“The real unique luxury — is a luxury of human communication”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
It is not a secret that any interaction between people is built on constant communication. And the effectiveness of this communication is determined by how sociable you are. Only having identified the concept of sociability, it is possible to draw any conclusions.
Sociability is an ability to find common ground with another person; a talent to find the right words in different situations and express one’s thoughts clearly, without constraint or fear.
Of course, each of us has a certain circle of friends, and when communicating with them, we have all of the above features. But as soon as strangers appear, communication barriers occur and hinder the dialogue. Then sociability is manifested in the ability to find common language with them. Perhaps you will ask: why would I need that? But the answer is obvious:
- The ability to articulate thoughts, voice them without fear and find the right words, even in unusual situations, is the key to career promotion. Sociability is a prerequisite for success in any activity, because in every job you will need to communicate with clients, partners, colleagues and potential customers. Only the sociability, coupled with a friendly attitude, can build beneficial cooperation.
- Sociability is a way of expression, which allows you to earn the respect of other people. This is an opportunity to defend your honor without conflicts and disputes.
- According to research, sociability helps relieve stress and bad moods.
Of course, many people are born with a talent for communication, but those who are not can learn to be sociable.
So, how to become sociable? It is unlikely that we will find the only effective prescription. Psychologists point out cases when people go to work as salespeople in order to be in constant contact with complete strangers and learn to be sociable. Others go to group classes of interest, such as dancing or sports. And still there are others who go to special trainings.
Remember that your sociability level is affected by a variety of factors: communication barriers, lack of confidence, inability to express your thoughts clearly, and sometimes unwillingness to communicate. Here are a few tips to help you become more sociable:
- Constantly improve yourself. Develop your mind and body, and become the best in the activities you are interested in. This will give you self-confidence and you will cease to feel embarrassed in dealing with people, even with strangers.
- Develop your communicative skills in indirect contact: by phone and online. Here you can find new friends around the world with the help of common interests. As a rule, to communicate without direct eye contact is easier. So you will learn to express your thoughts, drop the constraint and communicate easily.
- Learn to speak beautifully – your thoughts should be clearly articulated. Intonation also has a considerable importance. If you are not sure that you do it well, practice in front of a mirror, as many people do before a public performance. Read as many competent and interesting books as you can. Thus you will expand your horizons and will discover a lot of interesting things. You will unconsciously reproduce the style of speech, language and new vocabulary learnt from these books. You will find that being sociable is easy, when you can express yourself so exquisitely and talk on a variety of topics.
- Be friendly, and people will like you. Other people also can show fear and constraint when dealing with a stranger. But if you show open, friendly and smile, you will support them and make the contact easier.
- Think up a few sentences to start a conversation, for example, if you are going to deal with strangers. To start a conversation is always more difficult than to support it. Most of the people around you will appreciate it, if you take an initiative and start a dialogue.
As a rule, all communication barriers disappear if people are interested in each other. As soon as you find a common passion or a curious topic, constraint, fear and uncertainty disappear.
Remember that all people are interesting because they are all remarkably different, but at the same time they have something in common with you, so you always have something to say to each other.
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