There are phrases narcissists use that can make you feel bad about yourself. These aren’t always obvious statements either.
Narcissists have the amazing ability to make you feel completely worthless if you let them. And what I mean by this is they are willing to reach for lower than normal depths of negativity to do so. Unlike the average mentally healthy person, this individual just doesn’t have a stable mindset.
There are phrases narcissists use that can destroy you.
Not only do these phrases implement insults and manipulation, but they also use guilt. And this is what we want to focus most on today. How can narcissistic statements make you feel bad about yourself? Well, there are many ways.
Narcissists use gaslighting to craft some of the most insidious statements. Here are a few examples of those phrases.
The narcissist commonly uses some form of this statement. It is not an apology, although it may appear that way at first. But don’t fool yourself. When someone truly apologizes, they acknowledge what they’ve done. They do not try to shift the blame.
These statements are passive-aggressive and deflect responsibility. Then you sometimes look like the bad person. But statements like these also prove that you are definitely not the one to blame.
This statement is correct. You do not deserve the narcissist. You deserve so much better, and you should always remember that. Let the narcissists know when they say, “You don’t deserve me”, that they are right. This will shock and surprise them and probably make them mad.
You see, the narcissist thinks they are above everyone else and deserve only the highest quality in everything and everyone. And in this ideal of perfection, they fail miserably, only succeeding by manipulating those with self-esteem issues. Do not let them use you this way.
Have you ever heard this statement before? I’m sure you have, and I bet you felt terrible for doing something wrong. However, I bet you were just sticking up for yourself, now weren’t you? I’ve heard this before, and what’s more, I’ve watched people’s actions say this, no need for words.
True toxic individuals crave control because they are insecure. They also feel like every time they get upset, it’s because you irritated them somehow. What a pattern of manipulation this is. The only ones who survive this are the ones who worship them. Just a thought. Don’t make a deity out of a dirtbag.
That’s not a typo, and I didn’t forget to put words between those quotation marks. There is one phrase that narcissists wear out. And that is when they say nothing at all. You see, one of the favorite phrases narcissists use is saying nothing, stonewalling, and implementing passive aggression.
They may utter noises and carry a blank expression, as if to seem intimidating, but they are absolutely harmless. When this toxic individual ignores you, then good. Maybe you can have a nice day for a change.
This is a question that narcissists ask, but it’s not a question that needs an answer for them. They are simply calling your friends idiots. They think they are the most important person in your life, and when they feel they are not, then everyone else is unimportant.
Most of the time, just ignoring this statement is best. Because if you try to justify why you like someone, the narcissist will simply have another insult ready.
I guess I am going to sound inappropriate because this both enrages me and makes me laugh hysterically at the same time. I sincerely hope that if you are dealing with someone like this, you learn to laugh at them, too. Toxic people and the things they say used to scare me. This statement, in particular, used to make me feel anxious, my heart racing, and hyperventilating. It was because I didn’t like losing people I cared about.
However, I was losing someone I cared about. Me. Now, even if it hurts, I must understand that I am not always the problem, and they are not always right. The best thing for you is if you DO lose that toxic person. You’ll be much better off without them. Don’t you ever let this scare you again.
I know it’s important to be grateful for what people do for you. I get that. But you do not have to accept things or actions that do not make you happy.
So what if the narcissist bought you a huge bag of chips? If you are trying to eat healthy and they know that, then you have every right to say you do not want them. And that’s just an example. I don’t care how expensive the gift is or how much trouble the narcissist went through to attain these things; it doesn’t matter. It is okay to say,
“Thank you, but I do not want this.”
When you tell the narcissists that you do not want to do something, they often respond with this phrase. And if you do what the narcissist wants to placate them, then you’ll probably not enjoy what you’re doing.
After all, you did say ‘no’ to whatever was asked of you. Instead of worrying about whether the toxic person thinks you love them or not, maybe work on letting them think whatever they want, and love yourself. If things don’t get better, maybe make plans to get out of the relationship completely.
So, in the words of my grandmother, I suppose, “I have a bee in my bonnet”. Which means I am currently frustrated by a few narcissistic actions in my life, and feel more than enthusiastic about bringing them into the light.
I’ve also been in several relationships with these toxic individuals before. I’ve observed them, trying to understand why they do what they do. And sometimes I’m just amused by their frustration when they fail to get their way.
But mind you, these culprits can be detrimental to your health. While they do seem pretty harmless, they can also get under your skin if you are having any trouble with your self-esteem. I want to leave you with a few words of encouragement. They shall be your armor in this war.
“You are worthy.”
“You are beautiful.”
“Narcissists are liars, and they are pathetic.”
Now go out and conquer the world like you said you would. Love ya!
