Did you know there are phrases that trigger narcissists? When said, these statements produce surprising reactions in this toxic individual.
Over the years I’ve realized that certain phrases trigger narcissists. In fact, anything that contradicts their overall view of life makes them incredibly angry. And these phrases do not have to be mean or confrontational either.
They are just phrases that suggest other people may be smarter than them or be of more importance for the time being. Narcissists are self-absorbed creatures that will die on the hill of egotism.
There are many phrases that narcissists dislike. There are some, however, that hit a bit differently from the rest. You see, narcissists have fragile egos, and they hide them behind vaulted self-esteem. It’s fake, and when you come close to revealing who they really are, or you attempt to put others first, they lose it.
Here are a few phrases that trigger narcissists the most.
One of the things narcissists want the most is for you to agree with them all the time. They want to be perceived as knowing everything and having the most important opinion in the room. But they do not, not usually.
Most of the time, their opinions are built upon a selfish foundation. When you disagree with them, you challenge their authority.
Narcissists view themselves as mature and intelligent individuals. So, when you call them out on their childish behavior, they explode in anger. If they are already throwing a tantrum, you can expect that tantrum to get worse. They will pout until they’ve found a way to attack you some other way. If it wasn’t so infuriating, it would be hilarious.
Another one of the phrases that trigger narcissists is to suggest therapy. Saying, “You should get help” or “Maybe you should talk to someone about how you feel” is ludicrous to them. How dare you say that they are the problem, even when they are.
Narcissists rarely ever come to the conclusion that they have issues. They almost always put the blame on others. They think they are perfect and they are always the victim.
In my experience, I’ve found that narcissists want quick answers to their questions. When they ask you to do something and you’re not sure about it, they hate that. They want you to agree with them, but if you say no, they can move on from there.
But when you tell them that you must think about it or you’re not sure of your decision, it drives them crazy. I mean, how dare someone keep them waiting. This period of waiting will trigger them for sure.
Obviously, saying this will trigger the narcissist. They think everything is about them in some way, and when you say it’s not, it’s seen as a direct attack on their character. This may be one of the worst things you can say to them. After all, how could anyone else be of more importance than them, ever.
We all know that narcissists lie, but they want us to believe they do not. At least, they’d rather we not call them on this behavior even if they know we know. They’re okay with everyone playing pretend as long as the outside world sees them as exemplary people.
Narcissists live in a different reality than everyone else. When you tell them that they are lying, they will either find a way to spin this back onto your character or lash out.
When you live with a narcissists or spend a great amount of time around them, you try to care. But there comes a time when you stop caring about what they’re doing. Caring about what a narcissist does will drain you. It will destroy your dreams and leave you living for the toxic person and not yourself.
So when you finally say you do not care, the narcissist will become angry. They’d rather you destroy your life to “worship” them. It’s a good thing that most of us are too smart for that.
If you aren’t triggering the narcissist, then you are still under their full control. Something must change for your own well-being.
While in some circumstances, the narcissist can become violent, most of the time they are what’s called, “blow hard”, or those who threaten and never back that threat up with action, which is a good thing. BUT, if you have the slightest fear that your words will trigger violence, then maybe you should take another route of retaliation.
Seeking support and therapy is also good for you as well. The narcissist can completely destroy your mental health even when they aren’t a physically violent threat.
Today, start making plans to take back your life from the narcissist. Start by recognizing what triggers them so you can reveal their true nature and intent. Knowing your enemy is the key to defeating them or at least defending yourself properly.
Hope you have a wonderful day, and stay safe out there.
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Those phrases remind me of how hard it is for me to get a positive feedback. Why don't I receive it? Am I a narcissist or what?
There is a narcissistic spectrum, and we are all on that spectrum. There are two extremes of narcissistic behavior involving either grandiose behaviors or debasing behaviors; both are unhealthy. There are also types of narcissistic disorders, as well as characteristics that vary from person to person.
I could not possibly tell you if you have a narcissistic disorder or negative narcissistic tendencies. However, if you feel triggered by any of those statements, just ask yourself why you feel that way. Not everyone has a narcissistic personality disorder just because a question irritates them. It's the culmination of those questions and how you react to them. It's much, much deeper than just a surface-level diagnosis or assumption. This is why most diagnoses are not just handed out with only one encounter.
And the difference between narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder is kind of like moderation. If you do narcissistic things occasionally, you're generally okay. If you do them pathologically, you may have an issue. Your motives are also a great indicator of your true intentions. Just a thought.