Did you know that some things you say make people instantly dislike you? You’d be surprised by how annoying and disrespectful these statements can be.
I’ve found, in my lifetime, that people instantly dislike you when you say certain things. These could be cringey quotes, narcissistic statements about themselves, and one-word proclamations. Nevertheless, there are several things a person can say that instantly scream “Ick!”, and they feel like a huge red flag.
Has anyone ever spoken to you in such a way that you wanted to run away? Well, they probably made an instantly distasteful statement. While sometimes they have no clue how toxic this is, they keep doing it anyway. Many words make others feel uncomfortable, and today, we’re going to take a look at a few examples.
I think many of these will sound quite familiar to you. Maybe you are saying these things too!
Maybe you don’t like drama, but you don’t have to prove it by shouting this from the rooftops. The truth is, when someone says they hate drama, they are usually the ones who cause said drama. It’s interesting how that works. But most people have realized this by now, and if you say this, they will instantly dislike you.
If you don’t like drama, just steer clear of this and don’t talk so much about it. You see, talking so much about drama is actually creating more drama because there are usually people involved in this conversation that you’re spreading rumors about. Think about it.
This is a racist statement. If you don’t understand why, then listen up. I’m going to educate you today. Most of the time, when you hear things like, “you speak well” or “You sound so articulate,” it is because this is being said to a person of color.
It’s a veiled insult that might as well have said, “You speak well for a black person”. People instantly dislike you for saying this, as they should. If you use stereotypes or know someone who does, learn how to do better.
Careful, when this is said, you’re about to be greatly offended. That’s why there is a warning placed inside this statement. And yes, this statement will make most people instantly dislike you because, most of the time, it’s just unnecessary to say in the first place. It’s better to just make a critique and get on with it.
I had a friend once who said this after every good news I told her about myself. The more I heard this statement from her, the more I felt like I was privileged by having good things happen to me.
It felt like she wanted me to feel bad for her and guilty for my achievements. I did feel guilty and bad for a long time. Then I realized that this was her problem and not mine. I no longer spend time with her.
These absolutes during conversation drive me crazy. I’ve dealt with someone who did this to me quite often. It would make me so angry because it made me look like some fanatically irresponsible person.
Statements such as “You never finish anything” or “You always spend more time with someone else” are just dismissive. Was it just exaggeration or gaslighting? Either way, it made me instantly dislike this person. Sorry, not sorry.
This statement immediately discounts whatever the other person was trying to say to you. The one-word statement says,
“All that stuff you just said that contradicts my beliefs does not matter to me.”
Yes, it is just that harsh. This can definitely make people instantly dislike you. And it also prevents personal growth after seeing things from other perspectives.
Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, wants to hear this when they’ve made a mistake. Yes, maybe you offered advice that they did not take. And maybe your advice would have helped them. But it is never appropriate to say “I told you so” during this time. It is insensitive and narcissistic.
Please refrain from saying this to people. You will make them dislike you and not want to be around you anymore.
While some people may not want to work, others cannot work regular jobs. It is insensitive to say this to people. This is such a weird way of saying that you do not want to help those in need when you are healthy enough to work.
If you cannot help, that’s fair. But don’t go further to insult people, for instance, those who are disabled. Trust me, I know plenty of disabled people, and I will dislike you if I hear you say this. Have a heart.
Nothing against those who are spiritual, as I have loved ones who are Christians. However, most Christians are not who they say they are. I’m going to say something that would shock people that I know. I do not trust Christians as much as I trust atheists. You see, this is how I see it.
An atheist is not kind to you because they are afraid of God. They are kind because they want to be. So, if you come to me and say, “You can trust me, I’m a Christian”, I will immediately find you untrustworthy. Just warning you ahead of time. And I will dislike for saying this.
Yes, this is a cute saying, I guess. But think about how toxic this can be. I can see how people instantly dislike those who say this. This statement is simply an excuse to be a horrible person and get support for that.
If you are doing this, if you are saying these things, please stop. I promise you that these things aren’t as amazing as you think they are. These statements do not make you look like a hero, nor do they draw sympathy. They only hurt others and alienate you from others.
Practice saying things that you’d want said to you. How would you feel at the other end of some of these words? If someone you know is saying these things, tell them how these words really make you feel. If they care about you, they will take what you say seriously.
Until next time, go be the person you’d want to be around. Be blessed.
