Let's be honest with ourselves; that old cliché about nobody being perfect is true! So, why is it so darn hard to own up to your mistakes and how do we change those ingrained behaviors to become more authentic? Why Owning Our Errors Matters The reason it's so challenging to admit…
It’s not wrong to feel ashamed about something, but it is wrong to harbor toxic shame. How can we stop doing this? If you do something wrong, it’s perfectly normal to feel a little shame. But some of us struggle with the trap of unhealthy shame that always keeps us…
One of the things I despise the most is someone who can never take responsibility for their actions. Blame shifting is their second nature. I hate to admit that I’m way too familiar with blame-shifting. For years of my life, I thought everything was my fault, even when obviously it…
Blaming yourself for everything will not solve all the problems. In fact, it will cause many more. It has to stop. I have an example of two sides of a coin that are both toxic – that would be self-blame and being irresponsible. Honestly, I don’t know which one is…
Mental habits are often established over time. Thus, you often don’t even know that you have these habits and how they can mess up your life without you realizing that. Here are some of the key mental habits that harm your life – and what to do about them! 1.…
Survivor’s guilt is when we live while others succumb to a traumatic or sudden death. This is never an easy pill to swallow. While I’ve never served in the military and I was hundreds of miles away from New York during the 9/11 events, I watched my aunt suddenly collapse…
We all experience negative feelings from time to time. How we manage them and having coping mechanisms in place is vital to ensure we can move forward and process our emotions in a healthy way. Here are some of the most common negative feelings, what they mean, and how you…
Toxic parents don’t just grow out of their heinous behavior. Even an aging parent can remain, or even become toxic and hard to handle. We’ve all heard about toxic parents and the influence they have over their children. But did you know that some parents remain toxic well into old…
The danger of emotional reasoning is that our feelings overrule the facts. This can be overwhelming and unhealthy. I call it analytical behavior, and yet, it’s actually emotional reasoning. Maybe the two are connected when toxic thinking rules our brains. I must admit, I can sit for hours and reason,…
We must forgive others and sometimes we must practice self-forgiveness. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. Feeling bad for doing something wrong is normal. We should seek forgiveness when we’ve made mistakes or even been purposely cruel in the past. However, dragging yourself through the mud for a…