Survivor’s guilt is when we live while others succumb to a traumatic or sudden death. This is never an easy pill to swallow. While I’ve never served in the military and I was hundreds of miles away from New York during the 9/11 events, I watched my aunt suddenly collapse and die right in front [...]
Dealing with unresolved trauma isn’t as simple as trying to be more positive. This kind of trauma goes deep with its roots. I seem to always be talking about trauma, abuse or some other unresolved issues. By now, you’d think I’d been cured of all my problems, but I’m not. My traumas run deep, and [...]
We have first responders for physical traumas or difficulties. Here's a secret: psychological first aid is also important during hard times. When trauma occurs, you hear the sirens. The ambulance, police and first responders are on the way. As humans, it’s our duty to try and help those who are in serious trouble. And I [...]
It's natural to want to avoid anything uncomfortable, but this may lead you down a terrible path. Part of what makes us human is that we can define our existence by two things: Gaining pleasure and avoiding pain. We want to avoid anything that takes us out of our comfort zones and makes us feel [...]
Dealing with those who are playing the victim can be exhausting. Who exactly are these people? It’s hard to talk about the victim mentality because many people have no idea they’re adopting it. It can be upsetting when they learn this truth. Don’t know what it means to play the victim? Well, that’s because so [...]
Neurotic behavior has a wide spectrum of characteristics. This actually makes it difficult at times to pinpoint the signs. Neurosis is an old term, deriving from the psychology of Sigmund Feud. Anyone can admit neurotic behavior from time to time. However, severe neurotic behavior which crosses the threshold of normalcy possesses common actions and thoughts. [...]
The pain of child abuse is almost unbearable. Struggling with pain and a number of toxic mindsets are what may keep us from healing. When you’ve experienced child abuse, you understand how each day is a challenge. Not only do you have to deal with life’s present responsibilities, but you also have to fight with [...]
We all have met a person who instantly gave us negative vibes. We may not have even realized the reason why – we just felt it. That tense, uncomfortable feeling that makes you want to think up an excuse and get out of there. If you are sensitive to the energies around you, you know [...]
