Two years ago, something terrible happened in our family – my grandfather had a stroke. He fell into a coma and eventually died two days later. This profoundly shocked all of us not only because grandpa was deeply loved and respected by everybody who had the luck to know him but also because we couldn’t imagine that he would go so early and so suddenly.
Shortly after this tragic event, I started to have weird dreams. I was seeing myself visiting my grandpa at his home and feeling quite confused – I was simultaneously glad that he was there again and puzzled trying to understand how it was possible.
In my dreams, he never said a word and replied to my questions about him being there with an enigmatic smile.
These dreams were so regular that I began to wonder whether this might be my grandpa’s soul trying to communicate. If I was a religious person, I would certainly believe that it was so. But I don’t really agree with the views on soul and afterlife as promoted by most of the world religions.
I tend to think that human consciousness – everything that makes us who we are, including our thoughts, memories, and beliefs – is a kind of energy that leaves the body at the moment of death and gets dispersed in the surrounding environment. This basically means that a person’s energy can exist literally everywhere for some time after death and eventually finds itself becoming part of another, newborn creature.
You may think that this sounds quite similar to the known theory of reincarnation; however, the difference is that, in my opinion, it’s not the same soul that makes its journey through ages, traveling from one body to another, but rather a composition of different people’s energies that carries the experiences of multiple lives and individuals.
Moreover, I believe that it’s not only human energy that makes up each person’s consciousness but that all living beings on our planet participate in this eternal cycle of energy exchange. That’s why after death, a person’s soul returns to its starting point and becomes part of the environment again in order to reborn in a new body, saturated by the energies of the Mother Earth and other living creatures.
I wondered whether my grandfather was trying to send me a message or at least to say that he was fine and happy wherever he was.
I supposed that shortly after death, a soul might be in an intermediate state, unable to have the same strong bond with its body and the material world as before but capable of interacting with the living ones. Those who happen to have lost someone will agree that it’s much more comforting to think that your dear one continues to exist somewhere else, far from here, than to think that they have gone forever.
However, after some time, when I began to get used to the fact of my grandpa’s death, I got a chance to look at those dreams in a more rational way. I realized that there was the same pattern in all of them – my grandpa being silent and me having confused feelings.
Yes, unfortunately, it was purely the work of the subconscious mind and had nothing to do with the afterlife. During the last years of my grandfather’s life, I didn’t visit him often and thus found it even more difficult to accept his death than those who were next to him till his last minute.
I refused to believe that the next time I would visit my grandparents’ home, my grandpa wouldn’t be there, and my subconscious mind was trying to show me this confrontation between my expectations (grandfather being there) and the reality (my confusion).
So, if you have recurring dreams of the deceased too, first of all, analyze the content of your dreams and try to find similar patterns in events, surroundings, and your feelings. I know that the idea that your deceased friend or family member is trying to communicate with you may be exciting, but in most cases, it’s the work of your subconscious and not a message from the other side.
It is always hard to accept a less attractive truth, especially in the beginning when the pain of loss is still intense, but it’s necessary to let go of the past and find the courage to go on.
If you have had a similar experience, please share your thoughts in the comments below.
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Hi my name is racheal and I have a question I have dreams about people that are dead but I am not related to I recently had a dream about the wife of the father of my church she is deceased never met her in my life and she told me he was really sick but he didn't know it I am wondering if I should tell him this or not . I have dreams like this all the time about people that I don't know or barely knows loved ones whyyyy please email me rachealhernandez1986@gmail.com
My father died 2 years back and I had suddenly getting strange dream or experience rather in last 2 months. In 1st one I heard his voice saying STOP NOW and then I saw him in a far room when I tried to reach him Someone pushed me and I was out of my dream.
In second one yesterday night around 2pm I saw my father sitting next to my bed and suddenly I realized he is no more and then a state of fear gripped me and I fanatic looking to ON the light switch but light was only flickering and then I tried to call one of my friend but only bell was going thru no one picked up my call. Then suddenly I saw my father standing next to an open door and then suddenly my daughter pulled me back. and I was out of it coughing , crying and all in tears and scared. My daughter told me she awoke on hearing my screaming and she woke me up. I could not sleep after that till 4:30 pm I was scared, disturbed , had a bad feeling. I feel like as if he is coming to take me along with me.
I recently had a dream of my son that passed very quickly from a heart attack at 45, in this dream he was standing at the foot of my bed and kept on scything that he couldn't do this alone, he needs help, I don't know what to think of this, do I need to help him pass over or what? Then after my mother passed she came to me and said when the bell rings I will no longer be Jackie
I have dreamed about people who have died for years. Not just my relatives but friends and acquaintances. I never felt like they were trying to communicate with me because almost all the dreams have contained a lot of people. There will.be glimpses throughout the dream of people I knew. Almost like a movie.
Hi guys seen the post and yes when dreaming of a dead person it make ur mind work over time thinking what did the dream mean. I recently lost an "EX' whom before the death I haven't spoken to for over a year or seen but had a bad break up( my fault I was in love with someone else) when he passed away I couldn't attend the funeral but a week later I had a dream of something chasing me inside my mums home(he was in and out daily until I married) then I ran to my room n when I turned it was him saying "U hurt me a lot but I forgive u" & I woke up in a shock cause I couldn't come to grips with his death and the fact I thought of him a day before the accident n this dream was some sort of closure for as I had no one to speak to about it , my husband will freak they were enemies so it was difficult to deal with, then the second week I dreamt him telling me that even meant removing my "Thali" (tamil bride uses) to have me he will, scary I know and the third dream was him talking to me laughing and I felt it so real n he made me have this closure I thought id never get, saying he will guide me .... I truly believe they come In our dreams for a reason. be it a warnings or for comfort
may his Soul(K.G) rest in peace...