I’m the sort of person that doesn’t like change and prefers a set routine. I don’t like unexpected visitors, and I certainly do not do spontaneous stuff. I’ve always thought that this is down to my introverted and possibly even schizoid personality. But recently, I’ve been wondering, is a fear…
Being ghosted is not a great feeling. Ghosting is when a person you have been dating, usually at an early stage of the relationship suddenly starts ignoring you. They don’t reply to messages, perhaps even block you and effectively turn into a ‘ghost’. So how do you know if your…
People with social anxiety are often told to face their fears. That gradual exposure to social situations will improve their anxiety. But research suggests those that do not improve are using safety bias tricks without realising. So what are these tricks and how do they lead to avoidance? What Are…
Have you ever felt like your heart was broken but did not know why? This could be due to unresolved grief. When a loved one dies, we grieve, but then over time, we heal. It sounds simple, doesn't it? Well, it's not. Sometimes we have to deal with unresolved issues…
Having you ever heard of ghosting people? Well, it has nothing to do with the supernatural. It’s something much more heinous. Relationships can be beautiful things, but some of them do not last. I’ve always heard that some breakups are so bad that they feel the same as grieving the…
Is a success in life determined by your mindset? Some people can succeed despite having very difficult circumstances in their lives. Others seem to have trouble finding success even though they seem to have everything going for them. This comes down to a growth vs fixed mindset. Why do people…
Over the years, I’ve learned how to avoid people. It’s all about skill, talent, and experience, I guess. I start thinking about Dr. Sueus when I chant my avoidance mantra in my head, “I will avoid you in the streets, I will avoid you in the park, I will avoid…
It's natural to want to avoid anything uncomfortable, but this may lead you down a terrible path. Part of what makes us human is that we can define our existence by two things: Gaining pleasure and avoiding pain. We want to avoid anything that takes us out of our comfort…
We, as humans, are afraid of many things, sometimes developing severe phobias. So, what are the hidden causes of our fear? What are the reasons for these reactions? When I was a little girl, I was afraid of the forest surrounding my house, but only at night. During the day,…
If you’re using avoidance behavior to stop anxious feelings, then think again. This type of action can actually make anxiety worse in the long run. I will have to say that I think of myself as the queen of avoidance behavior. I even pride myself on avoiding social situations at…
