What do the dreams of the deceased mean? Are they actually messages from the spirit world or just a product of our subconsciousness?

Two years ago, something terrible happened in our family – my grandfather had a stroke. He fell into a coma and eventually died two days later. This profoundly shocked all of us not only because grandpa was deeply loved and respected by everybody who had the luck to know him but also because we couldn’t imagine that he would go so early and so suddenly.

Shortly after this tragic event, I started to have weird dreams. I was seeing myself visiting my grandpa at his home and feeling quite confused – I was simultaneously glad that he was there again and puzzled trying to understand how it was possible.

In my dreams, he never said a word and replied to my questions about him being there with an enigmatic smile.

My view of what happens after death

These dreams were so regular that I began to wonder whether this might be my grandpa’s soul trying to communicate. If I was a religious person, I would certainly believe that it was so. But I don’t really agree with the views on soul and afterlife as promoted by most of the world religions.

I tend to think that human consciousness – everything that makes us who we are, including our thoughts, memories, and beliefs – is a kind of energy that leaves the body at the moment of death and gets dispersed in the surrounding environment. This basically means that a person’s energy can exist literally everywhere for some time after death and eventually finds itself becoming part of another, newborn creature.

You may think that this sounds quite similar to the known theory of reincarnation; however, the difference is that, in my opinion, it’s not the same soul that makes its journey through ages, traveling from one body to another, but rather a composition of different people’s energies that carries the experiences of multiple lives and individuals.

Moreover, I believe that it’s not only human energy that makes up each person’s consciousness but that all living beings on our planet participate in this eternal cycle of energy exchange. That’s why after death, a person’s soul returns to its starting point and becomes part of the environment again in order to reborn in a new body, saturated by the energies of the Mother Earth and other living creatures.

But let’s go back to the dreams of the deceased.

I wondered whether my grandfather was trying to send me a message or at least to say that he was fine and happy wherever he was.

I supposed that shortly after death, a soul might be in an intermediate state, unable to have the same strong bond with its body and the material world as before but capable of interacting with the living ones. Those who happen to have lost someone will agree that it’s much more comforting to think that your dear one continues to exist somewhere else, far from here, than to think that they have gone forever.

Analysis of the dreams of the deceased

However, after some time, when I began to get used to the fact of my grandpa’s death, I got a chance to look at those dreams in a more rational way. I realized that there was the same pattern in all of them – my grandpa being silent and me having confused feelings.

Yes, unfortunately, it was purely the work of the subconscious mind and had nothing to do with the afterlife. During the last years of my grandfather’s life, I didn’t visit him often and thus found it even more difficult to accept his death than those who were next to him till his last minute.

I refused to believe that the next time I would visit my grandparents’ home, my grandpa wouldn’t be there, and my subconscious mind was trying to show me this confrontation between my expectations (grandfather being there) and the reality (my confusion).

So, if you have recurring dreams of the deceased too, first of all, analyze the content of your dreams and try to find similar patterns in events, surroundings, and your feelings. I know that the idea that your deceased friend or family member is trying to communicate with you may be exciting, but in most cases, it’s the work of your subconscious and not a message from the other side.

It is always hard to accept a less attractive truth, especially in the beginning when the pain of loss is still intense, but it’s necessary to let go of the past and find the courage to go on.

If you have had a similar experience, please share your thoughts in the comments below.

Anna LeMind, B.A.

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    Jasmine T

    My father passed away 25 years ago when I was 4 almost 5 years old in November of 1994 and the morning of April 5 2019 I had a dream that my brother called me and told me our father was alive and to come quick to our old house that we last lived in with our father I got to the house in the morning and my brother and his wife and kids was sleeping on the floor and on the couch they woke up and i walked in I ask where was our dad my brother pointed to the small couch and said he sleep under the cover my brother called out to my father and said Jas here my father came from under the cover and he pretty much looked the same expect his face was more round and his eyes were glowing neon orange I was confused but I didn’t say anything about his eyes in my dream I opened my arms for a hug my father hugged me for a minute and we let go I asked how was he alive because he had died he said he was with scientists and he was exposed to science for 25 years my brother said they were leaving because they had to go to their house to do somethings and in my dream I thought my brother was trying to leave because we don’t get along that great so in my dream I mouthed to my father that we don’t get along that well I told my brother he could stay because I wasn’t staying long because I had some running around to do so my brother’s wife and son left and my brother and his daughter stayed so in my dream me my brother my daughter my niece and my dad sat in the living room and I asked so how after 25 years the scientists let u go and you still look the same he just answered every question with “it was science” I was really confused in my dream so next the girls went outside to play and my brother and father went upstair from the back of the kitchen so sometime later my father and my brother call me to come upstair and when I got to the stairs I could tell it was going to be hard to get up them the house was old and I’m pretty much the same condition it was left in it was tons of dirty clothes everywhere in my dream I asked how am I going to get up these stair my father said you can do it just try and stay on the side where the clothes are not at so I did it felt like took forever to get up the stairs and when I did I came into the 1st bedroom and my father said this is you and your daughter’s room I’m not finished with it yet but it will be better than this and I looked around confused wondering why would they make a room for me in my dream I asked y’all do know I’m grown with my own house my father said I know but then my brother cut in an said we know dad wanted us to come move with him since he was back and gone for so long he just want to get to know us and then he said me my wife and kids are coming are u and your daughter I said I don’t know and went back downstairs one of my father’s friends showed up and they went into the backyard to see if they could fix a car I ordered a uber to leave my Uber showed up and was sitting waiting for me and then I woke back up. I have been wondering about this dream all day and what does that dream mean and why was my father’s eyes glowing a bright neon orange…….

    Now a little on reality my father always looked like my brothers to me one have passed away and one is alive but in my dream I could see more of my daughter in him but they look alike to me as well because you know he’s my father an she is my child my father’s original eye color was like a Sandy Brown in reality the old house didn’t have a back stair case and the kitchen was closer to the front door and the room in my dream was the same room my dad committed suicide in and I found him first and then my brother were right behind me. An in reality I love my father but when I was a young teen I would have flashes and visions and dreams of my father molesting me and I never knew what the visions,flashes and dream meant until I started talking to a therapist and she informed me that something so traumatic can happens that our brains block the memories and the pain an she believed that something so traumatic happened to me as a child that my brain blocked the memories and the pain so she recommended to put me under hypnosis it took me a while to agree and when I did she recorded me they hole time while I was under I gave her every play by play detail and who was doing the things to me when my therapist brought me back to reality I didn’t remember anything and she told me about the things I said and who was doing them to me and I didn’t believe her she played back the recording and I was in shock and I still couldn’t believe it. It took me years to believe it after the hypnosis I switched my therapist and I tried to move forward with my treatment but I would still get flashes,visions and dreams of this very traumatic time in my life like I was reliving it every time it came to me. At the time I started getting the flashes,visions and dreams I was missing my father and looking for answers on who he was and I was lied to by his side of the family so I was a lost girl missing her father. The flashes,visions and dreams continued for years to come the first person I told about this traumatic event that happened in my life is my little brother(we shared the same father) he cried with me and he told me I was strong and I could move pass it and he said the best thing about it is it’s a blocked memory he encouraged me to tell my mom but I wasn’t ready for that at the moment…..how could I tell her that a man she loved a man she made 3 babies with had did this to her 2nd child her 1st daughter….months after I told my little brother he committed suicide in our apartment we shared together the same way we found our father after the passing of my brother I worked up the courage to tell my mom she cried for me and couldn’t imagine what I had endured over the time my father had custody of us and when she was done crying she said baby you know God does everything for a reason and he didn’t want you to grow up and be messed up because you are strong you are powerful and God has a plane for you. Eventually I told my other little brother (not the same father) and his wife and they also told me I was strong and I can weather any storm with God’s help….all those years of my life I was already struggling with depression on top of having a baby and the postpartum depression catching up to me…I started to feel a little relief I also moved on to tell my daughter’s father and I felt better with every important person in my life knowing about this traumatic event that happen in my life the only person that didn’t know was my older brother(we shared the same father) I never wanted to tell him because our sibling relationship and personal relationship was never really that great so in turn I didn’t feel the need to tell him something about his father violating his sister at such a young age…a few years later our mom was in the hospital it was a lot of mixed feelings in the room me and my mom’s husband was always into it because he tried to sleep with me when I was younger and I told on him so he hates seeing me around my mom so my brother asked me why do I hate men I said I don’t hate men I don’t hate anyone it not in my DNA to hate anyone because my mother always told me hating someone will make you bitter you can never move on with your life so I don’t hate anyone. My mom turned to me and asked me to tell him what has had me so angry for so long and why I can’t stand anyone being violated so I told her no I had no intentions on telling him that. Because my brother loves his father as much as I did because before I knew my father had did that to me I adored him I loved his whole life(I still love him,but in away of thank you for bringing me in this world kind of love)he loves him even more because he identify with our father side of the family and I identify with our mother side of the family so I told my mom no twice and than my older brother said tell me what so I turned to him and told him what our father did to me he didn’t believe me and honestly to this day I feel that he doesn’t believe me but I don’t care all I know is my soul is free and not tied down by pain my older brother asked me is that true did he really do that to me I told him all I can say is yes I was was hypnotized to reveal the blocked memories I listened to the recording of myself but the flashes,visions and dreams didn’t stop until I told someone so all I can say is yea that happened it’s real to this day my brother and I don’t really interact with each other he told my mom me and Jas will never be cool and I wondered why would he speak that into existence and I had to remember I was forced to tell him about the traumatic event that happened to me by the hands of his father so everyday that goes by I don’t regret telling him because I was fully free after I told him I believe that’s why in my dream I mouthed to our father that we don’t really get along

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    Bethany St Andrew

    I don’t believe that every dream I have off a deceased person means it is a visitation, but I don know I have been visited. I wonder if anyone else has ever had this happen to them . It started when I was 17. My grandfather passed away suddenly and about 1 month after I remember dreaming about him. Then my aunt passed away when I was 20. Again the same thing ( although that dream I can remember).Essentially all of my close family has passed and I had dreams ( still do – just had one last night.) In fact, my oldest brother John had appeared in a couple in 2016 and he was angry about something, although I couldn’t figure out what or why. ( Because of family differences in 2006 when my parents passed away , I chose not to speak to him) . Then my first words when I made my yearly trek to our family gravesite “so that’s why I have been dreaming about him.” He had passed on January 11,2016. After that, I have only dreamt about him a couple of times but I have been in contact with my SIL and nephew. Has anyone ever had more than one person visit them?

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    Barbara Lentz

    My son passed away a few weeks ago. I had a dream he called and told me he had 5 teeth pulled. I answered and I said 5. Then I woke up. When my son was alive he called about 5 times a week. I am heartbroken. I miss him terribly.

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    Francisco Pardo

    I had a dream of one of my friends that past away and I always wanted to know how he has been ever since he passed away ..when I had the dream I was with his mom inside a grocery store at the checkout line and I was also with some friends that I’ve never seen before but one of them had a vibe and a connection that I felt like my friend that past away was inside that random persons body ..and when it clicked to me that that’s my friend they smiled at me like if everything was okay .. could it be a message from what I’ve been trying to ask him ????

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    I just had a dream that my late husband who passed away 5 years ago told me that he wanted a divorce cause he was away for so long that he fond happiness with another and that I need to move on and be with the man I’m married to today and in my dream my late husband looked the same and my new husband was in it and looked the same and my late husband told me to go to him in my dream I cryed and didnt want a divorce so he agreed we wouldn’t get one just to make me happy but he will still be with what makes him happy so at the end of the dream I agreed to the divorce and we signed the papers and we were both happy and I walked into my new home with my now real husband (I think I k ow what the dream means from my late husband cause I asked for a sign the the other day so I know if he approves of this man or not and I been blaming myself for his death since he passed but I want to see if others know what the dream means incase I’m wrong)

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    I had a dream of my husband flirting with other women. I yelled and screamed at him in my dream. Then I was dancing with my grandpa who is deceased. He was also dead in my dream but I was dancing with him and he was smiling and made me happy. No one else in my dream could see him so it looked like I was dancing alone.

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    I dream about my deceased mother every single night. We are always out having fun on vacation in Florida or buying a house for my entire family to live in. Those dreams aren’t reoccurring. The dream that I’m riding a bike on the interstate trying to get to my moms house because she still lives there and is alive is a constant recurring dream. It’s affected my sleep because falling asleep and having her alive in my dreams and waking to the painful reminder that she is no longer alive. My mother and I were like two wild sisters. We were so close and always had an amazing time together.

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    Sarbjeet singh

    I saw that my dead mother is strangling me from behind in my dreams

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    A coworker recently lost her son to an overdose. I never met her son and have only worked with her for less than 6 months. I have seen pictures of him and know his name but other than that I have no association with him. About a week ago I had a dream of him telling me “I am ok” I am not a religious person. His face was so vivid but why would I dream of him?

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    Bob Anton

    I dreamed last night that my grown son, who lives with me, came into my bedroom to tell me that my dear wife of 46 years was on the phone and wanted to talk to me. She has been gone for 11 months now; should I be getting over my sadness, and am I going nuts?

    I am 78 years old.

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    My uncle died at the age 15, his friend accidentally shot him at home. The friend thought our family hater him and apologized to my mom as soon as she returned to school. Last night I had a dream. I was with some friends, trying to get home from a ver far distance. Along the way we ran into the guy who shot my uncle. He seemed deep in grief about my uncle, I had a bull dog clock from my uncle (odd enough because I don’t have one, but he did love bull dogs) and his friend had saw it and become sad. I was a bit harsh towards him then me and my friends continued on our way. We ended up seeing the guy who shot my uncle, his group of friends, and my alive uncle on a bus. The thing of it is, I always wanted to meet my uncle (seeing as he died before I was born) and no one ever tells me much. But my grandpa said he’s just like my Uncle now (Who just got his gf prego, he’s only 15) and went as far as to say they walk, talk, and act alike so much that he believes my dead uncle is alive in my troubled uncle. And in my dream I saw my alive uncle drinking. My dad came in and woke me up at this point. Why would I have dreamed of the guy who shot my uncle and why?? It troubles me so much

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      My grandad has been in a comma for about 2 weeks, and very recently had an operation, we r waiting on him to wake up but he is struggling, so he is going to have a tracheotomy done today.last night I had a dream that I was arguing with a cousin of mine(I can’t remember why) but we came downstairs and I saw my grandad standing in my kitchen, I walked over to him and instantly started crying but I felt joy and I said “you’re out” and he said yes, he then walked over to our living room and sat on the sofa. At this point I realised he had the tracheotomy in his throat, so I told he that he wasn’t able to go home, his response was that he can’t share a bed with me, and I remember saying you can sleep on the sofa, and he said ‘yes lovely’( my grandad hasn’t got very good English and his accent was very heavy, it sounded exactly like him) I remember turning to my cousin and wondering why she wasn’t intruders in my grandad being there/ she was just on her phone, everything seemed normal, but I remember the feeling of excitement and it generally felt real , It truly felt as if he was fine and out of the comma, I then woke up. I can’t tell what this dream meant but I’d like to think it’s something good. Pleas respond if u have any idea what this may mean.

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    Had a dream of my sister that has passed away since 2000 a few days ago. Then on 9/14/2019 Saturday, had a dream of a High School acquaintance, he passed in 1979 or 1980 while attending college. That is the second time within a week that I dreamed those who have passed.

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    Jaime Rodriguez

    I dreamt my dead brother came to warn me ..he said that betrayals come in twos’ & one is cold & one is hot and usually by someone very close & dear to me or someone i deal with daily? He went on to point at two spots at my upper back and said here & here is where it’d happen & to be careful??? The weird thing is that in my dream my gf was asleep behind me kinda like spooning me & all of a sudden she disappeared & it’s my brother warning me about getting stabbed in the back by someone i love??? Please help me intrepet this dream so i dont start thinking my gf is betraying me??!!!

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    I always dream of my first love in high school not as in always like everyday its like after a few months I will dream of him again. The scenario on that dream is sometimes he’s happy being with its looks like the old days when we’ll still in high school. He died because of the open electric circuit while putting a bulb on a disco area where people gather for festival. They said he’s asking for a water not knowing that the circuit is open and that time he fell down and got bleed on his head. He still alive when they bring him to the hospital but he ask for a water again then the nurse gave him a water but because the body is still on shock, he died.

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    Margie Elsabie

    My Fiancee and oldest daughter was very close she couldnt wait to meet him and her little sister and little brother hose was the last words she told him in a message 6 days b4 leaving this world unfortunately they only met thru messages and video chat. the other night I had a dream that him and his children had a 10 hour flight delay in my city. I picked them up at the airport and brought them home for the delay time . my youngest daughter stayed outside with the children. My dead mom and dead daughter was inside my home. when him and I came in I told them him and I was going to my room to talk. after 30 mins or so my mom told my daughter to co check on us. she was not dumb and knew we was doing more then talking so she pretended to open my door and tell my mom we was ok we was just talking. I was grown with three grown daughters not sure why my mom would think I needed to be checked up on, but I do know my daughter wasnt gonna tell her what she obviously knew what we was doing. I have read many conflicting things about it is a good sign to it is a bad sign so I am just as confused as ever. can someone help me.

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    What does it mean when u dream about your partners partner which is now deceased they laying down together I was standing up

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    Kim Tanzer

    My mother just passed 6 days ago, on Christmas morning. Last night I dreamed that she called me on the phone and was chatting away. When I said to her, “Mom, how are you doing this?” To which she replied , “What do you mean?” And I said, “You’re dead” And in her voice the response back to me was, “No she isn’t.” I found this dream VERY disturbing because the voice of my mother used the wrong pronoun. I don’t know what that means andI’m concerned that something from the other side might be messing with me. What are your thoughts on this dream? Thank you for any feedback.

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      Time heals most

      I’m really sorry to hear about your mother. And around the holidays of all things. My condolences.
      It really sounds as if you’re talking to yourself on the phone here. As if you’re not fully ready to understand that your mother is gone. It’s only been six days, give it some time. Much love and peace be with you.
      Blessed be my friend.

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    Within the last 5 days i have dreamt of literally everybody that has passed in my family my sister, my niece, grandma, my aunt, my brother and dad whom both passed within this year

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    Within the last week or so, I have dreamed of everyone I’ve lost. My dad, both grandmas, grandfather, uncle, and cousin. More than not, I seem to be arguing with one of my grandmothers. (She died after having numerous strokes).
    My other grandmother, uncle, and grandfather, (I always feel like they’re back from the dead. I ask myself in my dream, how are you alive again.) -grandmother, stroke and coma.
    Uncle, cancer and my grandfather died of old age.
    When I dream of my cousin who died of an over dose.. Its always extremely weird. Like I refuse to even talk about it, kinda weird.
    And my dad who shot himself… He never says anything. We never talk.. I just pass by him as if he’s background ppl.
    🥺 I’m not really asking for anyone to help me understand. Maybe I just need to get this out on paper and out of my head. So here it is.

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      likewise, my mom passed dec 8th at 6:32 pm .. funeral december 16th. two nights ago (today being one month after she passed) i had a dream that she came into and was pointing to me with her index finger as if to wagg it at me.. while saying :Take care of those children’. it was disturbing because I do what all I can when I can with respect to my two kids ages 14 and 16. I am not financially stable as it is and I guess maybe I must be feeling guilty that I cannot do enough for my kids as other’s seem to be able to do. Her expression was not the happy go lucky woman that I know and knew pretty much regularly. So I was rather taken back feeling like I’m not doing enough. This bothered me.. in the dream however, I was continually loving and elated to see her .. but sorrowful because of her concern/facial expression and message.

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    It’s been 28 years since I lost my father, last night I had a dream that was as vivid as looking at someone today, we were waiting for a Christmas parade to come down our street (which it has never done before) He said let’s go in the house and wait. My large window that I have in my family room which faces my backyard was now in my front of my house facing the street, and a mattress as long as the window was there in front of it he laid down on one end and I was on the other with my granddaughter who all of a sudden appeared and my youngest grandson walked in as well. That was the point I was woken up to not finish the dream.I’m just not sure what that dream was meant to convey to me, I have had dreams that were more like memories to me but this one was strange

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    Paula Preti

    My mom passed away Nov 2018 having lived with me and my husband for 18 years. I dreamt last night she and my son, as a small child, were drowning in what I assume an ocean as there were huge waves. I swam out to them and she gave me my son. We swam to a dock. Handed my son to stranger to hold and looked for my mom and she was gone. She never spoke to me.

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    Shanta Grover

    I had a dream that me and my recently deceased mother was in a car together first i was driving then she was driving but she wouldnt hig the brakes i guess i was so shocked my mother was there i was trying to either get a pucture or record her but for some reason my phone woukdnt go to camersw when she seen what i was trying to do she said dont record her or take her picture it was so real

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    Charlene Emery

    I dream mostly every night. When I dream of my parents my father usually doesn’t talk but my mother does. In my dream I am always looking for them because they are going somewhere and I want to go with them. They always tell me know. They tell my sister she can go with them but they never allow me. My sister usually doesn’t go with them either but I am always crying because they won’t let me go. My father he will be dead for 30 yrs. and my mom gone for 9 yrs. I see uncles and aunts also.

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    Rhonda Clark

    My deceased mother came to me in a dream the floors were white the furniture’s were white the walls were all clear glass she was wearing all white her hair is beautiful her makeup she look young and healthy she hugged me tell me she love me and wanted me to know the cancer did not take her it was her heart we walked and held hands I remember waking up crying and it felt real I had another dream where she and two other people were in a bedroom hanging out and talking and I walked in and I was like oh my God you’re alive and I ran to her and she fell back on one of the beds I was hugging her and kissing her just couldn’t believe it she’s pushing me away looking at me like I’m crazy and so was the other people something screamed real loud in the front of my face and I woke up

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    Nola Warmate

    I have had 3 out of body experiences. Now my Dr. wants me to have a sleep study. The most visual experience is my now deceased fiance witnessed me speaking while I was transistioned to Heaven and met Christ. I went through a cloud and suddenly in His presence at his feet. I shouted out Wow! at the radiance of Heaven and felt I should say something more spiritual than Wow, so I said Halleuijah! Then Christ spoke and said this is the Third Heaven.

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    Jaianna Grant

    My 13-year-old son was shot in the head at a sleepover on May 4th, 2019 and pronounced brain dead 2 days later. Today actually marks 1 year and 1 month since the shooting. A few nights ago, I dreamt of him for the first time since he has been gone. In my dream, we were at the Huck’s in our hometown. We were standing at the fountain machine getting Mountain Dews and kind of horsing around. He looked just a little younger than he did at the time of his death, but I knew in the dream that he was dead. I asked him if he knew what happened to him like I was asking about the weather.. he said “yea, mom, but I’m good.” He stabbed his straw into the lid, gave me a grin, and walked away. And I was fine with it. I was at ease. I wasn’t frantically trying to continue talking to him. I didn’t cry or scream. I didn’t chase after him, desperate to hold him. I just felt comforted. I heard his voice. I looked in his beautiful eyes and saw his smile. I got to touch his gorgeous curly red hair. I want this to have been a visit from him, but I am also a skeptic and it could have simply just been a dream about my sweet boy. Any thoughts?

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    Both my mother and step-father (divorced a long time ago, yet remained best of friends have past away. My step-father around 10 years ago, and my mother suddenly passed Jan 30, 2020. My 92 year old grandmother is still alive and Ive been the one taking care of her the best I can as she lives in another state. BOTH my parents come to me together in reoccurring dreams where they have something to show me, yet they wont show me. One says “we need to show her” the other says “No not yet” and it goes back and forth between them. I am at a loss as to what they are trying to tell me. Its driving me mad.

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    my grandfather passed away about 5 months ago and I have had a dream of him last night for the first time. I had friends over at my house and we were having a good time. A voice called out from the other room saying “can I come out now?” and I said no but one of my friends replied yes. My grandfather came walking into the kitchen that we were in and he appeared much younger and healthy than when he had passed. I began to yell at him to leave continually in a strong voice. Can someone help me understand what this means it has been stuck on my mind all day?

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