Some Myers-Briggs personalities are so rare they deserve closer scrutiny. The INTJ female is one such example.
Making up just under 1% of the world’s population, notable INTJ females include Jane Austen, Susan Sontag, Lise Meitner, and Emily Jane Brontë, to name just a few. So what are the traits of the fascinating INTJ personality?
INTJ stands for Introverted, Intuition, Thinker, and Judgment.
Female INTJs are private individuals who do not act like ‘girly’ girls. They are not interested in being feminine. They don’t care if men notice them for their looks. Instead, they focus on competence and knowledge.
For INTJ women, knowledge is power. They use logic and reasoning over emotions and other people’s feelings. So long as the job is done and done well, it doesn’t bother them if they upset a few people along the way.
They will stand up to authority if they believe authority is wrong. They instinctively know the right way to do things and can get impatient when others need explanations.
INTJ females don’t need validation from other people to raise their self-esteem or confidence. They have an inbuilt sense of self from years of gathering knowledge and gaining qualifications. So it is this that forms her core being and INTJ personality. Not platitudes from friends or lovers.
However, she does enjoy being noticed for her intelligence and will quietly notch up wins in her mental notebook. If she is studying with others, she’ll have to get the best grades. Not to show off, but to prove to herself that she is the best.
A woman with the INTJ personality will have a few close friends that she’s known for years, decades probably. These friends know to give her space, and not to take offence at her dry comments. They know not to turn up uninvited and that the best gift to buy for her is a book on whatever she’s currently studying or interested in.
INTJ females are natural leaders, but not in an alpha-male kind of way. They steer from the back of the room, quietly but purposefully, guiding others to the same conclusions as theirs.
These women don’t care about the court of public opinion. In fact, they’re quite happy sticking their neck out in opposition to the view of the crowd, if they know they’re right. And, they always know they’re right.
The typical INTJ female is a confident and independent woman who doesn’t need a partner to make her whole. She’s perfectly happy to be on her own. Actually, she’d rather be alone than in a restricting relationship.
Growing up, the INTJ teenager will rebel against what she considers to be unfair and unjust. She’s used to being separate, an outsider if you will. In fact, she has known from an early age she is different.
You can easily spot an INTJ girl at school. When all the other pupils are working on their chosen projects of dogs, cats, or football, she’s engrossed in her electricity project.
But scratch the surface and there’s a wonderful depth to her understanding. If an INTJ woman folds you into her inner circle, it’s likely you’ll never leave or need another friend again. However, you have to break through her tough, self-constructed barrier first. After all, it’s there to protect her fragile heart. Because once this woman falls in love, it’s forever.
So she sets herculean tests to potential suitors. Pass these tests and you will be allowed entry into her sacred inner circle. Those that fail were never her type in the first place.
The INTJ female is a fascinating character. A contradiction, a paradox, a puzzle to be solved if you will. She’s set herself up this way to dispense with those timewasters. She’s full of quirks, qualities, and intriguing traits. But that’s not to say she doesn’t have her own personal struggles in life.
I’ve already established that this female doesn’t do well with authority. Especially if she sees incompetence or a better way to do things. A woman with the INTJ personality type is not afraid of calling out the top bosses for their faults. But she won’t understand why this does her no favours with fellow workers.
I mean, doesn’t everyone want the best solution to a problem? Does it matter who comes up with the idea so long as it works? This woman has no guile. She won’t play party politics and although she may get the result she wanted, she’ll be hurt by her colleague’s reactions to her.
The other problem a female INTJ will face is that because of her standoffish nature, people will think she is a snob. Her co-workers may think that she looks down on them. When in fact, the reverse is true. Anyone grafting an honest day’s work has her admiration. It’s laziness that appals her.
Her friends will be few and far between, but she’ll have known them for decades. These friends will be fiercely defensive of her, and they’ll have to be because this female doesn’t take fools gladly.
An INTJ woman also has a dry, dark sense of humour. She delivers her punchlines with aplomb, with her sharp, cutting tongue. Once you get to know her, you get this dark humour. Remember, her humour is one way of weeding out timewasters.
Another point is that an INTJ will want nothing to do with the types who post selfies on social media. Or those who try and garner sympathy from others’ tragedies. She knows that to be a well-rounded person you need validation from the inside, and not other people’s opinions.
As I said earlier, this woman won’t settle just to be in a relationship. She’d much rather be on her own. A female INTJ may not want children either. Actually, you could say she doesn’t really have a maternal bone in her. But she does love animals. And she may have several pets that she adores.
Men would say this woman is a hard nut to crack. She’ll need a partner that she believes is superior to her. She likes a challenge and, therefore, she can’t date someone of lesser intelligence.
I would like to finish with a quote that perfectly sums up the INTJ female:
“And the princess lived happily ever after in her own big castle with all of her own money and she took care of herself. The End.”
Are you an INTJ? Do you relate to the description above? Please share your thoughts with us.
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OMG! This article exactly described who I am, who I've been and who I will continue to be. I don't know what else to say except that I now know there is a specific personality description. I chuckled that it's a "rare" personality. Wish I had know about my personality years ago as it would have spared me considerable emotional pain because I didn't understand my difference from others. In recent years I've gained "strength" from understanding myself and it does make me a force to be reckoned with by those who are unable to deal with an INTJ female!
Thank you so much for your lovely, inspiring article, I am sharing with my friends on social media. Be safe, be happy, and always be protected by God! :)
This is totally me to a T and it never fails on any of the tests I always get intj didn't know I was rare tho what a great article
I believe you are on point with your analysis here, and that strong women are those who were able, and often against great odds, to develop themselves fully. From childhood to adulthood and beyond to a woman's seniority in adulthood, strength of character and a balance of the person's male and female aspects to the personality is extremely important, but not always possible. Fortunate are the ones, the girls and women who can and do master their mental, intellectual, emotional and spiritual lives and faculties to the degree with which they can manifest in this world as leaders and not followers. Girls and women who are in some cases most supported by the angels, and God, to contribute to the world in the way they have chosen to contribute something of importance. Not nothing, not poverty or wealth (yes wealth as an obstacle for some, perhaps many), with nothing blocking their evolution and will to create their own lives and make the kind of contribution they were brought here to deliver. We can and are inspired by your post here, and that we may be inspired by others, their thoughts and their self sacrifice and example, to push ourselves forward, at all stages of live, to be the kind of woman who is willing to do those things. To sacrifice other pleasures, let us say, for example, that we could indulge in, in place of doing the necessary work to contribute something of valor, worth, integrity, beauty, and worthiness. Gifting a contribution that only you or I could manifest, maybe all be inspired to be that type of girl, and woman, and older woman who is unafraid of her God given talents, and gifts, and boldly goes toward building additional strength required of her to change this world and for the better. May each one of us, male and female, be oriented toward this kind of vision and understanding, so that our children, and their children and our neighbors in foreign lands as well, create the kind of world we all deserve to live in, which is well on its way to be born. Evolution moves in increments, and does the human race, our challenge is to live up to what the creator of Creators has given us to add more to this world and take less. It is the for some, the heroes path, the shaman's path, the spiritual as well as military warrior's path. You decide, we decide for ourselves how we will use the miracle of life we have been given. May each one of us live up to the highest, finest manifestation of what we have been so generously given, not to be perfect angels, but to simply be the best that we can be, and consider the earth, the animals, our families, our friends and lovers; the entirety of what it is we are exposed to and which sustains us, individually and collectively. Respect life, respect others, express love, these kinds of things and then later, if you are so gifted. Use your gift as the above mentioned writers and thinkers have. Imperfect and full of love, we are and should be. The rest of it? The glory is to God. We are just His beloved playthings, after all. Am I right? :) Be safe, be happy and always be protected and grateful to God, who gives us everything and whose divine spark we house and contain in this crazy, wonderful world and in all worlds to come. All the glory goes to God. We just get to play here on earth, and sometimes there is time to give back, as these women, and all women who are leaders and creators have done, from the beginning of time, and moving forward, throughout all the time that exists in the future. In the future of the human race, women will continue to contribute in countless ways to the evolution of mankind. We are the primary creators here on earth, and men, treasured for who they are for being different. Men know it too. Respect for women, children, animals, other men and those who are (often remarkably) different than we ourselves are, can take inspiration in knowing or coming to know the women you write of in your article here. These brave women are complete women, strong and tough, tender and loving, may be all be so generously blessed and willing to transform our essential nature, balance ourselves and change the world for the better. Thank you for your patient in reading this, I feel inspired to my sentiments, and thank you for the platform to do so.
Hello, female INTJ here. I agree with your article however, I would add one comment. There is a type of INTJ that doesn't fit 100% with the usual descriptions. There' are a couple of ways to explain this small subgroup. You could call them the turbulent ones or you could describe them as 5w4 in the enneagram system. We have the vast majority of INTJ characteristics but we are ...well... more neurotic. We are more sensitive to public opinion, feel time pressure, judge ourselves harshly and have a hidden core that is emotional, romantic, and artistic. We are HSPs too. I wish I had the strong self-esteem of the INTJ-Assertive. Within an MBTI type that is unusual, we are even more unusual. Kinda tough to feel understood. But we manage.
+pol;+.+Marcia, I agree with you, I am an INTJ-T and also HSP. I took several tests at different times and sites which all came up as INTJ , but on 16personalities dot com it gave this difference between Assertive and Turbulent (nice way of putting it). I found myself very much in there. Do you happen to know if you have planets in the 12th house in your astrological chart?