Do You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Here? 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing

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Do you feel like you don’t belong here, in this world and society? You will be surprised to know that it may actually be a good thing.

We grow up believing that in order to be happy, we need to belong somewhere – a society, a country, a social circle and finally, a family.

The desire to be a part of something bigger than ourselves seems to be our innate need, which probably has evolutionary roots (remember the well-known notion that human is a social animal?). As Wikipedia states, “belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group.”

But what happens in the case of people who don’t only lack this need but also feel that they don’t really fit in this world? Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, way of thinking and priorities in life. They don’t like popular things and activities and don’t go after the goals most people pursue.

They may seem a sort of weirdos to those around them, but the truth is that there is a bright side of being a “misfit.”

Today, we will discuss four categories of people who are very likely to have a sense of detachment from the world because of their emotional and mental makeup. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of an increased awareness and sensitivity.

1. Deep thinkers

Sadly, the society we live in is giving more and more importance to the primitive instincts and material needs. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here.

If you are a deep thinker, then you probably know what truly matters in life. That’s why seeing people around you chasing ephemeral goals and being interested in meaningless stuff is so disappointing. It’s not only disappointing – sometimes, it makes you wonder what you are doing here, among these people, and feel like you come from another world.

2. Old souls

Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. And this can be painful in your awkward childhood and teenage years, making you feel like a misfit who doesn’t have a place in this world.

In your adult years, this gap separating you from other people only becomes bigger. However, you find your path in life and don’t care the same about what they think about you.

3. Empaths

Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset.

All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And it’s no surprise – there is so much greed, cruelty and violence in today’s world that an empath may suffer, being a part of it.

4. People who experience a spiritual awakening

A spiritual awakening is a great experience that elevates you to a higher level of consciousness and turns you into a spiritually evolved being. However, it is also paired with painful feelings and experiences because fundamental changes are never easy.

Not only do you start to wonder about the existence, reconsidering your life decisions and relationships, but you may also feel detached from those around you and the world in general. It’s all because you are becoming more aware and understand things you previously turned a blind eye to.

If you feel like you don’t belong here, remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Instead of worrying about what others think and seeking their approval, try to find your passion and life purpose. And it’s fine if it doesn’t seem attractive or “cool” to most people. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness.

Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? We would love to hear your thoughts on this.

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Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.




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115 Comments

  1. Natalie February 17, 2018 at 12:11 am - Reply

    What’s the answer to feeling this way, I relate most to 1,2,3. I’ve attempted suicide many times, I feel empty, I have family I will miss, I know I will hurt them, I have many times over. They don’t understand how isolated I feel. How do I make it stop?

    • Anastasia Sincarenco March 5, 2018 at 1:30 pm - Reply

      Maybe you live in the wrong place and can’t identify with people from there.I have the same feeling now and feel like there are only two solutions,to try to fit in,to change your negative mindset or to change the situation,to find a place and people with whom you will feel relaxed and open.You should be bold enough to make the decisions that you think will make you feel happier no matter what everyone else will think.

  2. Ringo Joy February 20, 2018 at 4:11 pm - Reply

    Old soul? I’m 19

    • Sakhmet March 11, 2018 at 6:47 pm - Reply

      The soul is many, many times older than the physical body

    • Justyen March 14, 2018 at 4:44 am - Reply

      Old SOUL, not body, retard…

      • kuldar April 16, 2018 at 2:52 pm - Reply

        why you gotta talk like that? Mabye you feel this way because you are so negative person. Karma- everything you give is coming back to you!

  3. Tiana March 8, 2018 at 5:39 am - Reply

    Thank you for this

  4. Kai March 18, 2018 at 10:41 pm - Reply

    I’ve felt like this ever since I was a child. As a matter of fact I had my first out of body experience when I was a child. During a fever I left my body and four angels with beautiful wings came close to me. I can’t remember every detail of my experience anymore but I guess that it wasn’t my time to go. I have had many oobe experiences and I feel very close connection to the spiritual world. It is very hard for me to find true friends since I feel myself so different from other people.

    • Light March 21, 2018 at 5:21 am - Reply

      Me too, I think and feel that I am more connected to the spiritual realm than in this physical world. I feel like I don’t belong in this earthly life. Like my happiness can’t be found in this world. I don’t really fit in to some group or bunch of worldly people. All they think about and do are earthly, material, shallow and impure things. I guess I’m a Deep thinker, Old soul, Empath and with Spiritual awakening as I also have heavenly & spiritual dreams sometimes.I also agree as you grow older this outcast/lonely situation is becoming more and more difficult to bear – psychological and emotional struggles are real. I need a change of life or a different world, somewhere I truly belong, with the people that can appreciate and accept me.

      Thank you for this article. Somehow I felt mentally, emotionally and spiritually relieved.

  5. Michelle strack March 22, 2018 at 2:45 am - Reply

    Yes completely ive felt not only my deaths soo many times, my spiritual experience was hijacked in a matter of speaking, since i was 2 ive felt this way , i dont trust anymore bc of what has happened. Im veery sensitive i can feel things happen in space time but also everything else around me i had no teacher ,always confused,i feel things before they happen ,no one was there to teach me i never knew who any of the messages were for so many spirits and their deaths i felt it all .they spent all my energy depleted

  6. Michelle strack March 22, 2018 at 2:53 am - Reply

    Please help them teach them if no one is there to understand it can drive you mad, so many of us this world is too cruel , the world is too much , from one extreme to the next i couldnt find way everyone always thought i was crazy , but i wasnt , just extremely sensitive. Teach and help other empathicaly , if no one else be there for others like urself , i pray god watch over you all . Take care of each other, when i found my voice it was too late for me . Love each other like family .

  7. Jason March 22, 2018 at 5:54 am - Reply

    I fit in all 4. Not a day goes by were I don’t question life and my existence. I quit my job at Apple after 8 years. I just didn’t understand why people were so mean and demanding about a product. Every morning we had to clap and act excited about bullshit. Everyone looks down these days. I did have many older folks say I restored their faith in humanity. I don’t feel people were meant to stress everyday busting their asses for the dollar bill. Finding true happiness and meaning takes a lot of courage. I often feel I would be happier living in a hut eating things I grow and helping those in my community. Since becoming a vegan I feel I cry all the time at simple kindness in the world. I was taking a shower yesterday wondering why I do all these healthy things for myself and the earth when I really just want to be dead, yet I’m here everyday. I guess I don’t want to die I just don’t want to live in these times. I wish you all the best and that we find more people like ourselves as friends, maybe then we will laugh and find understanding.

  8. Sandra March 28, 2018 at 3:05 am - Reply

    I can relate to this. I have felt this way since I was a child and it’s only gotten worse (I’m in my 60’s). I’m retired so I don’t have to deal with the corporate bull shit any more but I see a very nasty world and hate being a part of it.

  9. Mari March 31, 2018 at 7:57 am - Reply

    I truly don’t belong anywhere nor I want to. I’m empty. Have no soul. Worth. Meaning. I have no category. Humans take advantage of my being. They abuse me. Is their weak nature. I am ashamed of being human.

  10. Mari March 31, 2018 at 8:01 am - Reply

    I truly don’t belong anywhere nor I want to. I’m empty. Have no soul. Worth. Meaning. I have no category. Humans take advantage of my being. They abuse me. Is their weak nature. I am ashamed of being human. Just want to cease existence.

    • Kara April 23, 2018 at 3:05 am - Reply

      You deserve to be in this world you matter more than you think so

  11. Mari March 31, 2018 at 8:13 am - Reply

    I remember as a little girl sitting in a corner by myself. Invisible. I was brought into this world to be a punching bag for others.

  12. Tim April 1, 2018 at 3:35 pm - Reply

    I drove around the city then out to the countryside yesterday. I could not think of one person on this planet that I can relate to. My mom passed and then my only son was killed in a motorcycle accident just a few months ago. Everything seems mundane. I don’t understand anything. This world seems so bent on meanness and violence and materialism. I feel bad when I step on a bug accidentally, lol. We are mesmerized by our phones when we have a world of beauty that surrounds us. People like us need to help each other realize that we are not alone. Let’s talk to each other. Let’s help one another. Let’s figure out a way. Peace and love to all.

  13. Marcus Lundgren April 7, 2018 at 2:27 pm - Reply

    I’m 41. I’ve lost count of all the times people (both friends and strangers) have come up to me and said “You know you’re not normal, right?”. And they usually don’t mean it as an insult. They just feel the need to say it for some reason!
    I would never openly comment on someone’s behaviour or appearance unless it was seriously interfering in some way,say,
    if someone showed up to work and never took showers, or they wore a damn clown outfit when buying groceries.
    Actually, I wouldn’t comment on the clown outfit. It’s not for me to ruin someone else’s day by making insensitive comments.

    Anyway, it took me quite a few years to realize that my thought patterns were different to a lot of other people.
    I was convinced that they understood “the obvious” things the way I saw them, and that they were simply being mean to me for other reasons. But it wasn’t just my complete lack of interest in fashion or trends that made them pick on me, or my
    less than attractive appearance. No, they simply THOUGHT differently; the way you were SUPPOSED to think, if you wanted to fit in.

    Well, conformity is the enemy, as far as I’m concerned. If everyone thinks the same way, no one takes risks. And without taking risks, there can be no progress. And without progress, society stagnates and eventually dies.

    Unfortunately, in addition to thinking differently, I also suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder, which basically means that I’m ashamed of who I am in every conceivable way, and it makes me unable to deal with personal criticism and rejection.
    It’s a bit more serious than perhaps that sounds, because, over the years, it’s made me completely isolate myself from
    society and live like a hermit. I do wash myself and try to stay occupied with things that interest me, but it’s too painful
    for me to be around other people. I feel ugly and can’t handle the stares and the comments they give me, so I choose to
    hide away instead. And this has been going on for over 20 years now.

    I’ve had no relationships, very few jobs, no close friends and apparently no purpose in life.
    And today, I’m on disability, so there’s even less reason to leave the house.
    But even without this bothersome mental disorder, I don’t think my life would’ve turned out much differently.
    I remember how things were before I lost my self-confidence, and they were just as bad as they are now.
    The only difference is that I used to think that people didn’t like me because I was eccentric, whereas now I know
    that they don’t like me because I’m eccentric and ugly.

    You don’t have to be perfect to be accepted by your peers and find happiness. But if you’re not at least normal, it’s over for you. Don’t even try. You’ll never be one of the crowd. And perhaps that’s not necessarily a bad thing, either…

  14. Michelley April 8, 2018 at 3:15 pm - Reply

    I relate to every point except I dislike most people (although no one would know & many people are drawn to me?) I relate with animals on a very deep level. I feel like I am not “home” on this earth. I struggle with the things that go on in this world, the hatred, cruelty, materialism, selfishness & aggression humans show to eachother & helpless animals. I am an extreme empath (which I find puzzling since I’m not a fan of people) and have always been told I am “too sensitive” like it’s a bad thing. It is, I guess, in this harsh world. I’m comfortable in my own company and with close family. I have no need for friends. I dream vividly most nights, have had out of body experiences during dreams & feel comfortable knowing there is more to this existence on earth. I wish I knew what this all meant & what my purpose is in life…

    • Kara April 23, 2018 at 3:09 am - Reply

      Same, i feel more like an anImal than a human

  15. capcaunu April 23, 2018 at 9:38 pm - Reply

    I relate only to 1.Deep Thinker i felt described perfectly

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