There is a lot of talk about emotionally immature men. But women can lack maturity too. Turns out, emotionally immature women act in similar ways, and there are certain phrases that most of them use daily.
Adulting is hard. There’s no other way to say it. All of us struggle, but we usually dig in and find a way to get through these problems. Sometimes, we act immaturely, and that’s okay. I mean, sometimes life gets to us, am I right?
However, always acting immaturely implies something isn’t right, and it’s time we took a deeper look at ourselves… or our acquaintances.
Emotionally immature women use the same phrases over and over as part of their vocabulary, and this is an indicator of a problem. Instead of facing situations in life head-on, they complain and throw tantrums. Are you familiar with this behavior?
That being said, most of us are emotionally mature enough to handle adulthood. But some are not, and they are prone to say the same things when acting out. You will recognize the emotional maturity level by the words that are used. Here are a few phrases to look out for in day-to-day life.
I bet you’ve heard this phrase a time or two during a debate or conversation. An emotionally immature woman will always want things done her way. If the conversation is going in a direction that she doesn’t like, and she sees that her suggestion is ignored, then this makes her mad.
Hence, she says that she never gets her way. This is because she wants to always get her way.
Blaming someone else is common for people who lack maturity. Emotionally immature women will never take responsibility for their actions. In this case, they are afraid of the consequences of their actions.
On the other hand, emotionally mature women will be okay with admitting fault and even apologizing. While someone may seem like an adult on the outside, on the inside, they are stuck at a pre-teen emotional level.
Along with shirking responsibility, the emotionally immature person will refuse to talk things through. They want the situation to be forgotten. Those with good emotional health would rather discuss the situation and get to the root of the problem.
Understanding issues helps build healthy relationships, but for those who are immature, talking about things makes them uncomfortable in their accountability.
I remember the first time I realized the manipulation behind this phrase. When my niece was younger, she’d say something insulting to me, and then when she realized it offended me, she’d say,
“I’m just joking”.
You see, she was young and immature, which makes sense. But then I heard a grown woman say this once and knew there was something wrong. Emotionally immature women will “write checks they cannot cash”. And what I mean by this expression is that they say something, and when it’s not taken well, they pretend like they never meant it. They are not mature enough to back up what they say.
The person who says this isn’t mature enough to engage in the conversation. Instead of listening to someone else, they’d rather walk away. And so, when the topic gets too intense for them, they say, “Whatever”. They are also dismissing your feelings when they say this because they probably do not care.
When things get really bad, emotionally immature women behave like children. Instead of a situation being considered a minor setback, she will act like her entire world is falling apart. This may consist of throwing tantrums, but also the hurling of insults, causing a dramatic scene. And this could happen simply because of a change of plans or an innocent misunderstanding.
Emotionally immature people often see themselves as saviors. They think they are the only ones who can solve any given problem. So, along with being incredibly immature, she is also arrogant. But don’t bother telling her that she is immature or arrogant because, to her, this couldn’t possibly be true.
Dealing with emotionally immature women is about the same as dealing with anyone else who lacks good emotional health. First, you must remember to take care of yourself because these people can be draining. An indicator that someone may be immature is when their actions are more like patterns.
They will repeat their offensive behavior even if they do not get the desired results. If she threw a tantrum the first time, she didn’t get what she wanted, and she will do it again. You can, at least, learn strategies if you know what’s bound to happen.
Set your boundaries and hold them firm. Respond to these toxic statements with,
“I know you’re upset, but my feelings are also valid”, or “I will discuss this with you, but I will not be guilt-tripped”.
The key is to take the power of manipulation from them and reassert your self-control.
I hope this helped you recognize emotionally immature women in your life. Use this information carefully to understand what’s going on in your life.
Sending love, always.
