It’s time to stop blaming your parents for the problems in your life. Being an adult means owning responsibility for your adult decisions, and yes, your dysfunctions too. While there may be times when your mother and father let you down, at some point, you have to stop blaming your…
You know, many individuals find themselves feeling betrayed, whether it’s your family or a mate. But there are ways to overcome this hurt. I am familiar with betrayal, so much so that it no longer surprises me. That doesn't mean feeling like this should become a normal way of life.…
It’s not wrong to feel ashamed about something, but it is wrong to harbor toxic shame. How can we stop doing this? If you do something wrong, it’s perfectly normal to feel a little shame. But some of us struggle with the trap of unhealthy shame that always keeps us…
It’s not the sheltered individual that becomes the nicest person in adulthood. It’s the broken people who have the kindest hearts. Trauma, heartache, and pain can hold us back if we let them, but they can make us stronger too. These experiences that create damaged people can also create kind…
When you just cannot move forward in life, it could be that your unresolved emotional issues are weighing you down. So many of us carry emotional baggage from somewhere. It shows in the way we speak, our actions, and even our expressions. We can try to push and cram all…
Survivor’s guilt is when we live while others succumb to a traumatic or sudden death. This is never an easy pill to swallow. While I’ve never served in the military and I was hundreds of miles away from New York during the 9/11 events, I watched my aunt suddenly collapse…
Dealing with unresolved trauma isn’t as simple as trying to be more positive. This kind of trauma goes deep with its roots. I seem to always be talking about trauma, abuse or some other unresolved issues. By now, you’d think I’d been cured of all my problems, but I’m not.…
We have first responders for physical traumas or difficulties. Here's a secret: psychological first aid is also important during hard times. When trauma occurs, you hear the sirens. The ambulance, police and first responders are on the way. As humans, it’s our duty to try and help those who are…
It's natural to want to avoid anything uncomfortable, but this may lead you down a terrible path. Part of what makes us human is that we can define our existence by two things: Gaining pleasure and avoiding pain. We want to avoid anything that takes us out of our comfort…
Dealing with those who are playing the victim can be exhausting. Who exactly are these people? It’s hard to talk about the victim mentality because many people have no idea they’re adopting it. It can be upsetting when they learn this truth. Don’t know what it means to play the…