The only real way to be free in life is to stop caring what others think of you once and for all. You know exactly who you are.
I think one of the worst things you can do to yourself is to focus on how others see you. Trust me, worrying about whether they like you or not is just a waste of time, well, for the most part.
There are a few times, when you should give a little thought about the opinion of others, and it’s usually for job interviews or things like that. All and all, you just have to stop caring about what others think of you and live a free life instead.
Why do we care about other people’s opinions and how do we stop?
From a personal standpoint, caring and worrying about what other people think of me started at an early age. I wanted friends and so I requested them personally. Yes, this means literally walking up to them and asking, “Will you be my friend?” Yep, that was me. Apparently, this isn’t the best way to make friends for school children.
Even then, children cared what other children thought of them, and so we pretended they didn’t need friends in order to get them. Maybe they gossiped or maybe they wore the latest trends. Either way, they usually didn’t use the straightforward approach as I did. And they certainly cared what others thought. That was obvious.
We care because we want to fit in with society. We care because we want a certain position at a job. Also, we care because we want people to think we’re something we’re not, and this is why we need to stop. We should stop caring and let others think what they want, right?
We should stop caring and live a much better life beyond the capacity of how others think. Let’s learn how to do that.
1. People are self-absorbed
Look, people do talk about what you’re wearing, and they probably make fun of your accent too. But, who cares! The truth is, in this day and age, people are more concerned with themselves – they are self-absorbed to the point that whatever you wore or did is forgotten in an hour.
So, spend less time worrying about what they think and more time being happy about what you’re wearing and how good you feel.
2. Imagine doing brave things
Another way to stop caring about what others see or think is to imagine the things you do when no one’s around. I bet you rehearse speaking to your crush, or maybe you dance like no one’s looking because they’re not.
Well, if you can imagine these things, you can muster up enough strength to take a few leaps and do things you think are embarrassing. At the party, if you want to dance, just do it. After one time, it will be easier. Life will seem so worth living when you’re being brave.
3. Work on your dreams
You have dreams. Stop caring about others and focus on you because what they think doesn’t feed your dreams. What is life, if not for the dreams and goals we have, right? If you sat down and thought about all the things you’ve avoided due to the pressure of what others think, you would be mad at yourself.
I can sit down and write a long list of things I didn’t do because someone that I thought was important was looking at me. You have to forget this and remember the importance of your dreams.
4. Remember why you’re being judged
When they make disparaging comments about things you say, don’t let it bother you. Just remember that someone may have done the same thing to them earlier in the day. This is especially true when one individual tries to make another feel unintelligent. Just think about this quote,
“Hurt people often hurt people.”
says psychologist Raj Raghunathon.
5. Ask yourself if the opinion matters
Here’s a thought. Ask yourself why you’re caring so much about what other’s think. Realize, the judgments, criticisms, and insults will only last a moment after you’ve walked away. If you don’t let those words follow you, then they will dissipate into the air. Maybe they will have a good laugh after you’re gone, but eventually, they will make fun of someone else. Yes, that’s unfortunate.
Now, on another note, if you’re going to an interview, you will need to care about what one other person thinks, and that’s the employer. This is a different situation altogether. In this case, you should care about how you present yourself as a great candidate for the job.
There are a few other situations such as this, but you can tell the difference between the two. How about this, if they’re not paying your bills, signing your check, or sleeping in the same bed with you, then you really don’t have to care that much about what they think. Does that help? But, that’s just a lighthearted way to put it.
Life is just too short
Look, life is too short to be worrying about what others think of you. So stop caring so much about what others perceive and embrace what you think about yourself. You know who you are, and that’s enough. Remember this, and apply these principles to your life.
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