. However the dream i had this morning got me really confused. What can this possibilly mean?

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    Diana Sheldon

    I keep having dreams, well nightmares really about my Mum who died in 2002 so 17 years ago. I didn’t before but recently it’s so stark! I dream that she is still alive and somewhere I can not find her, the last one I was crying so much in my dream. I wake up and remember that she has passed and it breaks my heart all over again.

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