Those with an intuitive personality are often misunderstood. We think and act differently to our family and friends which can be frustrating for both sides.
It is natural for humans to want to be understood. In fact, it is one of our deepest desires. That is why we look for a soul mate. We are searching for someone who ‘gets’ us. For those with an intuitive personality, this can be frustrating.
We think so differently to many people around us. Our family and friends may struggle to understand us. This can make us feel isolated and alone and as if we will never really fit in.
There are many reasons why people find it hard to understand intuitive personalities, but I have listed below some of the most common ones.
If you recognize yourself in the following traits, you certainly have an intuitive personality.
1. You never just accept something at face value
When someone tells you something as fact, you will rarely just accept it, especially if it doesn’t fit in with the way you see the world. As an intuitive, you will want to explore this new information and look for examples, evidence, and personal resonances. However, you will not dismiss the information either. You always strive to remain open-minded.
You tend to rely on your own intuition and logic rather than someone else’s opinion, even if it is commonly accepted. Someone with an intuitive personality often disagrees with public opinion and the things that are considered socially acceptable. This is because we only trust our own judgment and moral code, and when something doesn’t resonate with it, we won’t accept it at face value.
2. You feel on the edge of society
Because of your unconventional way of thinking, it can be hard for you to find a place to fit in. You often feel like you don’t belong here, in this society and even the world.
You find the conventional beliefs and values of mainstream society confusing. This is again due to your tendency not to accept things at face value. If societal values don’t resonate with your personal ethics, you don’t accept them just because everyone else does.
Intuitive personalities don’t follow the crowd. They play the role of outside observers and yes, sometimes this can bring loneliness and misunderstanding. But on the bright side of this lone path, you know that you remain yourself and don’t let the society turn you into someone else.
Thus, you identify better with those on the fringes of society, the ones that conventional folk think are a bit weird or eccentric. Because you have to spend time with family, friends, and colleagues who don’t understand you, this can be hard.
3. You can always see another side to the story
Your intuitive personality helps you to understand things from other people’s point of view. You understand that nothing is ever black or white. Because of your intuition and empathy, you prefer not to judge others – after all, you haven’t had their life experiences so you can’t know why they behave the way they do.
Your motto might be the Native American proverb: ‘Never judge a man until you have walked a mile in his moccasins.’
At the same time, those around you may misunderstand the fact that you don’t take sides. When conflict arises, your friends and family are expecting you to fully support them, and your decision to be neutral can be regarded as a betrayal. Needless to say that this can create all sorts of difficulties in your relationships.
4. You are an abstract thinker with a broad range of interests
Having an intuitive personality means you are interested in a variety of things. You love the strangeness of life, mysteries and the unknown. You would find life boring if you had all the answers, but you love to learn more and develop. Others can’t always understand your drive to learn and your constant curiosity.
At the same time, people with an intuitive personality tend to be abstract thinkers. You may find yourself more focused on the world of fantasies, theories, and fiction rather than real life.
You don’t give much importance to mundane things, and this trait of yours may look eccentric to others. For example, if you are working on a new exciting project and are fully immersed in what you are doing, you may skip a meal or forget about sleep.
5. Your idea of success is different from others
Your idea of success is to have made a positive difference. You would like to be remembered for helping people or making the world a better place. You probably value love, kindness, creativity, and compassion.
Conventional success such as pay raises and promotions, fancy cars and big houses hold no appeal for you. These are things that you are simply not interested in. You aren’t competitive and don’t seek power over others. As we have said above, intuitive personalities don’t follow the crowd but neither are they interested in leading others.
You are not overly materialistic and value relationships and experiences more than wealth and material possessions. This is another reason why you don’t resonate with modern society and its values and may often feel like a misfit.
6. You often mistrust authority
As an intuitive, you can easily see where authorities such as governments are letting people down. Because there are so many examples of inequality and corruption in modern life, you have lost faith in authority figures. You may be entirely disappointed by political life and choose not to take any part in it at all.
If someone acts unethically, you will never accept their behavior just because they are an authority or have a high position in society. Superficial attributes like social status, a position of authority or title mean nothing to you. The only thing you care about is whether someone is a person of value or not.
You can’t bear to watch media stories full of negativity and fear because they make you despair of the world. You wonder how the unethical billionaires and politicians sleep at night! Above all, you just can’t understand why there is so much hate between people.
7. You overthink things
As an intuitive living in a far from perfect world, you may be prone to anxiety, worry, and depression. This is because you feel the pain of others so deeply. There is even a rare word for it – Weltschmerz. It describes a deep frustration with the world and the inability to stop all the evil and suffering that is happening in it. This is a perfect word every person with an intuitive personality can relate to.
You would love for people and all living things to live in peace and harmony. Others think you are naïve, but you can’t understand why peace is so hard to create.
You also have a tendency to overthink things. Because there are so many sides to every story and no clear path to follow, you find it hard to make decisions sometimes. Thus, you tend to hesitate even when it comes to making the simplest everyday decisions. You just don’t like acting impulsively and want to make sure to consider all factors and to analyze every situation in depth.
For this reason, you might be prone to analysis paralysis. It means that you overanalyze things so much that it prevents you from acting. You are afraid of making the wrong decision and thus you often end up not making any.
Having an intuitive personality can make life hard. It often leads to us feeling misunderstood and sidelined. However, there are many benefits to your sensitive and kind soul. You should celebrate this aspect of your personality and learn to love yourself just the way you are.
If you don’t fit into conventional society, try not to worry. There are lots of other folks out there who think in a similar way to you, so seek them out and find your tribe.
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