When something goes wrong in your life, do you tend to blame yourself or someone else? Psychologists call this type of ‘blaming’ or ‘attribution of success or failure’ our Internal and External Locus of Control. Sounds complicated, right? Well, it’s not, and it can affect how happy your life is.…
I think it would be fair to say that we’ve all struggled with perfection paralysis at least once in our lives. We’ve all wanted so badly to be perfect that we haven’t been able to do anything at all. It is a fairly common experience to be so afraid of…
Being rejected is a horrible feeling that we can all sympathize with. While some rejections may just hurt a little, others leave long-term scars. Learning how to handle rejection, whether its life-changing or a minor inconvenience, is a valuable life skill to have. Having a toolbox full of strategies to…
We all have certain expectations in our lives. We all thrive to achieve something or become someone. However, at times, we get disappointed because the outcome didn’t match our expectations. It happens with each one of us when things don’t turn out the way we want them to be. The…
There’s nothing wrong with relentlessly chasing after your dreams. But sometimes you have to practice radical acceptance. There are books, presentations, and workshops that help us learn how to chase our dreams and reach certain goals. We are taught to never give up, for the most part. But there comes…
Have you been feeling like a failure lately? Well, there are several things you must remember. I must admit, sometimes I do feel this way. I think back on the past decisions I’ve made in the past and realize some of them were probably far from my best. The thing…
Do you know anyone with a perfectionist personality? Well, you might recognize them from their unique behavior. Those who have a perfectionist personality don’t necessarily have a positive view of themselves. Of course, this depends on whether we are speaking of adaptive or maladaptive perfectionism, which are two different forms…
There are many cognitive biases that influence our decisions and judgements, but have you ever heard of survivorship bias? I hadn’t until I read about a particular problem and a very clever man who solved it. Survivorship Bias and WWII Fighter Planes Here’s the problem. It’s 1943 and we are…