The Key: Ego Observing
But how do we find our way out of this? The answer is quite simple: We have to get rid of our fear patterns. Getting there is a little toughie though because that means we have to change our perspective and turning everything around in our head, challenging what we once thought was true.
Instead of judging and blaming others for our misery, we have to take responsibility for our own wounds. We have to realize and accept that those that hurt us actually do us a favour. “WTF??? How should it be a good thing if someone hurts us?” This will be the first reaction of your ego….
But think a bit further after you have calmed down this little nasty voice inside your head: Those people actually show us a wound within ourselves that is not healed yet and calls for our attention. And we will be put in the same situations again and again until we get it.
Only we can fix that. Nobody else. So instead of fighting the thoughts and emotions coming up, we should embrace them and say thanks to them for having taught us something. It is important to not identify with them. They are just energies running through us and do not define who we truly are.
Start observing your ego – this way, you automatically disidentify with it. And talk to it. Also here is the rule: Don’t fight it, but embrace it and treat it like an ailing person that is afraid to die.
A place where the ego cannot exist is the NOW. The ego jumps permanently from the past to the future and back, recalling memories and combining them with “should have’s” and projecting all kinds of fears into the future, coming up with wildest scenarios and “could be’s” that are quite ridiculous, when we look at them from a neutral perspective.
If you bring yourself into the NOW, the ego automatically goes on a broadcasting break. There are many ways to get into the NOW, the important thing is to use our five senses instead of our head and to just feel instead of think. A walk or run in nature can make it easier in the beginning to experience and feel the moment.
Embrace Your Inner Child
Another very important energy source for the ego is the wounded inner child in us. Basically, all of our traumas and wounds have their roots in our childhood. Every time someone hurts us now in the present does nothing else but trigger our memory bank from the past when we were still a kid.
That is why we often experience that we end up in the same situations and patterns again and again. We carry this low-frequency energy of fear within us and – due to the law of attraction that alike energies attract alike – we attract the same stuff again and again – until we have resolved the fear pattern.
So working with the inner child is the fast track to healing our wounds. We can save a lot of money by not going to marriage counselling or career coaching. When we heal our inner child, we heal the rest because the root cause is healed. So get in touch with the little you often. Become best friends and give him or her what he or she needs.
Once this is done, all of a sudden life begins to change. We experience miracles, meet the right people at the right time, are not afraid anymore and we start going with the flow. Our health gets better because our energy is flowing smoothly again as blockages in our system have been released.
And the best part of it: We really start to like and love ourselves. We realize how wonderful and unique we are and that we do not have to be like everyone else. Once we have mastered self-love, we master everything.
Because then we are our true authentic self and we have learned to set healthy boundaries and put our own needs first. That is not egoistic but necessary to give our love to others without being drained. The former pleasing becomes a sharing.
And we are naturally doing what we love. Our ego has evolved and has become a free spirit – without any doubts or questions.
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