Two years ago, something terrible happened in our family – my grandfather had a stroke. He fell into a coma and eventually died two days later. This profoundly shocked all of us not only because grandpa was deeply loved and respected by everybody who had the luck to know him but also because we couldn’t imagine that he would go so early and so suddenly.
Shortly after this tragic event, I started to have weird dreams. I was seeing myself visiting my grandpa at his home and feeling quite confused – I was simultaneously glad that he was there again and puzzled trying to understand how it was possible.
In my dreams, he never said a word and replied to my questions about him being there with an enigmatic smile.
These dreams were so regular that I began to wonder whether this might be my grandpa’s soul trying to communicate. If I was a religious person, I would certainly believe that it was so. But I don’t really agree with the views on soul and afterlife as promoted by most of the world religions.
I tend to think that human consciousness – everything that makes us who we are, including our thoughts, memories, and beliefs – is a kind of energy that leaves the body at the moment of death and gets dispersed in the surrounding environment. This basically means that a person’s energy can exist literally everywhere for some time after death and eventually finds itself becoming part of another, newborn creature.
You may think that this sounds quite similar to the known theory of reincarnation; however, the difference is that, in my opinion, it’s not the same soul that makes its journey through ages, traveling from one body to another, but rather a composition of different people’s energies that carries the experiences of multiple lives and individuals.
Moreover, I believe that it’s not only human energy that makes up each person’s consciousness but that all living beings on our planet participate in this eternal cycle of energy exchange. That’s why after death, a person’s soul returns to its starting point and becomes part of the environment again in order to reborn in a new body, saturated by the energies of the Mother Earth and other living creatures.
I wondered whether my grandfather was trying to send me a message or at least to say that he was fine and happy wherever he was.
I supposed that shortly after death, a soul might be in an intermediate state, unable to have the same strong bond with its body and the material world as before but capable of interacting with the living ones. Those who happen to have lost someone will agree that it’s much more comforting to think that your dear one continues to exist somewhere else, far from here, than to think that they have gone forever.
However, after some time, when I began to get used to the fact of my grandpa’s death, I got a chance to look at those dreams in a more rational way. I realized that there was the same pattern in all of them – my grandpa being silent and me having confused feelings.
Yes, unfortunately, it was purely the work of the subconscious mind and had nothing to do with the afterlife. During the last years of my grandfather’s life, I didn’t visit him often and thus found it even more difficult to accept his death than those who were next to him till his last minute.
I refused to believe that the next time I would visit my grandparents’ home, my grandpa wouldn’t be there, and my subconscious mind was trying to show me this confrontation between my expectations (grandfather being there) and the reality (my confusion).
So, if you have recurring dreams of the deceased too, first of all, analyze the content of your dreams and try to find similar patterns in events, surroundings, and your feelings. I know that the idea that your deceased friend or family member is trying to communicate with you may be exciting, but in most cases, it’s the work of your subconscious and not a message from the other side.
It is always hard to accept a less attractive truth, especially in the beginning when the pain of loss is still intense, but it’s necessary to let go of the past and find the courage to go on.
If you have had a similar experience, please share your thoughts in the comments below.
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About 6 months ago my stepdads mother, who I was close to, died from respiratory failures. I thought I'd got over my grief for her, until this morning I had a dream where she seemed alive and well.
It was a family party and she was sat as if she did before, fine and happy. I told her I couldn't believe she was here and she said she might believe in new lives because she feels great. There were also a few minor changes to family members, for example my mum wearing a pair on thick high heels. Just before I woke up, she said she needed some medicine from down home (she often stayed with us) and me and her son were going to go get them. I was just about to put my shoes on and then I woke up.
Do you think this is just my subconscious or do you think my loved one has a message for me?
Almost every night, I dream that my deceased parents and I are participating in everyday events together, such as shopping, eating ice cream, looking at cars, talking. My parents are in their 30s while I am my current age of 50+. After the dream, I just feel peaceful, as if I just had a good time with my folks. It's as if they are both alive, and I just came from a Saturday visit.
I like these dreams. Do they mean something special? I feel that my parents are still with me.
We never know what happens after death. But keep this belief alive always. It will help them to be with you. God bless!
My dad dies in 2013 and my grandad just died in April 2016. I have had dreams where I seen my grandad. The first one I was crying and he let me lay on his lap, the second one he was laying in the bed at his home and when i walked in he jumped up and said Hey Sumer. Last night I dreamed that I was at my grandparents house and my dad was there. He was sitting on the floor next to me and when I asked him a question he did respond but would only say I don't know. He didn't look at me though. I got up and went to the bathroom and was trying to hurry and get back to him but I couldn't. I did however say to my best friend earlier yesterday that I didn't want to spend the night in my grandparents home without grandad being there. Not sure why dad was there though!! He had never been at my grandparents house while he was alive!!! What could it mean?
Hi my Dad died in 2012 I was devastated by his death I loved my Father so much, My Fiance and I were married in 2014,I really wanted my father at our wedding so the night before our wedding My Father came to me in a dream & we were dancing the Father daughter dance my head was resting on his shoulder & I could feel his love for me & he was telling me he would always be right here point at my heart it was the best dream of my life, would love to know your thoughts also I continue to dream about him like we are listening to records or playing cards things we did when he was alive
Wow. I would just like to say that you are lucky to still be in touch with him. He's watching over you.
Keep communicating with him. I had a dream of my grandfather after he passed away. It felt so nice. I wish I could speak to him again.
Last night I was awaken by myself sobbing hysterically. My mother and father are both deceased and I am only 33. I think of them everyday. Yesterday I went to a family gathering with my mothers side of the family. It was fantastic!! I had a dream last night and my mother touched my back as if she did when she was alive. I could feel the tips of her fingernails just like if she were here. I looked at her and felt her. I could even smell her. She asked me why I don't miss her anymore. I said to her "how could you say that I cry for you everyday." My mother has been dead since 2007 and I have only had these real seams 2 times in all these years.
Do you think she was coming to me or is this all in my mind. I want to think she is visiting me. That gives me such peace.