Have you ever heard the term “echoism”? Well, this quality can leave you with the lack of a real-life of your own. Let’s learn about this term.
Most people know the myths about narcissus, and there are a few different versions – there are Greek and Roman versions of this tale.
One version of this tale portrays a nymph name Echo. Once, when Narcissus was gazing at his beauty in a stream, Echo called out to him because she had fallen in love. Eventually, she appeared and embraced Narcissisus, but he rejected her. For rejecting her, his punishment was to look at himself in the stream until a lack of the ability to fully love what he saw caused him to commit suicide.
Now, that’s the tale I heard. As I said, there are different versions.
What does this have to do with echoism?
Well, you can imagine the word Echoism must have come from Echo in some way. Echoism is on the opposite end of the spectrum from severe narcissism. An echoist is quiet, selfless and takes responsibility easily for things they’ve done. And where the narcissist wants all the attention, the echoist wants nothing to do with the compliments.
There can be just as many problems in life when dealing with this personality. Here are a few signs that suggest you might be an echoist yourself.
Signs you have echoist qualities
1. You’re the exact opposite of the narcissist
Just as narcissists strive for the spotlight and all the attention, the echoist tries to stay away from the spotlight as much as possible. Almost every trait of the narcissist is absent with echoism. If you notice that you give more than you take, a trait not present in narcissism, then you may be an echoist.
2. One of both of your parents were narcissists
If you shy away from attention and try to keep a low profile, then there’s a high probability that one or more of your parents was a narcissist. If so, there were almost impossible expectations imposed upon you on a daily basis. You learned quickly to stay out of sight and out of trouble.
3. You truly hate attention
Getting attention is just not your thing. In fact, as an echoist, you will run from attention when someone tries to give you the spotlight. Echoists don’t like compliments and even go as far as to deny any compliments and point out their failings. They just aren’t used to accepting good things said about them.
4. You’re never selfish
An echoist would give their last penny to anyone who needed it. That’s because they are selfless, kind, but reserved. Some echoists are introverts as well who usually do things for themselves when needs arise. In these cases, they will not accept help from others. They are independent to the point of even learning new skills to do everything on their own.
As I mentioned above, some echoists are introverts. They rather are alone than in a room full of people. Sometimes they’re okay being alone for days on end. When it comes to events or social gatherings, they will find excuses not to attend. Of course, they try to people down in the nicest way possible.
If something happens, the echoist is usually the one who takes the blame. Even if it’s obvious that the blame should fall on someone else or some other situation, the echoist stands in the gap and accepts responsibility. They are actually self-sacrificing.
7. You’re living in someone’s shadow
An echoist tends to live in the shadow of another, usually a narcissistic personality. While the narcissist wallows in the attention of the public, the echoist, which is many times the intimate partner of the narcissist, will live in the background and help praise the narcissist.
Being an echoist can ruin your life
Although echoists are quiet, reserved, and nice people, they cause their own suffering much of the time. Aside from the abuse experienced by any narcissistic relations, their self-defeating behavior prevents them from advancing in life. The echoist’s life can surely be ruined by these other characteristics.
- Insulting themselves
- Refusing special treatment
- Struggling with anxiety and depression
- Low self-esteem
- Relationships with narcissists
Moving from Echoism to Normalcy
Although it’s wonderful to be a selfless person, you can go too far sometimes. You can end up feeling exactly as low as you try to keep yourself. It’s important to remember you’re true feelings and let them show sometimes, lifting you up.
It’s okay to be introverted, but why not swallow your pride and ask for help sometimes. And even though you might not prefer the spotlight, it’s good to appreciate just a few compliments every now and then.
If you’re an echoist or know someone who is, remember that it’s not necessary to stay at the complete opposite end of the spectrum from the narcissist. In fact, balancing your pride and selflessness is the best way to go. It might take time to learn this, but when you do, life will seem much happier. You will even start reaching for goals and attaining dreams with your new good self-confidence.
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