Let’s explore an interesting technique to make people like you that is perfect for all introverts and shy personalities who may struggle with social interaction.
In order to “find the key” to any person’s heart and make contact, first of all, you should be ready for this contact. When you are too reserved, guarded, and aloof, you can hardly count on the success of communication.
This does not mean that you have to disclose everything about you or let people you just met into your life. The point is to learn to create a comfortable environment for a conversation while remaining yourself and keeping your personal boundaries firm.
To do this, you will have to learn to create an appropriate attitude for communication and learn the secrets of effective interaction with other people. Easier said than done when you are an introvert or a shy person, right? But it’s not that difficult after all.
The Power of the Inner Light
Have you ever noticed what kinds of people unconsciously attract others? These are usually open and warm personalities. If you pay attention, you will see that these people seem to produce some kind of warmth and light.
An introvert or a shy person rarely makes this kind of impression on others. So how to make people like you if you are one? The good news is that this skill can be learned. Moreover, it is not necessary to always smile and feign kindness on your face.
When you feel like you have a “small flashlight” inside you, other people around you feel that you are friendly and open to communication. They feel that talking to you, first of all, is nice and, secondly, is safe.
This way, you immediately remove barriers and wariness between you and the other person. Think about what advantages it can give you.
The trick is to consciously “switch on” this inner light and learn to control it. It will help you give an impression of being a kind, open, and understanding person and will be your asset in communication without making you vulnerable.
Of course, many would try to benefit from an open and friendly person, confusing their openness with weakness. But if you can manage your inner state and control yourself, your inner light will not prevent you from standing up for yourself if necessary, but, on the contrary, will only help you with that.
Because after all, it also protects you from unwanted influences. After some practice, you will notice that your inner light will allow you to keep a great mood in any situation but also a sober, clear head.
How to Use This Technique in Practice to Make People Like You
In the beginning, practice alone. Visualize that your eyes emit light just like light bulbs. Try not to “pull” a smile and generally maintain a neutral facial expression. If a smile appears itself – let it be, but only if it is completely natural, without any control of your will.
Then visualize that the light fills your entire body. Now, the light rays are coming not only from your eyes but also from your heart. Visualize it and feel it for as long as you can.
Once you learn to reach this state with ease, practice it somewhere in a public place, such as on the street or in public transport. Try to switch on the inner light and keep it, talking to some stranger – in a supermarket, on the bus, etc.
Remember that you do not need to show anything special or try to have any particular expression on your face. All you need is to keep the inner light on.
The rule is to use your internal light in any situation where you have to communicate with others. Over time, you will do it automatically. Do not be surprised if very soon, you will make people like you easily and those you communicate with will speak of you as of a very nice and likable person.
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