8 Struggles of Being a Deep Thinker in the Modern World

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Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic consumer mentality, this constant inquiry and profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly with the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going for shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much of time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

4. Others confuse you for being arrogant/weird/absentminded

For the most part, deep thinkers are introverts who remain immersed in their thoughts most of the day and don’t open up to other people easily. For this reason, those who don’t know you well may get a wrong impression that you are full of yourself and are acting snobby, avoiding small talks and group activities.

Some may think you are a weirdo or an absentminded daydreamer who just sits there and has his/her head in the clouds all day long.

5. The necessity to solve everyday problems can be a real challenge

You may have reflected on the questions that most people have never asked themselves and have read more books than anyone around you, but solving everyday problems can make you feel really helpless. The mundane aspects of being have never really interested you and your practical thinking skills are not that good, so you try to avoid dealing with such issues at any cost.

6. Periods of introspection and causeless sadness

If you are a deep thinker, you are probably familiar with the feeling of sadness you may have from time to time for no obvious reason. It can be compared to depression of a sort.

In these periods, you are just drawn into yourself, analyzing your life or reflecting on existential issues. Nothing can really get you out of this state unless the flow of your thoughts comes to some conclusion.

7. Lack of understanding

When you have that thoughtful expression on your face, even your close ones may assume that something is wrong with you and start worrying about you, asking questions like “Is everything all right?” or “Are you ok?”

The problem is that it’s not always easy to explain the cause of this mood. It may be something as simple as a book with a sad ending or a thought-provoking documentary you recently watched – literally anything can put you in deep thoughts.

8. It can be difficult to get out of your head and return to reality

When you are reading a book or are simply immersed in your thoughts, it’s like if you were traveling to an alternate reality. A real struggle is when you have to come back to the “real” world and return to your job, everyday duties and activities. This return is always accompanied by a feeling of confusion and even frustration.

Remember those mornings when you are having a beautiful dream and it is suddenly interrupted by the sound of the alarm clock? This is what it feels like when you realize it’s time to get out of your head and come back to the real life.

Are you a deep thinker? Can you relate to any of the above-described points? Share your thoughts with us.

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Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.

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  1. Suleman Narsindhani October 8, 2017 at 11:25 pm - Reply

    Its a curse of curiosity! It never ends, which keeps us detached from our fellow beings. We partially believe there is an answer to everything and keep searching with one eye blind. We are not special on this land and we cannot affirmatively blame, judge or discard the ways of connecting and interactions of other beings no matter how stupid or materialistic they may seem. We maybe more vulnerable but we have to endure that and practise more compassion towards our own self and towards our friends and families.

    • Justin November 13, 2017 at 12:57 am - Reply

      This is all so true.
      Everyone says that I am a ‘normal’ friendly and talkative guy. But under the surface theres such a disconnect with things on a deep level with my friends.
      Like I can talk about games, movies, etc etc but I crave talking existentialism with people, or talking life goals.
      I have tried fitting in to geeks, gamers, travellers, entrepreneurs, philosophers / intellectuals, digital nomads, but I just never fit in to any of them.

      Does anyone know where us deep thinkers hang out? Cause it certainly isn’t the football stadium…

      • Jack November 15, 2017 at 1:04 am - Reply

        I feel the same way.

        All my life I’ve been jumping from group to group trying to find one that understands me truly and with people that I can connect with deeply. All the while not even realising that I was a deep thinker to begin with, and thus wondering why these friendships never worked out.

        If only there was some sort of group where deep thinkers congregate, or some sort of sign to differentiate them from the rest of the world, because I’ll tell you it’s the vast minority of us that are deep thinkers, and unfortunately that reflects on the productiveness of our entire generation.

    • Gary December 15, 2017 at 6:59 am - Reply

      I am a deep thinker but I don’t articulate well sometimes I have trouble finding vocabulary so therefore I make a lot of small talk

      • Chris December 24, 2017 at 2:49 am - Reply

        Gary, I’m the same. I can ponder things with such adulterated elegance and complexity, but I am completely terrible – useless, almost – at actually expressing them via physical speech.

  2. Julia October 11, 2017 at 4:46 am - Reply

    How do they stop thinking so deep?

  3. Keitra October 31, 2017 at 8:49 pm - Reply

    I honestly think it’s impossible to stop thinking deeply. Your mind will constantly work harder; whether you want it to or not. I stopped trying to shut it down because I’m a full blown deep thinker. Often times, I sit in silence and let my mind wonder off. Usually in a dark room setting or whatever suits my mood.

  4. KESAV November 5, 2017 at 2:19 pm - Reply

    so true dude….i feel that this world is too boring…being surrounded by people who do not want change…this society we live in is so stupid….people fear of things they dont understand and make principles and laws to outcast those things instead of spending time to realise how unique those things might be….how wonderful they are….but all this fucking society can do is get afraid….not wanting a change…sticking to their dumb rules,doing same things over and over again,not realising how boring it is.everybody follwing the same pattern:birth,school,college,job,family,setllement,death.thats boring as fuck and pathetic

  5. Shing November 10, 2017 at 8:13 am - Reply

    Reading this makes me feels a lot better. Super stuck in deep thinking right now. Looking for answers I know I cannot find. I’m happy I found 1 answer.. which is, I’m not alone.

    Currently wanna crawl under a rock and be alone. Currently “feel” like going somewhere I’ve never been to just release what ever it is I feel right now.

    There’s something about nature, that make me feel better.

  6. Randi November 13, 2017 at 2:28 pm - Reply

    I am a deep thinker, and also found it hard to connect with those who seem superficial. I was able to find connection with people after I finally gave my life to Jesus. He made me feel completely loved. I was able to know myself better, and as a result, I was able to love other people more. Especially those who are VERY different than me. (I never thought I could ever have relationships with people who seemed superficial.) If I have prolonged times where I cannot connect with Him/myself (I consider it all the same now, because He is in me), I find myself not feeling connected. It’s amazing how He has helped me to be at ease with myself. This post was helpful. Thanks.

  7. Evert-Jan November 18, 2017 at 12:40 pm - Reply

    Warning: This comment is not encouraging but gives my perspective on things as a 19 year old boy.

    Over the almost 20 years I’ve been on this planet, I’ve come to realize that even if you don’t really like it, you have to participate in small talk, and casual activities. The society we live in today does simply not allow otherwise. If you do otherwise, you are immideately labelled as some sort of freak and you will not be taken seriously.

    As for the constant thinking, this will go on forever. These ‘sessions’ (more like constant in my case) will keep occuring. *Why? Because in our lifetimes we will never have full information about everything.* I guess that is why I lean towards games so much: You have (almost) full information and a clear objective with simple rules; The Goal Is Clear. Same goes for Deep thinkers who join other groups or relegious groups; *it takes their mind off things and most importantly, simplifies things*. The truth I found thus far in life is this: Deep thinkers think best alone. Thinking in groups or searching for long term relation/friendships with likeminded people where you see each other frequently does not work out. This is because you will be disconnected from reality for too long. Occcasionally speaking with likeminded people or people who understand you is, however, a great outlet, but no matter what, the thoughts will keep on coming.

    In the short term you can get rid of these thoughts by doing a certain thing that requires both full attention and has a clear,simple goal in mind (in my case, playing some tactical shooting game online). As for the long term, :I am still figuring things out. I’d love to talk more about this but hey, who’s going to read this anyway.

    • Joy December 3, 2017 at 1:19 pm - Reply

      Hi Evert-Jan
      I read what you wrote and it really resonated with me to help me understand some of my male friends who are deep thinkers too – especially the part where you said you like games so much because the objectives and rules are clear and you have almost perfect information. I turned 21 this year but will always be a child at heart. If you’d like to chat further would be keen to hear more of your story and thoughts…

  8. Chris December 23, 2017 at 1:44 am - Reply

    Thank you for describing this. This is me exactly.

    What compounded it, or amplified it for me, though, was getting addicted to heroin at quite a young age.

    Drugs, of course, open your mind; so that, combined with being a deep thinker in any case, has left me an tormented abnormality of life. I am no longer on that stuff, but it has left me with the probably better-off-not-known knowledge that certain drugs can marginally, temporarily alleviate the toll and brain-stretch that comes with being a deep thinker.

    Mine is also exacerbated by the fact I’m Northern working class (English), and I live in a working class area. I am entirely alone. My mum and dad, and brothers, live not very far away, but I am unable to build a proper relationship with them. My father is a good man who has worked hard all his life. He’s a simple man, and we are utterly alien to each other. Though I love him.

  9. Matthew Watson January 1, 2018 at 7:20 pm - Reply

    Hiya, I too am a deep thinker. I think so much about things other people are just not interested in. Some people just don’t have the capacity to understand. I do get frustrated why people do such things. When talking about being isolated from the rest, that is true I do feel that. The world is blind and ruled by greed and power and only think about what is there and not what could be. I think about the things like why do certain things exist. How do constructions of experiments collaborate so remarkably, what I mean is how does the world start. There are theories in relativity but are bewildering, if 2 people started on the earth like Adam and Eve, how come some of us speak different lanaguages. Did they create life and when the child is born did it get lost along the way of lanaguage development and end up speaking for say Chinese? We don’t know? I think about the deep facts, because was there a Big Bang?. So many theories written online but are any really the correct reasoning. Are we all really just living on a theoretical interface where the only answer is a theory and justification of what matters. I could go on and on about this type of stuff. I would love to group up with people and just learn about the world in a vast formality, understanding its beginning and development to the full but it’s not something you can learn on the internet. It’s something that should be spoken, not written and read. My name is matt I live in Ipswich if anyone knows a place in which people like myself belong, then let me know. This is a great page for people like us, I’m glad I found it.

  10. Tom January 11, 2018 at 6:42 pm - Reply

    Here is a ninth challenge. Take the words wit, witty, smart, funny, and quick. See how wit refers to intelligence, witty means (smart)funny, and quick is associated with both. But quick is really a false equivalence. Nevertheless in our society, slow is associated with lower intelligence. However, speed of wit is only one aspect of intelligence. It ignores that deep thinkers think (of many angles, filters, their audience, potential repercussions etc.) before they speak more than most people. A considered response simply arrives later than a reflexive one. There is no inherent superiority of speed vs. considered, but social interactions heavily favor quick.

    • Leroy January 29, 2018 at 3:12 pm - Reply

      i just deleted my long over thought initial thoughts by accident but you demonstrated with your comment exactly how my brain works. so crucial to think deeper when dealing with new sensitive friends who have misunderstood anything i’ve said prior to them due to me feeling comfortable and clever around them. they can’t keep up with me because they still are learning who i am. and sometimes they go into defense mode late into the night with passive aggression and that’s when you learn that there are many ways to go about helping them figure things out about this or that. thank you for articulating that what’s goes on internally.

  11. Sandra Castle January 19, 2018 at 12:22 am - Reply

    I too am a deep thinker. Have often been labeled weird, self-involved, etc. etc. Only one person in my life, my sister, sees me as a deep thinker. She also realizes this is what makes me different from most. That being said, I wouldn’t trade being a deep thinker for the alternative. I am astounded when I state a researched fact to someone and get the answer, “I don’t care,” or I never really thought about it. It makes me wonder what people like that think about. Are their minds so devoid of thinking of deep matters? This makes no sense to me. Where would we be without the deep thinkers of our world? I admit, I avoid talking of anything with people like this since small talk of the weather, what’s for dinner, etc. makes no difference to me. The weather will be. When I am hungry, I will find something to eat. Until then, just leave me alone and let me figure things out that I’m thinking about. Is it any wonder we are introverts who long for deep conversations on something other than clothes, gossip, and whatever they think about. Boring. Where’s the interest in such mundane matters? None for this deep thinker.

  12. Irene February 11, 2018 at 1:43 am - Reply

    I typed into my browser ” I don’t belong anywhere” and came across this site.. Thank you all for making me feel reasonably normal! I’m 75 now but quite clearly remember feeling that I must have been adopted as a child as I certainly did’nt belong in the family I grew up in 🙂

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