If you think mind control is a term bandied about by crazed conspiracy theorists and best viewed in old spy films, think again.
Mind control is as relevant today as it was back in the 1950s when it was called brainwashing and used against American troops in Chinese prison camps during the Korean War.
Mind control is the concept by which a subject’s thoughts and actions can be controlled by an external force. This can be via psychological or physical means and often involves breaking the subject down so that complete control can be achieved.
If you are thinking that this all sounds very far-fetched and implausible, it is worth remembering that mind control is used in our everyday lives, from advertising products to media bias in politics.
If you find yourself slowly being isolated from your friends and family, then this is a probable sign someone is trying to control your mind. Your nearest and dearest will no doubt tell you what is wrong with your new friend and that is exactly what they don’t want. They need you alone and vulnerable in order to break your spirit.
Does your partner sulk if he or she doesn’t get their own way? Do you tend to change your behaviour to stop or prevent an argument? This is the start of mind control, where your actions are changing because of what another person is doing. It is a tell-tale sign that they are trying to control your mind and are quite successful in it.
This is a technique whereby a person gives subtle clues and hints using nonverbal cues. For instance, if a husband asks his wife if she is ok and she replies ‘Yes’ with a sigh and a shrug of her shoulders, this is clearly indicating she is not ok, but her verbal answer is positive. Some people use metacommunication to implant subliminal thoughts.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP is a technique of layering certain thoughts using language into a person’s unconscious mind without them knowing what you’re doing.
NLP looks at many different aspects of a person and uses language to plant suggestions. For instance, if a person is visually orientated, they will be spoken to using language using visual clues such as ‘Can you see what I mean?’ A person used to auditory cues will have hearing language used on them like ‘I hear you completely.’
Does your partner place unreasonable rules on your lifestyle? If you are expected to meet impossible deadlines, have strictly regulated mealtimes and bathroom breaks, no access to your own money or friends, then this is mind control.
What they are doing is taking all your decisions away from you so that you follow a strict set of behaviours. This, in turn, stops you thinking for yourself and makes it easier for them to implant their own agenda.
If you recognise any of the above examples, then it is time to break free from this person and their attempts to control your mind.
Do not allow your new partner or friend to get in the way of your seeing any of your old friends or family members. Insist on seeing them and if the answer is still no – walk away.
Treat it with the disdain it deserves, and make sure you tell the person exhibiting it that it is immature and childish and you won’t tolerate it.
Watch carefully for nonverbal clues that do not tally with what a person is saying. Question them if their answers do not match their body language or actions.
NLP is a little harder to spot as anyone using it is likely to be a professional. Signs to look out for are initial feelings that you have found your soul mate, or that the person you have just met is perfectly matched to you. Watch out for someone that keeps mirroring your body language or uses vague phrases that don’t make sense.
As for someone that imposes uncompromising rules, take advice from close friends and family when it comes to this situation. By the time it gets to this point, you will have probably been worn down with low self-esteem. By telling your friends and family, their instant reaction to what is happening to you should be enough to shake you out of this awful trap.
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Janey Davies, Thank you for the article. There are several things that mental health professionals can do since abusive mind or behavior control depends upon isolation. Individuals who recognize the techniques or effects in their or someone else's life can also look to this list...
PLEASE note: Using NLP in communications isn't abuse in itself. NLP techniques are simply skilled communication. Those techniques can be used in public speaking or interpersonal communication. Professionals who might use NLP skills include law enforcement officers, counselors, hypnotists, religious leaders, politicians, lawyers, coaches, teachers, sales people, writers, public speakers, trainers... you get the idea. NLP can even help in positive parenting. Using NLP in itself is a skill, not an abuse.
For those who recognize mental or behavioral abuse...
1) Identify abuse safe houses in your community and develop a relationship with them. Please note, there are probably fewer resources for abused men than there are for abused women.
2. Educate local law enforcement on what to look and listen for on the part of the manipulators and on the part of the victims.
3. Educate lawyers on what to look and listen for on the part of the manipulator and on the part of the victims.
4. Identify councilors who work with such abuse.
5. Identify consulting hypnotists who work with such abuse.
Develop a network of those professionals who will work together on behalf of abuse victims.
Here's the challenge. Abusers can be dangerous to those who would help their victims recover. It is dangerous, if not impossible, to work with a victim who is not safe and secure outside of the abuser's sphere of influence.
As a consulting hypnotist I RARELY came across a client who was currently living with such abuse. But the times I did, I had to inform the person that THEY had to leave their environment before I could work with them. I informed them that I couldn't work with them in my brief session time with them in competition with the pervasive environment of manipulation that they were in. I also wouldn't put my family at risk by association. The person had to be secure and separate from their abuser before I would work with them.
Now, that may sound harsh, but as with most hypnotists, I work in a sole proprietor office. There'd be no question of who the abused person was working with if their abuser followed them.
Counselors are the rally point for those who are mentally abused. I encourage any interested counselor to begin a network of education and awareness of community resources who will support their client work.
Hello Mr. Wunder, my name is Eric and I appreciate you acknowledging that this sort of thing not only exists, but how serious it couid be. I am looking for a professional hypnotherapist to aid me in not only stayng safe, which I am now, i think, buit to also work with me to sort out how I could take the evidence I have and use it to teach law enforcement, therapists, judges, doctors, etc...about the uses and abuses of this type of hypnosis and NLP. I have something that I doubt many other have or have ever had to aid in that request, and that is I recorded a very long video which captured my victimization. The conversations on the video were how I determined my own victimization had taken place, and the brutality that I endured. I don't remember any of it, however, I sued in civll court a couple of those involved and won a very large judgement, yet police still refuse to investigate this matter. Let me know if you have any interest at all. Thanks
I am an 81 Year Old Male (Ex; Navy Veteran Pilot) who has been abused by a 71 year old wife who has a border line personality disorder for 16 years using mind control.....,been trying to get out of the relationship for years. This article describes the situation perfectly.