Do you know anyone who is extremely mentally strong? They all seem to have a lot of traits in common.
Here are 15 things mentally strong people never do. Take some notes and amp up your mental strength.
1. Dwell On The Past
Spending time dwelling on the past is completely unproductive. It holds you back and prevents you from growing. Mentally strong people know that it’s a sign of strength to accept your past and move forward.
2. Resent Others’ Success
If you are confident in yourself, there is no reason to resent other people for their success. Even if they are personally struggling, mentally strong people don’t let this stop them from celebrating with others.
3. Worry About Things They Can’t Control
You can spend your whole life worrying about things that you can’t change. Mentally strong people focus on the things they can control, and leave the rest to fate.
4. Give Up
There is no greater sign of weakness than giving up. It’s easy to give up. It takes no strength whatsoever to walk away from your dreams and say it’s too hard. Resilient people believe in themselves and know they have what it takes to make it.
5. Avoid Change
Change is unavoidable. People and circumstances change all the time. If you actively seek out new experiences, you will become adaptable. When you’re adaptable, you’ll be able to embrace the changes that come naturally. Mentally strong people know this.
6. Fear Alone Time
People who are mentally strong don’t fear being alone with their thoughts. They don’t fear silence or the lack of social attention. They are content with just being on their own.
7. Try to Please Everyone
It’s a simple fact that you can’t please everyone. People who are weak feel the need to make other people like them. It’s a way for them to feel validation. Strong people know that the approval of others is not important, so they stay true to themselves and don’t worry about pleasing everyone else.
8. Focus On Their Weaknesses
You cannot accomplish anything if you fixate on what you don’t have or what you aren’t good at. Mentally strong people focus on their strengths and use them to overcome their weaknesses. They don’t dwell on the challenge: they rise above it.
9. Avoid Advice From Others
Only foolish people think they know everything. Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t have all the answers, and they seek advice from people who can help them.
10. Blame Others For Their Failures
It’s easy to point to someone else when it’s time to lay blame. But this is a sign of weakness. Mentally strong people are able to accept that they sometimes mess up. They own up to their mistakes and don’t point the finger at others.
11. Feel Sorry For Themselves
Life is hard. Accept it. You will fail. You will experience rejection and pain. If you’re mentally strong, you’ll be able to see all the adversity as part of the big picture, and you’ll let it go. If you’re weak, you’ll throw yourself a pity party.
12. Repeating Mistakes
If you make a mistake, you should learn from it. People with mental strength do this well. They realize they did something wrong, and they take steps to avoid the same action in the future.
13. Feel Entitled
Entitlement is an awful thing. You are not entitled. Mentally strong people know they have to work hard for what they have and feel a true sense of accomplishment when they succeed.
14. Give Others Power Over Them
When you say that someone else caused you pain, you unwittingly hand over all of your power to that person. Own up to your own emotions and realize that you are in control of your own happiness.
15. Stay In Their Comfort Zones
There’s a reason they call it a comfort zone. You could stay there forever and be happy. But you will never find true happiness or success that way. Mentally strong people take a break from the comfort zone and challenge themselves.
Developing mental strength takes time and dedication. But if you try to embrace these traits, you’ll become stronger with time.
Mentally strong people never say never. They’re flexible enough to have experiences of vulnerability without regarding themselves as weak. The title of this piece suffers from overstatement.
Agreed. I looked at each one and thought to myself on a scale of 1-10 (weakest-strongest) where do I lie on the spectrum (as of now). I think these are still really good gauges.
This post really help me evaluate my mental strength. I remember the dark time of my teenage years. It come to the point I was taking anti-depressant pills. Now I am in my early 20’s this post will help me a lot more in my mental strength after reading it.