Are you feeling stuck suddenly? Well, I think it happens to all of us. To move on, we must understand what causes this stalemate.
Maybe you think it would never happen to you, but you are wrong. Everybody ends up feeling stuck at some point or other. The truth is, you will be moving right along, reaching goals, updating, and improving, then suddenly, you will hit a plateau. Yes, even you will come to this point if you haven’t already reached it.
Strange reasons why you’re feeling stuck
So, let’s say you’re starting to feel this sensation. Your irritable all the time and nothing seems to satisfy you. Well, you are definitely feeling stuck, and there are reasons why this happens. Sometimes, we don’t even know why. That’s why I’m here to help out with that. Here are a few “non-obvious” reasons why you’re feeling stuck.
1. Obsessed with the latest trends
Believe it or not, the new smartphone, the new console, and even the new laptop can cause you to become stuck in life. Hold on, don’t get angry. Let me explain. See, what happens is there are just too many things to keep up with, in the material world. Electronics are extremely popular, and there are many of us who constantly covet the next new thing. After a while of chasing these never-ending purchasing goals, you will find yourself feeling stuck.
At some point during your “keeping up with the latest trend” habit, you will feel yourself getting nowhere. Instead of growing and maturing in life, you will be stuck in a pattern of constant procurement and desire. Nothing will satisfy you no matter how expensive or elaborate.
The only way to escape this pattern is to learn to be happy with what you already have, and drastically slow down your desire for new things.
2. You’re waiting for “the right time”
You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? You’re always waiting for the perfect opportunity to do something, aren’t you? Well, I sometimes do that too. But lately, I have been giving myself a hefty push off the ledge of procrastination. I find that this works wonders in my life, and it actually unsticks me from the pile of comfort that I cling to.
Look, let me be honest with you. There will never be a “right time” or a “perfect opportunity” to do something important or to do something that could potentially change your life for the better. The time is now, and the time is always now to do these things. You are feeling stuck because you choose not to move. Let that sink in a bit.
Okay, I will share something personal with you. Yes, I know, I do this quite often, but it’s only to help you understand. Listen, I can be insecure sometimes, and it causes me to miss out on things.
For the past several months, I have been looking for a home to purchase. A friend told me about a list at my local bank, but I am too afraid to ask them about the list because I am sure they wouldn’t want me to have it. I feel so insecure about asking that I just keep looking in other directions.
Now, you can see how my insecurity stops me from moving ahead. This can be applied to anything that you are afraid to tackle. Insecurity will be an excuse you use when you have to leave your comfort zone. You will tell yourself that people don’t like you or they won’t give you a fair shot, but this belief is just your fabrication.
So, I have made a choice to try again tomorrow, to check the housing list at my local bank. Maybe I will feel more confident and follow through. Wish me luck.
4. Unresolved issues
Nothing keeps you feeling stuck in life like unresolved conflicts with friends or family. If you’ve gotten into a fight with a friend, you might avoid that friend at all costs. The reason why is because you just don’t know what to say, and you’re also afraid that your friend will still be angry with you too. I will give you another personal example.
I have a friend who was angry with his father and wouldn’t speak to him for over a year. Unfortunately, his father died before he made amends. For a long time after his father’s death, my friend was stuck in the moment of their last fight. I think this is the worst-case scenario of an unresolved issue.
Take my advice, don’t let this happen to you. There are much worse things that just feeling stuck.
5. No dreams/ no goals
What have you been doing for the past two decades? If you’ve done nothing but party and hang out, then it’s time to rethink your life. It’s perfectly fine to have fun, but you must start planning for your future. No wonder you’re feeling stuck! You’ve been staying up all night and sleeping all day. So, no dreams or goals equals an empty life.
You will forever be stuck at that moment post-high school or post-college. Remember, that education was for your future career, and even if you take hold of that career, will still need to keep moving forward. Here’s a tip, always adjust your dreams and goals so you keep moving forward no matter how settled in your ways you’ve become.
It’s good to do things for others. In fact, it’s honorable to put others before you. I get that. However, there is one thing I’ve learned in the past five years, and that’s to take care of yourself first.
Now, before you think I’m selfish, think of it this way. How can you really help someone if you have no energy, no respect, and no rewards for anything? How will you want to keep helping others when you’ve denied yourself even the simplest of pleasures.
So, the key is, to take the time to do something good for yourself. Rest, buy a treat, or even take yourself to a movie and enjoy it! Also, you can never love another correctly as long as you’re not correctly loving yourself. And guess what, you will start feeling incredibly stuck in your life too.
Make a decision to move forward
Feeling stuck? Well shove that paddle in the mud bank and push out into the open water. It may seem hard, crap, it might even take every bit of strength you have. One thing is for sure when you do, you will thank yourself later.
Sometimes it really does depend on that first attempt. After that, you will be moving through life with a new goal and a new purpose. I wish you all the best in your adventures.
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