7 Struggles of Growing Up as an Old Soul

growing up as an old soul

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realised that growing up as an old soul isn’t something to be embarrassed about.

I enjoy my old soul ways, but I haven’t always. Growing up with tendencies that others saw as odd and old-fashioned can be difficult, particularly in the modern society we live in today. Here is my list of difficult things I experienced when growing up as an old soul – can you identify with any of them?

1. Not liking people your own age

This can relate to dating, friendships or even classmates. Seeing others your own age as immature can be a problem for old souls when they’re younger. As children, we’re conditioned to think we must be friends with those our own age so when it seems hard to communicate with your peers and you don’t really understand why, it can be difficult. Luckily, as you get older, the reason for this dislike of those your own age becomes apparent and you are more accepting of friendships of people of all ages, despite your old soul.

2. Being teased for liking things that were old

Having old-fashioned hobbies and different tastes in things like music or books can be difficult when you’re younger as those around you can pick-up on your differences and tease you for it.

3. Being a homebody when everyone else was out partying

This is one of my main difficulties once I’d reached the legal drinking age. Everyone around me wanted to go out and party, but I was much happier curled up at home with a good book. Whilst this can seem distressing at a young age, learn to accept it is just your old soul speaking to you and that there is nothing wrong with you, you’d just rather stay home.

4. Being a hopeless romantic – and being heartbroken

Old souls tend to have a very strong romantic streak that can become all-consuming, particularly if that romance ends in heartbreak and more often than not, at a young age, it will. Feeling everything so much deeper than those around you can be a sign that you’re an old soul, so when romance goes wrong, it can hurt, a lot.

5. Feeling as though you don’t quite fit in

Feeling like you don’t quite fit in with the world around you is a difficult feeling to experience when growing up. It can be soul-destroying when you’re in the awkward teenage years and can’t see where you belong in the world. But when you’re older, you will become more comfortable with yourself and see that you do have a place in the world, it just may be different to those around you.

6. Not being taken seriously

A big struggle for an old soul trying to get somewhere in life is not being taken seriously enough because of your age. Even though your maturity level is probably above theirs.

7. People don’t understand that you just like being alone

Being alone and enjoying doing nothing is something very precious to an old soul, and explaining that to others who don’t understand can be difficult. In today’s society, we are told to be attached to technology at all times and never bored, whereas old souls are content with their own company.

Growing up as an old soul can mean many different things to different people, but these are the ones I found are most common to my own experience. What else would you add to this list? If you’re an old soul, do you disagree with anything I’ve written?

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Christina

Christina

I'm a psychology student with a passion for books, good food and movies. I can often be found reading self-help articles snuggled up in bed with a cup of coffee or writing about anything and everything in a quiet cafe somewhere.





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By | 2017-01-13T21:49:21+00:00 December 13th, 2015|Categories: Personal Development, Self-Improvement, Spirituality|Tags: , , |14 Comments

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  1. Herakles December 13, 2015 at 3:19 am - Reply

    That is some really interesting reading.
    Didn’t know there actually was an english expression that is so… to the point.

    I can so much identify with all of the points (experienced all of them in the past), good to know others have seen that too. Seems like a natural process that you learn that it’s ok to have an old soul.

    Every single point of that list hit me at some time in the past. Not being taken seriously luckily dissappears with getting older, collecting academic degrees and learning how to talk to average people in a language they understand. Therefore another point kicks in with age, being hopelessly romantic. Only deeply liked one girl in my life so far, and fate willed it differently.

    Not fitting in into the hectic modern society is a good thing, when you can still follow your carrier. And you will boldly go where nobody has ever gone before.

    I wonder where to meet other old souls. Seems they are very rare in today’s society. Additionally, mostly they will also be pursuing old-soul activities like reading a good book in their home, so you will never meet them.

    • SalRez December 13, 2015 at 4:57 pm - Reply

      Haha, you are so right. One thing that also is very important is silence. I also identified myself with all the above mentioned points.
      But there is something that I am still kind of struggling with. And that’s silence. I don’t have a problem with keeping silent. It’s just that I can’t stand people who can’t be silent when they really should. I wish I could just walk away, wish it was as easy as that.

      I must admit, meeting old souls has proven to be hard. But not just old souls. Meeting people in particular is hard for me. Trusting seems to be a pain in the ass. But good thing is that people like us tend to be patient as f*ck. So eventually we will meet like-minded people.

  2. Lionwell December 13, 2015 at 2:37 pm - Reply

    Most points have nothing to do with being an old soul, like being alone or having almost no interest in parties et cetera. Thats just a preference. Being fully happy with yourself and not needing anyone to be happy is something that old souls carry with them. By the way, not liking people of the same age is holding a negative attitude. There are many people that tend to be or are mentally older than there own age. You just have to put effort in it to find them or they find you when you are young. You dont need to become older to understand that you can accept every level of age. You are born with it or the fake one: you are being teached how to behave. I always took my own advice: look at a persons personality. Though ofcourse everyone has its right to show their own thoughts and opinion. I only have an opinion of what is written…not of the writer.

  3. gary December 13, 2015 at 9:22 pm - Reply

    Looking at each of the things you had in this article, I can ID each one of them to my life and I am 69 now. I know that does not make me an old soul, or maybe it does but it does ring very close to my soul.

  4. J December 13, 2015 at 10:37 pm - Reply

    Good writing. Our understanding of an Old Soul differs.

  5. oana December 13, 2015 at 10:39 pm - Reply

    I can’t disagree and I also do identify myself with all of the above… I would also add that so many times an old soul would pass through different experiences, that can be so traumatic for most of the people, and still smiling, remaining detached and observative, feeling stronger and not weaker, still confident and grateful that life is so vibrant and provocative… seeing all those as opportunities for a deeper understanding of life … This is my experience…

  6. Gail Santoro December 14, 2015 at 7:41 am - Reply

    Enjoyed your post……
    You nailed the basics, but missed the most important one:
    Knowing you do not want to have to come back and keep doing this over again……wondering when you are going to get it right and be able to move on to the next experience…..knowing your own weaknesses so completely and feeling doomed to keep repeating them….there is a pain in your soul….a longing in your heart……These are not symptoms of depression…my family and friend describe me as the most upbeat person they know……that is because I shower them with love and caring……I believe that getting our relationships right is necessary to be able to move on ……also enjoying the things we have, but not having them own you……losing the ego ….avoid the need for power or greed…..my Mother said it best, “You come into the world naked and owning nothing….and when you leave the only things you get to take with you is the love you create”. Old souls value love over anything else!

  7. Kevin Carney December 16, 2015 at 6:21 pm - Reply

    Yes, this is so true, in all aspects. I Am 64 years young. I like be active in most things. But, I have found. That though, I like to Move around Quickly. The body is telling me. ‘Hey, it’s ok to have Fun. We just need to slow down abit.’ I have learned so much. Just by being a people observer. And, by listening, and observing those around me. And by Thinking before Speaking. All though, at times. I Still ‘Open mouth, Insert foot.’ When this happens, I Am Quick to realize, the statement. And I apoligise….

  8. LC April 3, 2016 at 7:09 pm - Reply

    I identify with all of them. It was hell growing up when I didn’t understand why I was the way I was. I hated it. But now I understand.

  9. Gandalf May 13, 2016 at 12:13 pm - Reply

    I can identify with the comment on all-consuming romance. I have experienced it twice in my life, once when I was 23 and again when I was 44. Yeah, 44! Both times I was left heartbroken.

    I am a person who is reserved, contemplative and in control — as we old souls are. But during these periods of obssession, I lose all control, and all my intuitions guide me in wrong directions (e.g. convincing me that the person concerned likes me, when they don’t).

    When this obssession comes, it engulfs me completely. I live in a dream world for weeks or months where I am constantly with the person concerned, and where they are complete and perfect in every sense. They are my perfect soul mate, or my twin flame, who I have never met in real life.

    Then one or both of the following happens:
    1) The person does something that shatters the whole perfect movie, and I realise they are not the person I have been idolising and worshipping.

    2) I end up doing something so cringeworthy that it haunts me for the next ten years. I begin to doubt my intuitions, which had served me so well for so long. A period of self-doubt starts.

    It’s not a good place to be in… but I don’t think I have a choice. Being an old soul I have to have suffer these streaks. I am only glad that so far they have been 20 years apart 🙂

  10. ItsMe July 26, 2016 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    I relate to all those as an only child. I’m not perfectly sure about my own soul age, I assume it’s somewhere around very late mature/early old.
    I’d like to comment one statement of yours.

    “6. Not being taken seriously”

    For me it has been even more complicated, because at 32 I look at least 10 years younger. Mentally I feel a lot older than 32, and people who don’t know me usually percieve me (and treat me, at least in the beginning) as a student. This is embarrassing and can be confusing sometimes, and I even can’t blame them, it’s not their fault.

  11. Ian Short November 26, 2016 at 6:09 pm - Reply

    These traits are also prevalent in Introverts.

  12. Imran Mashoud November 27, 2016 at 1:42 pm - Reply

    All my family members and friends just ignore me….. They told i’m board and dumb person in the planet….. Love to know i’m not alone in this kind……

  13. Phil Hartten November 27, 2016 at 7:12 pm - Reply

    Memorize just seven words and change your life and reaction to other peoples criticism and punishments.

    Do Not Offend
    Do not be offended.

    Try this. Remember other people….all people…have deep down ‘hurts’ from the past and present…..they live and think differently than everyone else and have their own reality.

    Don’t let others with attitude problems make your life miserable or sad.

    Take control of your thoughts and actions and be happy again….do not let other bring you down with words and actions.

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7 Struggles of Growing Up as an Old Soul