The INFP male is so unique that they make up only about 1-1.5% of the population. Their character traits are mostly unappreciated.

Men, when young, are usually taught a certain way, according to the world’s standards. This is also true for women as well. But, of course, most of you know that already. Unfortunately, the INFP male suffers the most from this programming, as they vary drastically from what we are taught to believe about men. The truth is, there are many different types of people, and we should never try to remold them to our liking.

The INFP is one of the rarest personality types of the Myers-Briggs classification. INFP stands for introversion (I), intuition (N), feeling (F), and perception (P).

The INFP male is a sensitive and caring person. Not only do they care about people in general, but they also care about the whole of the world around them. They also have an ability to connect with people and convey a warmth rarely seen in other personality types.

Personality traits and struggles of the INFP Male

There are many distinctive traits of the INFP type of man. Some of these traits seem magical, while some of them can be frustrating. That’s right, this male has great qualities but often struggles with the same qualities in various situations, or with other facets of their personality.

Here are a few traits to consider, in case you’re wondering if you might be an INFP man. Hey, maybe someone you know or love has these characteristics.

1. Observant

Being a male characterized as an INFP, many times discovered through the Myers-Briggs personality test means being highly observant.

While others may ride the bus and never pay attention to their outside surroundings, you may become fascinated by every little leaf and branch of the trees on the side of the road. You may be enamored by the cracked sidewalks or the intricate details of the buildings that fly by on the way to your destination. You notice everything and often talk about everything you notice in-depth.

Here’s the struggle:

While being observant, you often forget the obvious. This means that maybe you’ve been riding the bus to work every day, but you haven’t paid attention to how you get there. Now, let’s say, you buy a car and decide to drive your personal automobile work instead. Would it be a surprise to know that you haven’t a clue about how to get there?

As wild as it may seem, being observant of small details sometimes keeps you from noticing the larger ones, like which streets take you to work or home. This is the hidden struggle in the gift of the mediator personality.

2. Compassionate

The INFP male is more compassionate than others. When I say this, it’s not an insult to everyone else, it just means that these males care beyond what’s necessary, and tend to feel the pain of others. Yes, it’s about empathy, and how that works.

Being so empathetic helps this type of male become closer to others and able to help them in difficult situations. They spread warmth, and make sure their friends and loved ones do not feel alone with their problems.

Here’s the struggle:

Even though compassion is a good attribute, it can also become a weight. If you feel too deeply for someone else or their problems, you can become heavy with their burdens as well. The pain and discomfort can become so bad that it affects you physically and mentally. This is the biggest drawback to enduring empathic feelings this strong.

3. Avoids conflict

If only others could avoid conflict like the INFP, then the world might be a better place. Yes, you try not to fight about things that can be cured with communication.

Instead of rough confrontation, you tend to talk through the issues, finding resolution and peace which benefits all parties involved in the disagreement. If the problem revolves around you, as an INFP, you rather apologize than push to be right, even when you are.

Here’s the struggle:

Even though you avoid conflict, you tend to leave yourself open to being a “pushover”. While most times, communication can help with problems, there comes a time when confrontation cannot be avoided.

Conflict cannot always be pushed back, especially in the case of injustice or when bullying is the problem. Avoiding conflict in these situations may provide a path for even more pain. Let’s face it, some people do not know how to communicate, and if you are an INFP trying to make this work, you could be disappointed.

4. Strong beliefs

The INFPs have strong belief systems and rarely change their minds from mere suggestion. They have morals and standards which can stand the test of time. While they aren’t rude when talking about these things, they are usually committed to their standards. Hey, if you are an INFP male, you have a pretty tight belief of what is right and wrong.

Here’s the struggle:

What is right, and what is wrong? Can you, as an INFP male truly know this? The fact is, there are rights and wrongs for all of us which vary, and then there are universal rights and wrongs. Don’t let us forget the gray areas either.

Sometimes, the INFP can become frustrated by the strong debates of others. Although you may stand strong in your beliefs, you cannot ignore the good points you hear from friends and family that contradict what you believe. Do you waver? Not usually. Do you question your beliefs sometimes? You probably do. Can you see the struggle?

5. Introspective

One of the most intriguing traits of the INFP male is introspection. This man is always looking inward and analyzing who he is. Are you like this? Do you sit for hours and take your own traits and personality apart, looking through the magnifying lens of your heart and mind? If so, you may be an INFP male.

Here’s the struggle:

When others find out how much you think about yourself, they sometimes see it as self-absorption. This is especially true when you share your raw feelings about who you are.

While your true intentions are to always be aware of who you are, and what you’re thinking, to others, you may seem obsessed with your own life, selfish, and disregarding others. You have to be careful who you trust with this part of yourself.

Are you an INFP man?

To all the men out there, is this you? Are you sensitive, sometimes to a fault? Do you look within and try to figure out what you’re about? Do you sometimes get lost in the details of life? Hey, these are some of the many traits of the INFP male, and you could certainly be this type of person.

Take some time, read through these traits, and even take a personality quiz or two. But whatever you do, never be ashamed of who you are. If you are an INFP man, then embrace that fact, and learn to love the good and the bad points of who you are. It’s about balance when it comes to any personality type.

Remember, everyone is unique and needed in this world today, even the INFP male, as rare and magical as he may seem. Life wouldn’t be the same without you.


Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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This Post Has 14 Comments

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    Michael Blood

    Sometimes it’s not fun being like this

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      Most of the time, it’s not fun being like this.

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    Sere Burford

    Finally. A clear statement, standards to teach, achieve, exemplify, maintain for both men and women. Best parent!

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      Thank you for reading, Sere.

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    Thanks for this nice article. I am an INFP male and this is pretty much spot on. Helps me know even more about myself.

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      You are welcome. Thank you for reading, Peter.

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    SS Parker

    IS this just for men? I found I could relate to all of the above!!

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      There are also INFP females as well. You should read about the various types of personalities. You might be surprised by how you fit in.

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    John Sakes

    I think I’m an INFP male, thanks for making me accepting myself!!!

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      And thank you for reading, John.

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    Thank you so much Madame for the article. It has given me the long-awaited vindication that I have searched for so long. That I am not weird, I am not alone and I am a unique and brilliant creation of a male.

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      Everyone has worth. I remember being bullied for being different. It’s always a breath of fresh air to realize you are not weird or less than good enough. There are so many different people on this planet, all with positive and negative aspects of their personalities.

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    I have all of the traits and I only use to have one of the weakness of drawbacks that I over came. Are most males with this personality like that or am I something else. Like I first mentioned I have all of the traits and non of the weaknesses.

    1. Sherrie Hurd, A.A.
      Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

      I think it varies from person to person. Personality tests aren’t 100% accurate on every single trait. We cannot be put into boxes. These tests just help us understand the majority of how we relate and react in society. No one person is alike exactly. So, this means, while you may have most or all of the traits, others may not. Some may have mixed traits with other personality types. I remember writing about the simple letters INFP, and now we are seeing different types of INFP personalities like the “turbulent” and the “assertive”. Before you know it, there may be different types of turbulent traits. So appreciate those traits you have and build upon the positive aspects.

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