Two years ago, something terrible happened in our family – my grandfather had a stroke. He fell into a coma and eventually died two days later. This profoundly shocked all of us not only because grandpa was deeply loved and respected by everybody who had the luck to know him but also because we couldn’t imagine that he would go so early and so suddenly.
Shortly after this tragic event, I started to have weird dreams. I was seeing myself visiting my grandpa at his home and feeling quite confused – I was simultaneously glad that he was there again and puzzled trying to understand how it was possible.
In my dreams, he never said a word and replied to my questions about him being there with an enigmatic smile.
These dreams were so regular that I began to wonder whether this might be my grandpa’s soul trying to communicate. If I was a religious person, I would certainly believe that it was so. But I don’t really agree with the views on soul and afterlife as promoted by most of the world religions.
I tend to think that human consciousness – everything that makes us who we are, including our thoughts, memories, and beliefs – is a kind of energy that leaves the body at the moment of death and gets dispersed in the surrounding environment. This basically means that a person’s energy can exist literally everywhere for some time after death and eventually finds itself becoming part of another, newborn creature.
You may think that this sounds quite similar to the known theory of reincarnation; however, the difference is that, in my opinion, it’s not the same soul that makes its journey through ages, traveling from one body to another, but rather a composition of different people’s energies that carries the experiences of multiple lives and individuals.
Moreover, I believe that it’s not only human energy that makes up each person’s consciousness but that all living beings on our planet participate in this eternal cycle of energy exchange. That’s why after death, a person’s soul returns to its starting point and becomes part of the environment again in order to reborn in a new body, saturated by the energies of the Mother Earth and other living creatures.
I wondered whether my grandfather was trying to send me a message or at least to say that he was fine and happy wherever he was.
I supposed that shortly after death, a soul might be in an intermediate state, unable to have the same strong bond with its body and the material world as before but capable of interacting with the living ones. Those who happen to have lost someone will agree that it’s much more comforting to think that your dear one continues to exist somewhere else, far from here, than to think that they have gone forever.
However, after some time, when I began to get used to the fact of my grandpa’s death, I got a chance to look at those dreams in a more rational way. I realized that there was the same pattern in all of them – my grandpa being silent and me having confused feelings.
Yes, unfortunately, it was purely the work of the subconscious mind and had nothing to do with the afterlife. During the last years of my grandfather’s life, I didn’t visit him often and thus found it even more difficult to accept his death than those who were next to him till his last minute.
I refused to believe that the next time I would visit my grandparents’ home, my grandpa wouldn’t be there, and my subconscious mind was trying to show me this confrontation between my expectations (grandfather being there) and the reality (my confusion).
So, if you have recurring dreams of the deceased too, first of all, analyze the content of your dreams and try to find similar patterns in events, surroundings, and your feelings. I know that the idea that your deceased friend or family member is trying to communicate with you may be exciting, but in most cases, it’s the work of your subconscious and not a message from the other side.
It is always hard to accept a less attractive truth, especially in the beginning when the pain of loss is still intense, but it’s necessary to let go of the past and find the courage to go on.
If you have had a similar experience, please share your thoughts in the comments below.
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My Fiancee and oldest daughter was very close she couldnt wait to meet him and her little sister and little brother hose was the last words she told him in a message 6 days b4 leaving this world unfortunately they only met thru messages and video chat. the other night I had a dream that him and his children had a 10 hour flight delay in my city. I picked them up at the airport and brought them home for the delay time . my youngest daughter stayed outside with the children. My dead mom and dead daughter was inside my home. when him and I came in I told them him and I was going to my room to talk. after 30 mins or so my mom told my daughter to co check on us. she was not dumb and knew we was doing more then talking so she pretended to open my door and tell my mom we was ok we was just talking. I was grown with three grown daughters not sure why my mom would think I needed to be checked up on, but I do know my daughter wasnt gonna tell her what she obviously knew what we was doing. I have read many conflicting things about it is a good sign to it is a bad sign so I am just as confused as ever. can someone help me.
What does it mean when u dream about your partners partner which is now deceased they laying down together I was standing up
My mother just passed 6 days ago, on Christmas morning. Last night I dreamed that she called me on the phone and was chatting away. When I said to her, "Mom, how are you doing this?" To which she replied , "What do you mean?" And I said, "You're dead" And in her voice the response back to me was, "No she isn't." I found this dream VERY disturbing because the voice of my mother used the wrong pronoun. I don't know what that means andI'm concerned that something from the other side might be messing with me. What are your thoughts on this dream? Thank you for any feedback.
I'm really sorry to hear about your mother. And around the holidays of all things. My condolences.
It really sounds as if you're talking to yourself on the phone here. As if you're not fully ready to understand that your mother is gone. It's only been six days, give it some time. Much love and peace be with you.
Blessed be my friend.
Within the last 5 days i have dreamt of literally everybody that has passed in my family my sister, my niece, grandma, my aunt, my brother and dad whom both passed within this year
Within the last week or so, I have dreamed of everyone I've lost. My dad, both grandmas, grandfather, uncle, and cousin. More than not, I seem to be arguing with one of my grandmothers. (She died after having numerous strokes).
My other grandmother, uncle, and grandfather, (I always feel like they're back from the dead. I ask myself in my dream, how are you alive again.) -grandmother, stroke and coma.
Uncle, cancer and my grandfather died of old age.
When I dream of my cousin who died of an over dose.. Its always extremely weird. Like I refuse to even talk about it, kinda weird.
And my dad who shot himself... He never says anything. We never talk.. I just pass by him as if he's background ppl.
🥺 I'm not really asking for anyone to help me understand. Maybe I just need to get this out on paper and out of my head. So here it is.
likewise, my mom passed dec 8th at 6:32 pm .. funeral december 16th. two nights ago (today being one month after she passed) i had a dream that she came into and was pointing to me with her index finger as if to wagg it at me.. while saying :Take care of those children'. it was disturbing because I do what all I can when I can with respect to my two kids ages 14 and 16. I am not financially stable as it is and I guess maybe I must be feeling guilty that I cannot do enough for my kids as other's seem to be able to do. Her expression was not the happy go lucky woman that I know and knew pretty much regularly. So I was rather taken back feeling like I'm not doing enough. This bothered me.. in the dream however, I was continually loving and elated to see her .. but sorrowful because of her concern/facial expression and message.