Believe me, you are not the only one who feels this way. There are many people out there who feel alone and misunderstood and can even be underestimated by others because of certain personality traits.
Paradoxically, these individuals are usually much more talented, intelligent, and deep than those who reject them. Still, being uninterested in popular things along with being too reserved and introspective may make you appear a sort of freak to the mediocre minds.
It’s all because human beings tend to be cautious and judgemental towards those who live, think, and behave differently. So if you don’t share the interests and beliefs of the majority, you will probably face misunderstanding and rejection at some point in your life.
Some may judge you for being too quiet, unfriendly, or aloof; others may believe that you are a weirdo because you are passionate about things they cannot understand.
It’s not uncommon when even your close ones, such as your parents or your partner, seem to misinterpret your lifestyle and underestimate your passions. No need to say that this can be much more painful than the lack of understanding from people you are not so close to.
So what can you do when you feel alone and misunderstood?
The more you understand, the less you are understood by other people.
-Anna LeMind
Sometimes, the best way to stop worrying about being misunderstood is to accept it as a reality you cannot change.
You need to realize that other people have a different perspective on what’s right or wrong, good or bad, interesting, or boring. Unfortunately, most of us don’t even try to actually understand someone – we are too quick to judge because it’s much easier.
So instead of holding grudges and being mad at the world, accept it as a fact and move on. Remember the quote by James Blanchard Cisneros: ‘Once you awaken, you will have no interest in judging those who sleep.’
It’s pointless to try to connect with people who cannot recognize the depth of your mind and personality in the first place. You will inevitably face misunderstanding and, as a result, will feel alone and disappointed.
The truth is that only a deep individual can appreciate and understand another deep individual. So seek to make connections with people you resonate with and who have a similar level of consciousness.
A good start would be to find individuals who share the same interests as you. Let’s say you are passionate about literature – so why not join a local poetry club.
It may be a difficult task if you are socially awkward, but the presence of interesting people who have a common ground with you will eventually make it easier to start a conversation with some of them.
You will see how many deep people you will meet and, who knows, some of them may make really great friends.
The only thing that truly matters is to find your purpose in life and build your lifestyle around it. While your passions and interests may be unpopular, they will eventually help you find your place in life and will fill your existence with meaning. So don’t worry if your dreams and priorities don’t seem “cool” to other people and stop seeking their approval.
I know that it’s much easier said than done, but as soon as you find yourself and your path in life, you will realize that people’s opinion is the last thing that should bother you.
Basically, it’s the need to be likable and socially acceptable that makes many of us unhappy (and especially those who are different from the rest).
Finally, remember that it’s okay to feel alone and detached from the world and people from time to time. Individuals with a deep personality are particularly prone to these feelings because modern society is driven by ignorance and superficiality.
So it makes perfect sense why they may feel like misfits no one really understands and appreciates. However, it’s not like this and be sure that the right people will see your personality in all its beauty and will appreciate you for what you are.
What are your thoughts on this? Share them with us in the comment section below.
P.S. If you often feel alone and misunderstood, check out my new book The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In, which is available on Amazon.
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Thankyou I sometimes feel completely alone and mystified by the peoples mindless acceptance of life on our planet. Its nice to hear others are also challenged in similar ways.
This article made for misfits like me, and I love it.. Thanks.
I agree I often feel misunderstood by those who are more shallow minded or single minded but thankfully I do have people in my life who do appreciate me.However I feel like I should point out that even those who are more deep can be judgmental,I have known people and do know people who in all intents and purposes would be considered deep in ways,but they are judgmental in a lot of other ways too,and they have judged me either directly or indirectly for how I feel or what I do.So just finding someone who is deep isn't always enough,a lot like to say their deep but most don't really know what that entails,a lot like to say their quiet yet their always judging or complaining,ignorance isn't just made for those who are considered shallow or single minded,even those who are more deep can be ignorant,so the best thing to do in my opinion is to find people who understand your particular vision ,the way you feel,and whom appreciate it,even if the things you do or feel isn't always what they do or feel.Anyone else who feels any less about you is not worth it.Of course that can be easier said then done though,its hard to find people whom you can truly connect with let alone tolerate.
I do like this article, it helps me see where I am in regards to those around me. I have had close friends throughout my life, few and far between! I do not attach to average people, most of them are shallow and very nearsighted mentally. I do not follow most sports and have very little in common with the average individual so it's difficult for me to include myself in their conversations. In my experience, most people just want to talk, not listen and when they do choose to listen, it is only to respond not to understand.
We're special people and not outcast from society. Most people are shallow dolts and are happy being the mindless zombies they are. We all have the same and equal opportunity in life to learn and develop . Is it our fault that other people are one dimensional and we are multidimensional beings who thrive on knowledge living in a multidimensional world ? No . I reject the masses because THEY are the dysfunctional ones and not me or people like us. We're the normal ones and don't forget that.