Two years ago, something terrible happened in our family – my grandfather had a stroke. He fell into a coma and eventually died two days later. This profoundly shocked all of us not only because grandpa was deeply loved and respected by everybody who had the luck to know him but also because we couldn’t imagine that he would go so early and so suddenly.
Shortly after this tragic event, I started to have weird dreams. I was seeing myself visiting my grandpa at his home and feeling quite confused – I was simultaneously glad that he was there again and puzzled trying to understand how it was possible.
In my dreams, he never said a word and replied to my questions about him being there with an enigmatic smile.
These dreams were so regular that I began to wonder whether this might be my grandpa’s soul trying to communicate. If I was a religious person, I would certainly believe that it was so. But I don’t really agree with the views on soul and afterlife as promoted by most of the world religions.
I tend to think that human consciousness – everything that makes us who we are, including our thoughts, memories, and beliefs – is a kind of energy that leaves the body at the moment of death and gets dispersed in the surrounding environment. This basically means that a person’s energy can exist literally everywhere for some time after death and eventually finds itself becoming part of another, newborn creature.
You may think that this sounds quite similar to the known theory of reincarnation; however, the difference is that, in my opinion, it’s not the same soul that makes its journey through ages, traveling from one body to another, but rather a composition of different people’s energies that carries the experiences of multiple lives and individuals.
Moreover, I believe that it’s not only human energy that makes up each person’s consciousness but that all living beings on our planet participate in this eternal cycle of energy exchange. That’s why after death, a person’s soul returns to its starting point and becomes part of the environment again in order to reborn in a new body, saturated by the energies of the Mother Earth and other living creatures.
I wondered whether my grandfather was trying to send me a message or at least to say that he was fine and happy wherever he was.
I supposed that shortly after death, a soul might be in an intermediate state, unable to have the same strong bond with its body and the material world as before but capable of interacting with the living ones. Those who happen to have lost someone will agree that it’s much more comforting to think that your dear one continues to exist somewhere else, far from here, than to think that they have gone forever.
However, after some time, when I began to get used to the fact of my grandpa’s death, I got a chance to look at those dreams in a more rational way. I realized that there was the same pattern in all of them – my grandpa being silent and me having confused feelings.
Yes, unfortunately, it was purely the work of the subconscious mind and had nothing to do with the afterlife. During the last years of my grandfather’s life, I didn’t visit him often and thus found it even more difficult to accept his death than those who were next to him till his last minute.
I refused to believe that the next time I would visit my grandparents’ home, my grandpa wouldn’t be there, and my subconscious mind was trying to show me this confrontation between my expectations (grandfather being there) and the reality (my confusion).
So, if you have recurring dreams of the deceased too, first of all, analyze the content of your dreams and try to find similar patterns in events, surroundings, and your feelings. I know that the idea that your deceased friend or family member is trying to communicate with you may be exciting, but in most cases, it’s the work of your subconscious and not a message from the other side.
It is always hard to accept a less attractive truth, especially in the beginning when the pain of loss is still intense, but it’s necessary to let go of the past and find the courage to go on.
If you have had a similar experience, please share your thoughts in the comments below.
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My mom is still alive but we have a rocky relationship. She is 94 yrs old and in great health. She is a very unhappy person but she covers up her misery and pretends she's fine. In my dream I was driving down a road ahead of me I saw two women walking. They were laughing and enjoying themselves. One woman turned around smiling and waved at me to come up to them. I stopped the car because I didn't want to pick them up. When she turned towards me I realized it was my mom, the other woman looked my way and it was my cousin who had died a few years ago. I didn't move my car, I didn't want to be near them. I wasn't afraid, just wanted them to walk away. Why would I dream of my mom, who is alive, walking with my cousin? She was very happy in the dream, not at all like she is now.
I dreamed I was in a room...very bare. There was an orderly, dressed as I recall in white. He was standing next to a trolley which he had previously been moving and on the trolley was the body of my deceased mother. She came out of her body and we hugged each other for a long time. I was crying and repeated over and over 'I love you mom'. It was highly emotional. In the background stood my father (also deceased) some way away. He did not move but was looking on. I dreamed this about 2 weeks ago and can still visualise it very clearly. I would be grateful for any help with understanding this.
Anna,i find the way you have adressed the issue of the subconscious quite intriguing I must say but as much as rationally the dreams involved you coming to terms with the death of your grandfather could it also not be that somehow your grandfather's subconscious energy was all around you and this is what triggered the dreams? I mean how do we explain the way mediums convey accurate messages from those long dead? And how does this relate to the belief that death is the end of life? I believe that the human body is merely a vessel of the true person inside us.. We all are spiritual beings but being inside this vessels is what makes us human beings and when this vessels die we return back to our conscious reality If you think of it this way this would explain alot of things like why people say things like see you in the next life or seem to recall memories of times or things of another time
My name is Samantha and my parents had stage four cancer. My mom passed away first and two days later my dad passed away. Ever since then I have weird dream of them dying each time is different. I have these dreams every night. Sometimes I think I might be going crazy. I just want to know what it means. Also I have dreams about a wooden door and a long hallway.
I have had dreams of my deceased mother multiple times that she had come back to life. I have a lot of guilt about the way things were between us when she had died although we were very close, I was not with her when she passed. It has been almost 2 years since she passed. My dreams were always the same, she was dead then she was alive again. Tonight however, I had a dream that my dad was dead and came back to life. He has been dead almost 5 years. In this dream my mom was there but my dad manifested in front of us and said "I am the same age". I guess he meant that he was the same age as when he died? This is the first dream I had that my dad came back. The dreams about my mom,although all the same meaning, were all different in the sense that they were from different stages of her life but all were same meaning behind it..that she was dead then alive again. I am really confused why all of a sudden I am dreaming about my dad in the same way I had dreamed of my mom when I really dont have the guilt with him that I do with my mom.