7 Signs You Are Dealing with a High Conflict Personality

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Someone with a high conflict personality can be nice at times but aggravating more often than not.

There are certain friends and family members whom you have to distance yourself from as they simply stress you out. If you notice your blood boiling whenever you spend too much time with a particular person, chances are that YOU are not the problem. If you are a typically calm person yet you feel stressed or angry around one person, this person may have a high conflict personality.

Here are seven unfortunate signs that you are dealing with such a person.

1. Loud voice

Some people are just loud talkers in general, but when someone raises their voice to a yell multiple times a day, they are probably bad news. Whether screaming to achieve dramatic effect or getting heated too easily and starting arguments, these people add stress and conflict to any situation.

2. Opinions on EVERYTHING

It’s okay to be opinionated, but someone with a high conflict personality goes a little too far. These people have onions on everything from how you should style your hair to how you should hold a pen. Moreover, much of the time, these opinions can lead to negative criticism, which in turn raises the opportunity for argument and conflict.

3. Very picky

Those with a high conflict personality will often be picky about everything from the food they eat to the overall lifestyle that they live. These people can’t rough it and go camping or handle trying something new. When spending time with picky people, you always feel like

When spending time with picky people, you always feel like you need to make sure that they are happy, which is stressful and should not be your job. Eventually, when others get frustrated with this bad attitude, fights to tend to break out.

4. Too defensive

If someone is always defending themselves when they clearly don’t need to be, they likely have a high conflict personality. Highly defensive people take everything very personally and turn neutral comments into attacks. You have to walk on eggshells around these types of people because it’s just easier to keep them happy rather than deal with them freaking out.

5. Always right

It’s always nice to be right, but those with high conflict personalities have got to be right all the time unless you want to watch them make a scene. If someone with a high conflict personality does kind of admit to being wrong, they will be sure to blame others in the process. It’s not

If someone with a high conflict personality does kind of admit to being wrong, they will be sure to blame others in the process. It’s not their fault that they weren’t right this one time, as someone clearly gave them the wrong information or tricked them into being wrong somehow.

6. They seem too extreme

Someone with a high conflict personality will both act and think in extreme ways. Something little always seems like a big deal to them and they are constantly stressing others out by blowing things out of proportion. When you tell them that something is not a big deal, it only gets worse

When you tell them that something is not a big deal, it only gets worse. They will do everything they think of to emulate how big of a deal it is to them, whether it include yelling, crying or saying hurtful things.

7. Go big or go home

Go big or go home is a phrase that someone with a high conflict personality will take all too seriously. When they react to something, they do so dramatically. If they don’t win the contest, they may as well have gotten the last place. This type of behavior is very difficult to stay sane around, and needless to say, raises conflict left and right.

If these seven things are something you see within a person you know, this person has a high conflict personality. It’s important to know that you are not the one to be blamed and if you need to distance yourself for sanity’s sake, don’t feel horribly guilty. Sometimes that is simply what needs to happen.

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Lauren

Lauren

After graduating from art school Lauren moved abroad to teach English and consequently fell in love with traveling. She currently resides in Spain, teaching part time while working on writing and self-exploration. Lauren lives the paleo lifestyle 90% of the time but has already decided she will try pasta at least once if she makes it to Italy.





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By | 2017-06-15T12:55:24+00:00 July 4th, 2017|Categories: Dark Personalities, Personality|Tags: , , , |2 Comments

2 Comments

  1. divine spirit July 4, 2017 at 8:14 pm - Reply

    It’s called bi-polar…peace

  2. Dave July 14, 2017 at 12:57 am - Reply

    Its not Bipolar, its comes form a person who has been around negativity and/or agression all their lives. Weirdly enough I like those types just not always sure how to deal with them and its draining. what we need is a how to deal with them approach.

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7 Signs You Are Dealing with a High Conflict Personality