If you are in your late 20s, you probably freak out at the approaching milestone of turning 30 years old. And it makes perfect sense why.
To a twenty-something, the age of 30 may seem like something ultimately adult, boring and even gloomy. You can almost feel how your childhood dreams and carefree joys of youth are slipping through your fingers…
Guess what? It’s not as bad as it seems.
Below are a few truths that will hopefully give you some motivation to overcome the fear of turning 30 years old:
30 years old is probably the most balanced age
The only time you really live fully is from thirty to sixty. The young are slaves to dreams; the old servants of regrets. Only the middle-aged have all their five senses in the keeping of their wits.
Okay, wait, did you say ‘middle-aged’??? Ouch, that hurt. Well, if you just turned 30, associating yourself with middle age may sound somehow intimidating, but that’s not the point here. The meaning of this quote is that after 30, you are too old to live in the illusory world of childish perceptions and immature beliefs but are still young enough to live your life to the fullest.
In a way, this age is the best because you still have many aspirations and enough energy to fulfill them. At the same time, you view the world in a more realistic, rational way. Life may have already broken some of your illusions, and yes, this has been painful. But this is for your own good. You approach life in a steadier, more reasonable and grounded manner.
You know better who you are
Everyone gets to know themselves at a different age. However, to the moment when you approach your 30s, you probably already know a few things about yourself. What type of person you are, what you expect from life, what your main goals are, how you prefer to spend your time, what kind of people you want to surround yourself with.
This means that you are less likely to waste your time on the things and people that are not meant for you. You don’t settle for less because you know what you want. This way, you are getting closer to fulfilling your life purpose.
You no longer care that much
Here, I’m not saying that right after reaching the age of 30 years old, you are turning into a cold-hearted indifferent person. But the truth is that at this stage of life, some things cease to matter. And it’s a good thing.
You probably don’t pay so much attention to what other people think about you or whether they will judge you for your decisions or not. And the best part is that you are no longer afraid of looking silly or weird. You are just being yourself and enjoy it.
Some things you used to care about when you were younger now seem stupid, to say the least. Who cares what brand your dress is if you feel comfortable and confident in it? You no longer care to impress those around you or keep up with what they are doing.
Your social circle is based on quality, not quantity
With age, you inevitably become more picky in everything, including your social circle. You realize that some people should not have a place in your life only because you are related or went to college together.
Sadly or luckily, we all change, and some people you once were close to may feel like strangers now. It’s no one’s fault – it’s just the way it is. Everyone follows their unique path in life, and sometimes your school friends, cousins and collegemates simply take a different road.
You may also have cut some people out of your life because they don’t bring anything positive into it. Anyone has had a toxic family member who was too much into gossip and drama or a needy friend who always asked for favors and disappeared when you needed one yourself. When you reach your 30s, it doesn’t make sense to keep such people in your life anymore.
You begin to appreciate the things that truly matter
It’s a sad fact that as we grow up, we lose the sense of wonder and the ability to feel impressed and surprised. It’s getting more and more difficult to enjoy yourself and life. And because of this, you begin to appreciate fulfilling experiences and heartwarming moments over material possessions.
You now value things like deep conversations, genuine connections, good books, meaningful lyrics and anything else that feeds your soul and mind in the first place. And as a matter of fact, these things are much more rare and difficult to find than all the stuff you could buy.
After all, those things that truly stay with us through the years are almost never material. Just think about it. What will you more likely remember 10 years from now: that crazy karaoke party with your best friends or buying a new mobile phone?
You give up unrealistic expectations
The veil of naïve perceptions and unrealistic expectations that used to protect you from the brutal reality of life has fallen. It’s been a painful process, and you probably had to go through a few heartbreaks and a good number of disappointments to the moment you turn 30 years old. But it’s a natural and, most importantly, an absolutely necessary process of growing up.
It’s how you become stronger, smarter and more adjusted to possible challenges life may throw your way. This is how you grow and evolve as a person. After all, having fewer expectations and keeping them realistic means that you have fewer reasons to feel the pain of frustration and disappointment.
As you age, you realize that those around you are just trying to be happy and act according to their level of perception, which means that their actions and behaviors don’t always meet your expectations. It’s a liberating fact because it gives you more space for acceptance and less space for judgment. And as a result, you become a better and wiser person.
As you have seen from the above, turning 30 years old has many positive sides. As with everything in life, it’s all up to your perspective.
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