What Is an Inverted Narcissist and 7 Traits That Describe Their Behavior

Inverted narcissist is not a widely known term. Below, there are some traits that explain the behavior of an inverted narcissist.

A narcissist has an overwhelming need for admiration and usually a complete lack of empathy toward others. But have you ever heard the term inverted narcissist?

Narcissistic personality disorder

Individuals with the narcissistic personality disorder often think they are a real value in the life of all or any of the people they meet. While such behavior was somewhat appropriate for a king of the 16th century, it is not for today’s people.

Individuals with the narcissistic personality disorder often experience snobbery or patronage attitudes.

As with other personality disorders, the individual must be at least 18 years old before being diagnosed. Narcissistic personality occurs mainly in men rather than women and affects around 1% of the population.

Nevertheless, narcissism will diminish its intensity with age. Many individuals experiencing few of the most extreme symptoms up to 40-50 years.

Personality disorders such as narcissism are typically diagnosed by a psychiatrist or psychologist. There are no blood tests or genetic tests used to diagnose the disorder.

Many affected people don’t receive treatment unless the disorder dramatically interferes with their personal lives, that is, when dealing with stressful situations.

The causes of this disorder are unknown. There are many theories about possible causes.

Most physicians accept an etiological biopsychosocial model – the causes are probably biological, social (how an individual interacts with family and friends) and psychological (personality and temperament of the environmentally modeled person and copied models to cope with stress).

This suggests that one factor is not responsible but the complexity of the three factors. According to research, if an individual has a personality disorder, their children will be likely to inherit it.

Risk factors:

• very sensitive temperament since birth
• excessive, unrealistic admiration that lacks balance
• excessive congratulations for good behaviors or excessive criticism for bad behaviors in childhood
• severe emotional abuse in childhood
• emotional neglect in childhood.

Ways to recognize a narcissist:

• expect others to complete their daily tasks because they feel too important to waste their time on mundane things
• they speak very rarely about their personal life, memories and dreams
• tend to show a high level of stress with the people they work with or interact with
• they feel like rules do not apply to them
• their sense of self-importance and lack of empathy makes them frequently interrupt others
• they become anxious when the subject of the conversation is about someone else and not them
• blame others for their mistakes
• short-term relationships
• attraction towards leading positions
• the need to be at the center of attention or to be admired in a social group

But what is an inverted narcissist?

Having understood how a narcissist behaves, let’s discuss the behavioral traits of an inverted narcissist and why they desire to connect with narcissists.

An inverted narcissist is someone who has a dependent personality disorder.

The dependent personality disorder is often characterized by the exaggerated need of a person to be looked after or loved. This need leads to a general behavior of obedience, dependence, and fear of separation from the person s/he depends on.

Below, there are some traits that explain the behavior of an inverted narcissist:

• has major difficulties in making decisions on everyday issues and if s/he does not receive any advice and encouragement from others, may experience episodes of anxiety.
• s/he needs others to take responsibility for most of the important aspects of life.
• has difficulty expressing their disagreement with others due to the fear of losing the support and approval (not to mention the fear of punishment).
• he or she has difficulty in starting their own projects independently or in planning their own activities. This happens due to a lack of confidence in their abilities, not because of a lack of motivation or energy.
• excessive efforts to get support and protection from others, even going to the point where they volunteer for unpleasant activities.
• s/he feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone, because of the exaggerated fear that s/he is incapable of taking care of her/himself.
• as soon as s/he ends a relationship, s/he seeks to establish another relationship that could provide support and protection.

An inverted narcissist is willing to go the extra mile in order to save their relationship/marriage. They will do it regardless of the mistreatment or abuse they may suffer; regardless of whether their desires or plans are fulfilled or not.

As a result, an inverted narcissist will intentionally seek to form a relationship with a narcissist, who can help them develop the self-identity they lack. As such, an inverted narcissist will often feel powerful and useful when they comply with the strict rules of their partner.

Causes

Similarly to the causes of narcissism, an inverted narcissist may have experienced psychological trauma or emotional neglect in childhood. This leads them to become vulnerable and insecure adults.

Treatment

The treatment of this personality disorder is generally difficult because it takes a long time, motivation, and involvement from the patient.

As is the case with other personality disorders, inverted narcissists generally do not require treatment for the disorder itself. Rather, they ask for help when the problems in their lives become overwhelming, and they are no longer able to cope with them.

Dependent personality disorder presents an increased risk for depression or anxiety, alcohol or drug abuse, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.

In situations where dependent personality traits cause a deterioration in the social or professional life sphere, psychological treatment is necessary and can significantly bring an inner balance.

Psychotherapy is the main treatment method and the goal of therapy is to help the person become more active and independent while learning how to form healthy relationships.

References:

1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
2. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov