Is friendship between a man and a woman possible? This question always was and still is a source of heated arguments.

Now, the famous saying that “there can be no friendship between a man and a woman” seems to be confirmed scientifically, at least when it comes to men.

New research indicates that when a man forms a friendly relationship with a woman, he is still driven by the sexual attraction he feels for her. At the same time, according to the researchers, this statement is not true for women who form friendly relationships with men.

A research team at the University of Wisconsin came in contact with 88 couples of friends. Both a man and a woman in each couple were asked to respond individually to various questions, including the degree of sexual attraction they felt for his/her friend.

It was found that men were more likely to feel sexual attraction to their female friends compared with women who most often said they did not have any erotic feelings for their friend.

An interesting point was that men did not hesitate to develop friendly relationships with women who they found sexually attractive, even if at that time, they had a happy long-term relationship.

In contrast, women, to a much larger degree than men, turned out to accept the platonic nature of a friendship between the two sexes.

The research also debunks another “myth” concerning relationships and friendships between men and women. Some people seem to believe that women get easier attracted to married men and those in a relationship.

According to the results published in the journal “Social and Personal Relationships“, this is not true and a man in a relationship is not an object of interest for a single woman.

What about you? Do you think that friendship between a man and a woman possible? Would you like to share a personal experience on the matter?

Anna LeMind, B.A.

Copyright © 2012-2020 Learning Mind. All rights reserved. For permission to reprint, contact us.

the power of misfits

This Post Has One Comment

  1. Avatar
    Wantti

    So, “men were more likely to feel sexual attraction to their friend” – why should you come to a conclusion that they can’t be friends at all OR that the friendship between a man and a woman is only driven by the primitive sexual instinct? It might play a part at the early stages of friendship when said “friend couple” still doesn’t know each other very well and are just getting to know and learning to understand one another.

    But it’s still just one factor, the whole picture isn’t that simple. Deep friendship between people has it’s roots built in understanding and thus feeling real empathy towards the other person. You can’t come to a conclusion like that, unless your brain activity is on par with a turqey.

Leave a Reply