Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Here? 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing

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Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.

We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle and finally, a family.

The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”

But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, way of thinking and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.

They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”

Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of an increased awareness and sensitivity.

1. Deep thinkers

Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to the primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.

If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.

2. Old souls

Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.

In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.

3. Empaths

Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.

All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.

4. People who experience a spiritual awakening

A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.

Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.

If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.

Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.

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Anna LeMind

Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.





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20 Comments

  1. Donna June 16, 2016 at 9:16 pm - Reply

    Excellent article that I am sure many peoplel relate to.

  2. OB June 17, 2016 at 8:02 am - Reply

    I’m glad I’m not alone in this

  3. sophie June 17, 2016 at 6:27 pm - Reply

    Wow! Love this article! 🙂
    Reminds me to the famous Steve Jobs quote: “Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.”

    • Mustafiz Ray October 29, 2016 at 1:54 am - Reply

      That is my favorite quote of all time, Steve job was a genius, even tho he didn’t knew how to code, but still it was because of him that we can use technology today, it was his vision, his idea, his efforts. He left a big mark on this world that no one could, not even Albert Enstien with all due respect, my own regret in life would be that I couldn’t meet him. Rest in peace, Steven Paul Job.

  4. Kevin June 18, 2016 at 12:28 pm - Reply

    Excellent reading most of what is very true

  5. Regina Carpenter June 19, 2016 at 1:30 am - Reply

    It’s good to have affirmation when you live in a part of the country where there is no affinity. I have been a “misfit” my entire life, and I thought for years that it was my fault. Then after five years of intense self-work I had an awakening and was able to see my situation much more clearly. I have been working on myself ever since and I have found great happiness and contentment. However, no one in my family, including my children, is open to my transformation, they remain worshipers of the material world. Entertainment and acquisition is their thing. So I have had to detach from them, but in a loving way, and continue my journey. Thanks for the boost!

  6. Darrell Hall June 24, 2016 at 9:48 pm - Reply

    Great article, definitely hits home as I has felt much like a “Stranger in a Strange Land” for most of my life. I have learned to value difference in myself and in others. While it has been difficult at time to resist the pressures to conform, it has been worthwhile learning to become an authentic human being.

  7. Ole July 2, 2016 at 9:42 pm - Reply

    I get a little worried when I read this acticle, because I think I might have a tendency to believe in a “myth” of separation….that I believe myself to be more different and disconnected form everybody else, than is actually the case.

  8. Ole July 2, 2016 at 9:47 pm - Reply

    In continuation of the above comment on the myth of separation, i want to share that I also feel like there are some areas of life that I don’t belong to, even though id like to. Its as if there is something wrong about me that precludes me from belong to certain things. So as a consequence i don’t allow myself to explore those areas that i actually feel like belonging to……

  9. Paul C. Casalme,RN July 16, 2016 at 11:35 am - Reply

    You;re great, you’re such an inspiration for a new teacher like me. Because I’m also a nurse before .
    Thanks for sharing you;re insight.

  10. Erin August 13, 2016 at 10:46 am - Reply

    All of the above…

  11. Mohammad Umair August 14, 2016 at 10:22 am - Reply

    Raedibg this article made me feel like it waa describing me. Absolitely spot on.

    Thanks Anna for this wonderful post. I now know there are people who also feel the way I do and i’m not alone.

  12. Steve December 15, 2016 at 6:32 pm - Reply

    What about the… “…is there not more..?” category???

    Once, a few decades ago, someone called me ‘Jack the Jacker’… I think due to my seeming inability to stay with one career choice.
    Army, Driver, Carpet fitter, Paramedic, the list goes on…

    I have never stayed in the one house for more than 7 years, I have never felt a belonging.
    I am not Antisocial, and have enjoyed the company of others, but have always felt apart.

    Is there not more?

    Money? Actually, the things money affords you… Cars, clothes, travel etc.
    I am not a narcissist, I’m not handsome, nor ugly. I don’t deserve more than you or others, nor do I deserve less;

    But, really… Is there not more?

    I feel the need to belong, but is there not more?

  13. Catherine Chan January 19, 2017 at 12:44 pm - Reply

    Totally agree to the articles. I experience all of the above since I was a kid n now w my empath state expanding more n more after a new state of spiritual awakening that I achieved recently, I feel harder n harder to be here!

  14. Dhanraj January 20, 2017 at 9:59 am - Reply

    Agreed.

  15. Ks January 20, 2017 at 10:06 am - Reply

    Feeling glad that thr is nothing like attitude which most of the people use to say….. when i tell them….. That i feel like an outsider here….

  16. Lisa LaForge February 3, 2017 at 10:02 pm - Reply

    I have all 4 of these personality traits. I feel lost, but never alone.

  17. Rev. Regina February 4, 2017 at 10:16 pm - Reply

    People like me at a distance more like. I’ve never really felt really loved except my dad who passed, and babies & children love me. Because Im sweet and honest. People tell me there problems even perfect strangers and ask my opinion like I would have the answer for them like I’m a messenger. I always do have a answer or word of wisdom as others say. They usually end the conversation with Your a angel. People have given me that nick name. I relate more with children , and animals. I love simple things. I do feel empathic good and bad feeling coming from people. So I can go in a crowd, but can’t stay long because the mixture of feelings becomes overwhelming. I use painting or nature or working with my plants to drowned the world’s noise.

  18. Belinda February 21, 2017 at 7:23 pm - Reply

    When I read your posts my thought was that I’m the same in many ways.
    I’m trying to find others. I don’t understand anyof it. I just want to hide from the world. I look and watch people and their features are odd to me. I wonder about their lives and how they think. I’m curious about people but I don’t trust. When I have it was too much. I look to the heavens and miss home. The gallaxy fascinates me but also scares me a bit. I long to go home. I see and feel so different. Too much empathy. I feel lost here. Heaven is were I long for. I know I’m not alone and I see and feel people that are not there passing through my home as if one their way someplace. Someone told me I was a port to the other side.it doesn’t scare me or anything. I’m highly sensitive to everything around me. I can feel others pain even when they don’t show it. Don’t know if others are also as me the rarest blood type as well as my insides are in the wrong places. Does it make a difference how I was created? Any answers? Each day is getting more confusing.

  19. Daphne April 22, 2017 at 4:40 pm - Reply

    Im really glad im not alone in this (i thought i was the only one) This artical is amazing i will be sending this to a couple of friends . Thank you so much .

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