The Four Agreements You Should Live Your Life by

///The Four Agreements You Should Live Your Life by

Understanding the four agreements helps you get in touch with your authentic self. They have the power to transform everything you think you know.

At birth, you are a specific creature with specific characteristics. As you grow, you laugh, play, and utilize basic instincts which are pure and natural. Only until your parents start to imprint ideas and standards into your head do you begin to mold to society and its flaws. In time, you forget the four agreements which enlighten your life as a human being.

“Society tames the wolf into a dog.”


Introducing the four agreements

The four agreements align themselves with who we really are. While they are not the easiest mindsets to master, they are the most influential in finding fulfillment in life. Since they were naturally there at birth, these four agreements are original blueprints of oneself that must be remastered.

1. Use impeccable words

The first of the four agreements is to be impeccable when you speak. Basically, this means to speak without judgment and without criticism but to speak the truth. Speaking the truth in this manner will help you act upon what is right. When you speak the impeccable, you can then act upon your positive words and really make progress in life.

If you are spiritual, you may find yourself taking on regret and blame for something you have done wrong by your beliefs. If you speak impeccably, you cannot blame yourself or condemn those actions. This allows you to move on much faster and heal the wounds of those sins.

This should also be used on others in the same manner. Here, you see forgiveness in action.

2. Don’t take things personally

Being offended by others is the number one cause of blockages in our relationships and in our minds. First of all, when you are offended, you become bitter towards the other person, but you also do something much worse.

You may think bad of yourself because of what was said. If you are told that you’re ugly or dumb, you sometimes believe it. Maybe it’s because of past insults or your inability to love yourself. Honestly, the fault can be from many causes.

What you should do, however, is realize that if someone is mean to you, that means they have the problem. If they say that you’re ugly, then they are being cruel, plain and simple.

You should never let these words frame who you are. How others act toward you is an indication of who they are. If you don’t take these things personally, you claim a power over your enemy and “their bad day”.

“Away with the world’s opinion of you, it’s always unsettled and divided.”


3. Do not assume

When you assume something, you make an ASS out of U and ME. Get it?  Yeah, it’s a lame joke, I know, but it does ring true, doesn’t?

What happens when you assume something when you think someone is doing or feeling something, and you’re wrong? Most of the time when you assume or misunderstand things about people, you create drama.

Unfortunately, we were taught to be little FBI agents, looking for clues and thus, filling in the blanks. But the truth is, we don’t have criminal profiling degrees, we’re just ordinary people…well, most of us.

Instead of assuming what’s wrong or what secretive things may be going on, try communicating. Yes, people have the ability to lie, but, in order to live a life worthy of yourself, you must take the high road. You must practice asking questions, instead of assuming that you know the answer. Sometimes, you are wrong about what you think, no matter how many clues you think you have.

As children, utilizing the four agreements, we asked many questions. It was just a healthy and innocent way to understand.

4. Just do your best

The fourth agreement says “Do the best you can”. This doesn’t mean that you will be highly successful every day. This just means that you will do what you have the energy to do each given day.

Some days, you might accomplish a number of things and feel energetic and proud. Other days, you might barely be able to get out of bed. Guess what? Both days are good enough.

Not doing your best is being slothful or blaming others for the things you haven’t accomplished. No matter what’s going on, the right mindset will govern what you get done in a day.

If you’re thinking along the lines of the four agreements, whatever you accomplish will be your best. These thoughts and words just work well together. 😊

Excelling with the four agreements

Not to worry, you will not be perfect at this life-changing strategy. You will fail in some areas, varying from day to day. One day you might not assume anything and rather communicate beautifully. The next day that could fail, but you could avoid being offended by an insult. Eventually, if you stick with this program, you will become a much better version of yourself.

Be aware, however, that you cannot improve your life until you see the truth of your inadequacies. Many people fail to make changes and fail to accept constructive criticism due to the blindness to their own faults. If you cannot see what’s wrong with yourself, then you cannot improve upon that, and thus, you will stay the same. Be warned.

If you are malleable, the four agreements will change your life in that it will take you back to your original blueprint of innocence as a child. Your strength and innocence combined have the incredible power to make your dreams come true. Let’s try this, shall we?



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By |2018-09-17T14:53:26+00:00June 28th, 2018|Categories: Personal Development, Self-Improvement|Tags: , , , , |6 Comments

About the Author:

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.


  1. Gary Hynous June 28, 2018 at 8:57 pm - Reply

    Enjoy your post’s, Sherrie. Good advice. Don’t beat yourself up mentally, communicate clearly, don’t take things personally and simply excel at being yourself. I have found the main culprit in my personal thoughts and interactions with people is the ego driven mind. I’ve mentioned this before but, at risk of repeating myself, I have found the writings of Eknath Easwaran to be invaluable in understanding the workings of the mind, our motivations and many of the pitfalls involved in mindfulness and conscious thought. There is also an excellent magazine called “Tricycle, the Buddhist Review’ which has very interesting articles about mindfulness, human interaction, etc.

    • Sherrie July 3, 2018 at 4:01 am - Reply

      Thank you for sharing with me, Gary. I am glad you enjoyed reading. Sometimes I do condemn myself until I realize that is where the failings start. Yes, you should take responsibility, and that’s good, but condemnation will hold you back. Thank you again.

  2. Don June 28, 2018 at 10:11 pm - Reply

    Good advice, the four agreements. But I believe readers should pay special attention to the last part of this article, through which you expressed its importance. Learning yourself is more important than learning steps. Seeing the truth of your inadequacies is priceless. It is a work that never ends. The trick is not letting it bring you down, but to learn from it. Well said.

    • Sherrie July 3, 2018 at 3:58 am - Reply

      Learning who you are in vital for reaching enlightenment. At the point of self-love, the judgments of others cannot reach you, the pain of life cannot defeat your reserve, and this is where peace is found.

  3. Tammy July 19, 2018 at 6:05 am - Reply

    Great post. For me, my biggest hurtle can be summed up in one simple, yet devastating word; judgement. It’s the ego’s most abundant fuel. It makes no difference, whether judgement of others or judgement of self, for they are inseparable.

    • Sherrie August 7, 2018 at 8:12 am - Reply

      I also find myself doing this. One of my weaknesses is judging others when they are going through something that I have conquered. Before I really understand what’s happening, I will notice that I am being critical of how long it takes someone to give up a bad habit. In my mind, although it is dysfunctional thinking, I will have a hard time understanding why someone is still doing something that I no longer struggle with. I can see the problem with my thinking as I type this, but still, react in lofty ways. I hope admitting this will help me.

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