Do you have a feeling that the value of true friendships is getting lost in today’s society? I do.
It seems that whatever aspect of current society we take, it is based on fakeness and superficiality.
Corrupt politicians pretend to care about the well-being of the population. Shallow influencers become the role models of today by talking nonsense and making a fool of themselves. Narcissistic celebrities use charities as marketing tools to promote themselves and get more attention.
I guess it has always been this way, but today we see this ever-consuming fakeness in all its glory thanks to social media. Consumerism also plays a crucial role in this. It has distorted our perception of life in so many ways.
So let’s talk about the reasons why true friendships are becoming rarer and rarer in our society.
1. Treating one another as objects is normal
The consumer mindset doesn’t affect our perception of things alone. It is not only about the abundance of goods in the market and the countless options to choose from.
This consumer attitude has been ingrained in our minds to such an extent that we also regard one another as objects of consumption. This is what could explain why so many people today view friendships and relationships from a ‘give and take’ perspective.
“I’m looking for a person who…”, “I need a friend who…”, “My future husband must be…”, “I want my partner to…”
Some people’s relationship and friendship expectations look like a long grocery list of ‘I want’s and ‘I need’s. But what about “I’m willing to…” and “I’m ready to…”? Few are those who are also willing to do something for others. Many seem to only know what they expect and require.
It looks like it has become normal to care about the gains and benefits of being friends with someone rather than having a meaningful connection with another person. What kind of friendship can arise from this mindset? Only fake and shallow one.
2. Being nice is more important than being real
The desire to be liked and accepted is pretty natural, but social media has taken it to a new level. It has ceased to be just a natural human need and has turned into an addiction.
What can we see on Facebook or Instagram? Countless profiles full of perfect faces that don’t exist, beautiful feelings that are faked, and soulful words that are not meant.
This urge to look perfect has sneaked into our personal lives too. It seems that the most important thing in interpersonal relationships is to look like a nice person. Not to be one, but to look like one.
Smile at others (even if you secretly hate them), have friendly chitchat (even if you don’t care about the person you are talking to), say nice things (even if you don’t mean them).
Blunt people who are not afraid to speak the truth and call things by their names are mocked as intolerant and insensitive. We are all expected to sugar-coat our words. But there is a huge difference between being genuinely kind and just pretending to be nice.
3. Lasting and meaningful connections with other people are no longer valued
Not only does the consumer society subtly lead us to take advantage of other people, but it also doesn’t teach us to value them.
70 years ago, if your fridge suddenly broke down, your first thought would be to have it repaired. Today, you will most likely just go and get yourself a new one.
But what does buying a new fridge have to do with friendships? More than it seems.
We may not even realize it, but this view of objects has more power on our perception than we could imagine. This approach plants an idea into our subconscious minds that things and people are not to be valued because they can be easily replaced.
Being accustomed to abundance, we live in the illusion that if things go wrong, we can always get ourselves something new. A new friend, a new partner, a new soulmate.
But the problem is that human relationships don’t work this way. Sometimes you need to work it out and “repair” your relationship or friendship rather than quit and move on to the next one.
To sum up
When you think about all this, you get the feeling that our society is moving further and further away from the truth and genuine human values.
It seems that the meaning of true friendships and lasting relationships is getting lost day after day, and we can do very little about it. The only thing we can do is stick with our moral code and cultivate meaningful connections in our lives.
What are your thoughts on this topic? Do you agree that true friendships are rare in today’s world?
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