If you often have obsessive thoughts, you probably want to know how to stop them and take control of your life. It takes willpower and a few other tricks!
Okay, it’s not easy to make obsessive thoughts stop ruining your life. For years, I’ve struggled with these irritating little habits myself. I constantly worried about what other people thought about me and I stressed over whether or not I said the right things in certain conversations. Sometimes these obsessive thoughts even kept me up at night.
I have the inside scoop
Due to the fact that I did endure decades of obsessing over everything, however, I can tell you what does and doesn’t work for me in this area. There are things that seem appropriate but don’t really have a positive effect on your individual situation.
For instance, you cannot force yourself to stop this habit. It’s going to take a little more than that.
Here are a few ways you can learn how to stop obsessive thoughts and this unhealthy way of thinking:
If it doesn’t work, don’t repeat
Those obsessive thoughts you’ve been having, yeah, they aren’t having the desired effect now, are they? Most of the time when you obsess over a situation or conversation, it doesn’t really help anything. In fact, it usually makes things worse. Then you continue to do the same thing, with the full knowledge of failure.
Seems strange, doesn’t it? Well, the best thing to do is start practicing a new routine. It won’t be easy to change your routine, but it can be done. First off, when you start to obsess, try to remember the end result and over time, you will overthink less and less. The goal is to end this habit and eventually, you will.
If your obsessive thoughts are driving you crazy, then get mad at them! I’m serious when I say this. You can actually show your frustration, yell at your intrusive thoughts and throw a full-blown tantrum just to relieve stress. It is better to show your true emotions than sit quietly brooding about everything that did or could go wrong in your life.
Let go of the past
One of the most effective ways to stop obsessive thoughts is to let go of the past and old hurts. When something traumatic has happened, it’s hard to release the pain and sadness, but it can be done.
The first step to letting go of the past is recognizing the root of what has hurt us. For some people, the past can be lost in denial, forgotten for decades. This is how obsession hides and causes so much damage in our present lives. We must unveil the truth about our past in order to heal now, and stop these obsessive thoughts for good.
“Certainly we are shaped by the past and we must learn from it.”
-Gordon Livingston M.D., psychiatrist
Recognize these traits
Obsessive thoughts are recognized by certain characteristics. It’s a warning that your emotions are about to become uncontrollable.
Usually, obsession can be pinpointed by uncertainty, superstition, pessimism, control, and perfectionism. Otherwise, being obsessive wouldn’t have such a stronghold in your life. By recognizing these characteristics, and more, you can learn to deal with and stop your obsessive thoughts.
If you want to know how to stop obsessive thoughts, then try seeing them as a train running off the track. You must get the train back on its normal route. This can also be visualized with a car or any other vehicle.
This visualization helps you concentrate, thus neglecting the obsessive thought pattern for the moment. With repetition, this practice can become a habit which drives quite a bit of negative thoughts from your life.
Schedule your obsessions
Try this one out for a change! Set aside a specific time of day to allow yourself to obsess. This means, for 20 minutes at that specified time each day, you get to obsess as much as you want, no limitations. This also means that the rest of day must be free from this habit. Do not allow yourself to obsess at any other time but the schedule slot you made for yourself.
What this accomplishes is simple. When you schedule a time to obsess each day, you are taking control of that negative behavior. Yes, you are allowing it to continue, but only when you deem fit. As this negative behavior remains under your control, you can eventually do away with it altogether.
Laugh at those thoughts
No, obsessive thoughts aren’t funny, but you can make fun of them. Learning to laugh when you find yourself drowning in things like self-doubt and over-analyzation can help you stay sane. After all, those obsessive thoughts can be pretty relentless at times.
Some people even have friends who are willing to laugh with them during this time of need. Laughter also releases those feel-good chemicals endorphins as well, which can help you gain a different perspective on your worries.
One reason why obsessive thoughts get out of control is that when they occur, regret often follows. First, you obsess over something, then you feel bad about it which makes you obsess about that as well. It turns into an endless cycle of obsession and regret!
You can help yourself so much by learning to forgive your obsessive behavior and learn to let go of your other mistakes as well.
Most of the time, our obsessive thoughts aren’t 100% realistic. It varies from person to person, with some people having a predominantly realistic view of the situation while others have built quite a fantasy world of doubt.
When these obsessive thoughts rear their heads, take inventory of the facts. This way you can get a more realistic view of what’s happening to you.
Stop Obsessing Now!
Well, maybe you cannot turn this switch off and stop the obsession right away, but you can get started. Like with any unhealthy habit, it takes one step at a time to transform the way you perceive your life.
You will always ruminate about things, which is normal, but you will have to learn to grasp the difference between what’s important and what doesn’t really matter. That is the key!
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