1. Do not overdo it.
“Prisons are overcrowded with bad liars,” says Charles Ford, psychologist and author of Lies ! Lies ! Lies! “Good liars are still at large.” But what are the differences between a good and a bad liar? Effective liars never go too far. If you do not want to be caught, serve lies in small portions, leaving the main dish for the most important moment.
2. Think out your lies beforehand.
In 1990, psychologist Bill Flanagan found that liars who had thought through the details of their stories in advance, had more success in convincing their interlocutor than those who hadn’t. According to psychologist Dr. Cynthia Cohen, “it is easier to catch someone in a lie when it is the first time they tell it”.
3. Present the truth in such a way as if it were lies.
Technique that allows to confuse one’s interlocutor. Thus, a person confirms the allegations against him, but with a smile and irony so that a serious charge looks like a joke, trying to make the person who made the question look silly. The purpose of this technique is to avoid more questions. In 1990 the study of pathological liars in New York showed that those who managed to avoid further questions were much more successful in their deception.
4. Know the victim of your lies.
An effective liar should be a good psychologist. Most people are suspicious by nature and are not easy to believe in anything they hear. In order to lie effectively, an individual approach is important. Study habits, psychological trait, personal experience and weaknesses of the person you want to lie to.
5. Keep track of all the facts concerning your lies.
“One of the problems of an effective lie is that it is a hard work,” claims psychologist Michael Lewis. “You need to be very consistent in your actions. Just like puzzle pieces make up an image, a big lie consists of sequential steps. Making notes about all the facts of your lies to others may be very useful. As Marcus Fabius Quintilianus said: “A liar should have a good memory.” When you lie to different people you have to remember about the possibility of exchanging information between them. Eventually people can collate the information received from you and find conflicting details, which will lead to the fact that your lies will be exposed.
6. Be loyal to what you say.
People often become bad liars, because they experience fear or guilt when it comes to the details they don’t like. Remember that fear and guilt are evident in your voice, gestures and facial expressions. Bad liars usually try to stop the unpleasant conversations, which inevitably leads to the exposure of their lies. Effective liars enjoy the process of telling lies, which is a game for them. The best liars do not show shame or remorse because they just do not feel it.
7. Learn to distract attention.
The best liars are natural manipulators. Such example of manipulation is the film Basic Instinct where the character of Sharon Stone skillfully distracted the attention of investigators using their sexual and emotional arousal.
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