Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Here? 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing

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Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.

We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle and finally, a family.

The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”

But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, way of thinking and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.

They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”

Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of an increased awareness and sensitivity.

1. Deep thinkers

Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to the primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.

If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.

2. Old souls

Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.

In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.

3. Empaths

Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.

All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.

4. People who experience a spiritual awakening

A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.

Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.

If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.

Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.

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Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.




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70 Comments

  1. Shar October 19, 2017 at 6:53 pm - Reply

    Going through this too. The suffering seems endless. Nobody understands. Feeling so lost. Trying to be present, trying to allow and be ok with what is. Will it ever end?

  2. Roshan Kumar October 31, 2017 at 7:46 am - Reply

    It’s really not a good thing. I feel it every time and feels like while everyone is normal except me. feels like I am in a struggle which other people easily get over with. feels like I am weakest one among many other.

    1st, 2nd, and 4th characteristics seem valid for me not sure about 3rd. I can feel what others feel. While I chase normal targets like others because I have no other works, meanwhile I also feel like these targets are meaningless for me and I don’t want to do this but then I don’t know what else to do. I don’t feel attached to anything, everyone and everything seems same to me, I would help anyone, I would love anyone but that also complicated knowing all people in this world are not so good. I feel like I should leave everything in this world.

    It’s really complicated. Sometimes I am really frustrated, not knowing what to do. Sometimes it’s resemblance with Depression also makes me worried but this feeling is always present for many years. There are very few people who understand me, or to whom I can share.

    • Insi November 5, 2017 at 6:53 pm - Reply

      Duhh! i struggle with the exact same feeling like you do every single day :/ and i really dont know what is wrong..is it me or the world?

    • Angel November 16, 2017 at 1:23 am - Reply

      Reading your message I feel like I wrote it myself. I also feel very detached and same time very sensible to the present world. I come from a family that always puts a family member above anyone else. No matter how bad and delusive the person is they always have a spot in our table, always have a bed to sleep in our house. While I feel the same way towards anyone else. The stranger in need is as important to me as my own sister. And no one can understand me. My own mother is always very angry with me after I helped a stranger (homeless) on the street instead of helping my uncle who is alcoholic and wil spend money to get drunk. No one understands me and my care for everyone else equally. I know I can’t help all people in need. And this what is breaking me most. I come from a privileged family but I have no power to help those in need most. It’s killing me inside to see how my family is spending money, on clothes , electronics, cars and other materials things while there are people who can’t feed their children from day to day. I feel so broken because of that and I feel weak. To weak to handle the reality of the world and sociaty we live in. I’m sorry I had to let it out of my system. I wish you find what you are looking for in your life.

    • Veteran December 13, 2017 at 11:02 pm - Reply

      Exactly. In my case it affects both physical and mental side. From physical side I’m in any aspect different from other humans. I’m not anywhere near the average human height, weight and other aspects of physical appearance. Speaking about mental side, that’s where I really stand out from other people. I don’t share any of the popular interests with the people my age. My goals are different, I always get to run on the hard, long tracks, while other’s lives go normally. Nothing was easy for me in a life. When I get sick I’m not sick like other people, it either goes away so fast or stays for a long time usually developing a bigger illness. All these little things contribute to my “I don’t belong here” feeling.

  3. Cody December 2, 2017 at 5:17 pm - Reply

    If I could concentrate my thoughts and my theories into a more tangential way of expression, instead of tangled rambles of woe, my life would not be forfeit nor forgotten. Please reach out to me. [email protected]

  4. Frederick December 4, 2017 at 4:33 pm - Reply

    after reading this twice, I realize I’m all 5 of these and I’m reaching such a emotional low that I’m just not interested in any of my passions in life anymore. I’m so depressed and it feels like It’s never gonna end. I could really us someone else just like me even a little to talk to. so anyone please feel free to contact me: [email protected]

    • Frederick December 4, 2017 at 4:35 pm - Reply

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  5. Kotomi December 14, 2017 at 9:41 pm - Reply

    When I read all your comments I realize that I’m not alone, maybe we can join in a Facebook thing or something to exchange good tips to go throw this shitty life

  6. Maria December 15, 2017 at 12:46 am - Reply

    I feel the same way, every function, outing or even at work, I feel like I am on the outside looking in. I never ell anyone, they will say it’s all in my head no one understands. I always felt like a misfit looking at every thing from the big picture. Even with my family I never have any thing to talk about again I feel like I don’t belong.

  7. Neo Epoch December 20, 2017 at 12:16 pm - Reply

    I’ve felt like I hadn’t belonged on this world since I was a kid. I’m charismatic and never had a problem making friends and acquaintances, I’ve just never felt like I belong anywhere.

    I’m 35 now, 3 children and as numb as I’ve become to the empathic side of my ENTJ personality, I sometimes still occssionally feel a wave of emotion fall over me, like there’s something just wrong with the world or something just happened in the world – like obi wan Kenobi felt when alderan was destroyed – and I haven’t a clue as to what it may be and all I do is just cry for a moment.

    Does anyone else ever feel this way?

  8. Vnem December 26, 2017 at 11:19 pm - Reply

    I read every single comment. It’s exactly the same for me. I always had a social life but I was truly detached. It was like I was pretending all my life. Pretending to live, pretending to have friends, pretending to be in a relationship. Pretending to work. I am married with three kids I adore, but even now that I am 36, I can’t shake this feeling off. It’s like I dont belong here, like I’m from somewhere far away but I can’t remember where. I love music, travelling and art. Videogames, books and movies that show other worlds and I am imagining that I belong there. I love the stars, planets and Universe. I love seeing people healthy and happy, I adore children, they are the epitome of greatness and innocence and the fact that we live in a world where horrible things happen to them horrifies me and breaks my heart. I am highly perceptive to other people’s intentions and vibes. Like, really perceptive. I hate this whole negativity this world throws at me and others. I have really intense dreams that I travel to other worlds but I can never put my finger to. Never completely remember. I love helping others, making them smile, but I never want people become very close to me. Only a few special. I have never told anyone how I feel. Only my sister knows. My husband is a good man but thinks me as a weirdo. Thinks that I dislike people and I just have issues with the world and everyone around me because I can’t stand rudeness and negativity. He doesn’t know how I feel. He won’t understand. Homeopathy helped me deal with my depression in the past and still helps me discover my self and try to get along in this world I sometimes think I have been dumped to survive. What else can I do? Who will believe me when I say that every single time, and I mean EVERY SINGLE TIME I think of a favorite movie in tv, I d like to watch, I see it right in front of me? That I think things and they happen? That I understand right away what kind of people I have right in front of me, and that I have dreamed of thing that happened years afterwards?

  9. Lisa December 30, 2017 at 5:35 am - Reply

    I am sitting here in tears. I relate to almost everything everyone has said. I too have know since I was little. PTSD, anxiety, depression, disconnection, isolation, physical ailments, high connection to animals….People who are more in tune spontaneously have commented that they know I don’t belong here. The phrases used in the article – deep thinker (in my head), old soul, empath – have been applied to me either in a positive or negative sense. I often do not recognize people I have interacted with because I am so intensely involved in their inner world that I literally don’t see their “shell.” I don’t know if any of you have experienced this as well.

    I am so lonely. It seems that it only gets worse year by year. I have no one who totally “gets” me. My recently ended relationship was obviously mentally and emotionally abusive, but had aspects of deeper connection as well, so I kept at it way past the point most people would have, just to have that connection. Abuse of this kind is normal in my experience. I can’t conceive of ever having in intimate relationship without it. I don’t think there is anyone out there for me. At least the internet allows some semblance of there being someone else somewhere out there like me. Otherwise, I feel like I am drifting through space, in a meaningless void. A support group would be most helpful.

  10. Nikita January 5, 2018 at 10:55 am - Reply

    Thank you for this. I needed it.

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