Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic values, this constant inquiry and a profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging. Our consumerist society is killing deep thinking and is cultivating ignorance, and it makes sense why. Ignorant people who don’t question themselves and the world are the easiest targets for manipulation and mind control.

This is one of the reasons why deep thinking is not ‘in fashion’ in the modern world. Those of us who have this rare ability to look right into the depth of things often end up lonely, unhappy, and unaccomplished. It’s all because being a deep thinker comes with a number of struggles and drawbacks most people are unaware of.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires, and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

One of the reasons why a deep thinker may struggle with relating to other people is a lack of meaningful communication. With all the ignorance and superficiality today, it’s not easy to find someone to talk about the things that truly matter. This is why deep thinkers often end up alone as they prefer loneliness to forced friendships.

This type of person is unlikely to tolerate shallow relationships and fake friendships. And no need to say that these are incredibly common nowadays. It’s becoming more and more difficult to make friends with genuine and deep people who don’t have hidden motives. Sadly, the consumer mindset has changed much more than just the way we see material objects. It has also altered the way we see each other.

With time, all this may make you feel alien to this society and world. Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly to the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

A deep thinker will often reflect on the world’s problems and will tend to take them to heart. No one will disagree that our current society has lots of issues to solve. From wars and social inequality to disrespect towards Mother Nature and other living beings on the planet.

Deep thinkers get genuinely concerned and disappointed with all this injustice, greed, and violence we witness today. And the worst part is that one person can do very little to change the whole world. Thus, all a deep thinker is left with is worrying about the things they cannot influence.

4. Being indecisive and failing to take real actions

Deep thinkers are highly self-aware and reflective. However, no matter how good these traits may be, they have one significant drawback. Those prone to deep thinking have a really hard time when it comes to taking real actions to change their life and the world. These dreamers with theoretical minds prefer to live in their own heads, immersed in their thoughts and visions.

For this reason, turning ideas into a reality, and putting plans into practice can be challenging for them. This indecisiveness and a lack of action often cost deep thinkers success and accomplishment.

It may not be a problem, however, as a deep thinker is rarely interested in becoming a success story. At the same time, when you realize that your life needs a change or you could make a real difference in the world, but you fail to act on it, this brings you deep disappointment with yourself.

5. Overthinking

It makes sense that deep thinking almost always equals overthinking. One of the telltale traits of a deep thinker is the tendency to overanalyze their actions and behavior. They find nonexistent mistakes, failures, and flaws, and blame themselves for those.

The truth is that a deep thinker can often be too hard on themselves. This makes them focus on the negative and worry too much about insignificant things.

Overthinking is another thing that can prevent deep thinkers from believing in themselves and succeeding in life. A person who is too hard on themselves tends to overlook their strengths and talents.

6. Poor social skills and difficulty relating to others

Deep thinking often comes with social incompetence. Social skills are usually an innate quality, even though they can be developed.

Yet, social communication mainly relies on the practical, everyday side of life. And this is something deep thinkers are not really good at as they tend to have highly theoretical minds. This inability to connect with other people easily makes the feeling of detachment even more intense.

At the same time, the tendency to think deep leaves a mark on your perception of other people as well. Being a deep thinker is not only about trying to solve the world’s problems or eternal dilemmas. Many deep thinkers are fascinated with the human psyche and its mysteries. The ability to analyze human nature in depth also affects social situations and day to day interactions with people.

A deep thinker with an analytical mind can easily detect inconsistencies in someone’s behavior which indicate lies, authenticity, and hidden motives. As a result, this ability inevitably leads to disappointment. The more you deal with people and see their true nature, the more alone you feel.

7. Others confuse you for being arrogant/weird/absentminded

For the most part, deep thinkers are introverts who remain immersed in their thoughts most of the day and don’t open up to other people easily.

For this reason, those who don’t know you well may get the wrong impression that you are full of yourself and are acting snobby, avoiding small talks and group activities.

I like deep thinkers. I don’t like to have normal conversations with people. I love learning about what makes them who they are. Their thoughts. Views. Who is important to them. What is important to them. Let me pick your brain

I like deep thinkers. I don’t like to have normal conversations with people. I love learning about what makes them who they are. Their thoughts. Views. Who is important to them. What is important to them. Let me pick your brain.
-Unknown

Some may think you are a weirdo or an absentminded daydreamer who just sits there and has his/her head in the clouds all day long.

8. The necessity to solve everyday problems can be a real challenge

You may have reflected on the questions that most people have never asked themselves and have read more books than anyone around you.

Hours of your life may have passed trying to find answers to meaningful questions and figure out what this existence is all about. You may have remarkable insights and may notice things most people are unaware of. However, solving everyday problems can make you feel completely helpless.

The truth is that deep thinking rarely equals practical thinking. Ask a deep thinker to explain to you the essence of existentialist philosophy for your college paper, and they will. Ask them to help you buy a washing machine for your new home, and they will scratch their head, feeling clueless.

The mundane aspects of being don’t really interest a deep thinker and their practical thinking skills are not that good. So they try to avoid dealing with such issues at any cost.

9. Periods of introspection and causeless sadness

If you are a deep thinker, you are probably familiar with the feeling of sadness you may have from time to time for no obvious reason. It is a sort of existential depression.

Pain and suffering are always inevitable

Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men must, I think, have great sadness on earth.
-Fyodor Dostoevsky, “Crime and Punishment”

In these periods, you are just drawn into yourself, analyzing your life, or reflecting on existential issues. Nothing can really get you out of this state unless the flow of your thoughts comes to some conclusion.

Thinking in depth is directly linked with reflecting on existential questions. A person who has never asked themselves about the meaning of life and everything can’t be really considered a deep thinker.

Is there life after death? Who am I? What is my purpose in this world? Questions like these are certainly interesting to think about. At the same time though, they have no answers. So reflecting on these matters automatically means that you will be chasing the elusive truth for a lifetime and will never reach it.

10. Lack of understanding

When you have that thoughtful expression on your face, even your close ones may assume that something is wrong with you and start worrying about you, asking questions like “Is everything all right?” or “Are you ok?”

The problem is that it’s not always easy to explain the cause of this mood. It may be something as simple as a book with a sad ending or a thought-provoking documentary you recently watched – literally anything can put you in deep thoughts.

11. It can be difficult to get out of your head and return to reality

When you are reading a book or are simply immersed in your thoughts, it’s like if you were traveling to an alternate reality. A real struggle is when you have to come back to the “real” world and return to your job, everyday duties, and activities. This return is always accompanied by a feeling of confusion and even frustration.

Remember those mornings when you are having a beautiful dream and it is suddenly interrupted by the sound of the alarm clock? This is what it feels like when you realize it’s time to get out of your head and come back to real life.

How to Cope as a Deep Thinker in the Modern World?

Are you a deep thinker who struggles with staying connected to reality and those around you? You may want to check my related articles for some guidance:

Can you relate to any of the above-described points? Share your thoughts with us.

P.S. After numerous requests from our readers, we created a community aimed to bring like-minded deep thinkers around the world together. If you are interested, join our Facebook group“Deep Thinkers in the Modern World”.

P.P.S. If you are a deep thinker who feels alien to modern society, check out my new book The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In, which is available on Amazon.


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  1. Rowan

    Important Question (please provide insights and advice to this dilemma).

    How does someone find a healthy balance between deep thinking and practicality so that it doesn’t impair their life?

    I resonate greatly with many of the ideas mentioned in this post and have personally found it to be extremely debilitating – career, relationships and otherwise. I see everyday items such as laptops, food, clothing, machinery and the internet to name a few and rather than accepting and using them functionally, my mind tangents off trying to understand the micro-level working of each item. I’m more knowledgable than many of my peers when it comes to these items but still lack the confidence and practical ability to benefit from them because I don’t “completely” understand them.

    Others: see —> accept —> practically use (confident and sure)
    Me: see —> confused —> read and attempt to understand —> somewhat practically use (hesitant and skeptical)

    I believe I fall under the famous paradox “The more you know, the less you understand” which is lowering my confidence.
    I’d like to accept that I cannot completely understand everything around me and still be confident and practical.

    1. Daniel E Dunlap

      Rowan, In my humble opinion, you have stated an quinessential “truth” (i.e., if an ultimate truth exists) with respect to knowing more and discovering that we really do not understand very much. “The illusion of knowledge” is a paradox affecting all of us. We assume we have sufficient understanding, but are too lazy, distracted, preoccupied to put our knowledge to the test.

      We have forgotten some core principles that wise individuals of old had figured out:
      “The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.” – Henri Bergson, French Philosopher and Educator
      “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” – Aristotle
      “No way of thinking or doing, however ancient, can be trusted without proof.” – Henry David Thoreau

      As much as I would like to consider myself a “deep thinker,” more times than I can remember, my so-called “deep” thoughts turned out to either be wrong or ideas so simple that a 4 yo could understand them. The Law of Parsimony/Occam’s Razor and Murphy’s Laws keep me humble and eternally in search of that which is “outside of the box.”

  2. Megan Arendt

    Resonates… almost eerie

  3. nathan

    ya its not fun. I find Im both a very deep thinker but i can tolerate the outside world just fine, because i understand how insignificant I am to whom ever reads this. which is a perfect example of how strong a persons ego or self importance is. So its safe to say that what I believe to be the absolute truth means absolutely nothing to a perfect stranger. knowing this I realise, “who am I to question or judge the actions and views of others”. Doing this helps to figure out which steps to take next to find your truth. By being accepting and understanding of the unknown actions and decisions of others, is only going to help to expand your mind to find “Your Answer”. so ya deep thinking sometimes hinders us from achieving “success”, because rather than throw this crazy opportunity of existing away. We take it as the only chance to figure out why we are here. Obtaining anything in life above and beyond the necessities to survive seem pointless. every bit of energy that would be otherwise wasted is rather used to “Wake Up”. even if the outcome is far more favourable.to the”successful” life. it seems the only way to becoming a successful person is to “turn off” your mind. Embrace who you are and you will see it as an opportunity to find yourself. Especially if you feel like your looking for something.

  4. Chaitanya Vaishampayan

    Wooow such a nice post. Atleast there is someone out there like me. This post really really gave me relief that I am not crazy at all(atleast relative to me). Each and every thing that is written in the post applies to me. I never expected to come across such a post or even anyone who is aware of all these facts about people like me. I really don’t have interest in mundane activities that people like, as written in the post. This post makes me feel that I am not alone. Is there any group for people like us? I wanna talk to them. If there is any group then pls mail me at [email protected]. I spend hours sitting in a same position thinking thinking and thinking. I tend to notice things that people cannot. I pay a lot of attention to the minutest of things, and derive conclusion from that. When I tell my parents or my friends about what I concluded from what I observed, they call me immature, childish, fool,crazy,etc. But most of the times, what I concluded comes out to be true, but people are too busy to observe that what I told them is actually true.

    Thank you very much for this post. Really it was a huge relief from the burden of loneliness. I have very few to no friends.

  5. Zagham Abbas

    Deep thinkers don not annoy others. They always give importance to humanistic feelings so they are aware of the fact that love and respect are always reviproctaed. It’s right they are late in taking actions but they are never too late.

  6. Nataliebr24

    Wow. This summed me up unbelievably well for the most part. Not everything but the vast majority of it really hit home. Down to the inability to put plans into action. The constant dissatisfaction with the world. And the preferring to live in my own head. But preferring to live in my own head for me also manifests as me having a love for movies, tv shows and books, etc. And living throw them. So I think that’s the part where I differ.
    Being a deep think can sound like a good thing on the surface, but it can feel like a curse. I feel like I over think everything and it makes me unable to move on and change or deal with things. I feel like I know more than most people and always have since from when I was really young. I has made me very insecure and isolated, and people have never really understood me. Sometimes I think it’s a good thing to be a deep thinker, no matter how hard it may be. Because what would the world be without us, but other times I just feel wouldn’t it be easier not to be. It’s a tricky thing.

  7. Alley

    I think deep thinkers have very observable mind which starts working observe surroundings by very young age, i remembered by age 5 to 6 i start to noticed all the behavior of my mother my father my relatives… by schools i fed up and try to fly like butterflies want to be in village life because it is pure, by 10 to 11 start to notice mistakes in religion believes love to see sky rockets aeroplanes, tried to break the laws and make my room for my cricket practice even my batting shorts were abolishing tube lights, bulbs, windows mirrors, then i tried to write down feelings in poetry, paintings.. but all of sudden i am not able to connect with people tried to convenced them what is wrong and right and, passed isolated life… now i am on medicine to keep my brain sleep.. moral is Deep thinking must have market were it could understandable rather it will ruin the ones life….

  8. Billy

    This is just painfully accurate. For all the positives of being a deep thinker, and an INTP personality to get specific, the negatives seem to drown them out. Like it says about being indecisive, failing to take action, and overthinking every stupid thing! And this causeless sadness it talks about. I never understood what that was. First time I’ve seen it pointed out like this.Spot on. Reality sucks. But I found the answer… Drugs and alcohol! Worked ok for a while but, practical minded folk could tell you where that leads (without experiencing it.) Not me though. Now I’m 31 with a career I’m not really excited about. No real close friends. Never even been in a real relationship. And a family that’s beyond frustrated and baffled by my decisions (or lake their of.)
    At least it’s all starting to make sense and I can see some scientific data to explain why I am the way I am. Good to see all you other deep thinkers out there!

    1. Billy

      *lack their of

  9. Deep Thinker

    Your article started off on point. Went left field towards the end. None of the negatives apply to me. I’m a people person. I love good conversation, mysteries, creativity, sharing and understanding knowledge, reading, dancing, movies, helping others, learning. I’m a regular person.

  10. deep and lonely

    i never replied yet to any posts, but this is just so me. I sometimes which i can just not be so deep, and live a shallow life for a few days. since the shallow people don’t even know that they are not in touch with themselves. so if you don’t know your missing depth than you are very happy. I don’t relate with much people, I like deep meaningful conversations, and that’s what attracts me to a person, without being understood for my depth I cant really fall in love just with anyone, and that makes life difficult.

  11. Phillip

    This is absolutely the best article i’ve ever read about deep thinking. It made me cry while reading, because over 90% of the written is so true for me aswell. I am struggeling since so long because i thought i am psychologically ill or a psychopath.
    Most of the people i’ve met in my life, and i would say that i am not so much introvert, but i like to talk an be integrated, but eventhough i try, I always have the feeling people dont like me or are afraid of me. I suppose they think i am not normal, but in fact i guess, they aren’t. But most of the people aren’t then. Somehow strange and I have difficults do either accept it or imagine it, that it could really be true.
    So many things are so important in life and i am not talking about the job, money or everything that is related to consumption.
    Today we need to change city, because of a job, that you cant get where you live atm. That means you need to loose all your everyday buddies and start over new. That would be enough if you would do it once in life. But you don’t. You need to do it so many times just because of the job, because of money, money to survive. Thats so sensless and is totally antihuman and antifeeling behaviour.
    Dont get me wrong, i am not stupid, i am very clever and have studied Science. But just because of that I will need to leave, and its not even clear, that your partner would come with you, moving several times from job to job. That makes things so difficult. But most of the people don’t think about that a long time before. They think about it 5mins ago and then just decide. No idea about the consequences it can have. They are not interested in the universe, not interested in answering the questions what the universe is all about, where we are from or if we will have a life after the death, why we get ols, why can’t we stay young for 80 years and die then or why we have to die.
    I often experience people that are really overwhelmed negatively of my way to think and are shocked about it. I feel very alone sometimes. I know a lot of people and i am a very nice person too. People have great benefits in talking to me, because i am so open minded, but when i am thinking about my life and about all those deep thinkers stuff, they just dont understand anymore and think that i am creepy. Thats very sad. But thanks for this giant article. Its a milestone in the history of “Deep Thinking” 🙂

    1. Anna LeMind

      thank you very much Phillip, your comment really touched me and made me feel happy to see that there are other people with similar experiences and struggles out there.

    2. Indronyl Khan

      Thanks Anna. This article has been a saviour it seems. Please accept me in the fb group. All deep thinkers out here and there , let’s do something.

  12. Amanda

    This is my life.Thanks so much. This really helps me. Ive been different in all these ways since I can remember. Because of my deep thougt even people closes to me doubt my itellegence and it has always caused me to doubt myself.

    1. derek murray

      I just want to find other deep thinkers to talk to.

  13. Claire

    This describes me completely. Is there any solution to this?

    1. derek murray

      Socialize?

  14. Shahbaz ahad dar

    It was likely to my thoughts & actions ,what is solution?

  15. Janene Mannerheim

    Wow! This article Anna really resonated with me. I have been a deep thinker all my life. I can remember stating to my mother when I was about 4 what my beliefs about religion and the meaning of ritual were. That was 70 years ago. I haven’t stopped. Time to accept myself and be grateful for having had such a rich life. Look forward to the facebook group. Thank you.

  16. Winifred

    So grateful to have found this article. I feel like I finally have a diagnosis for a personality dysfunction that I’ve had my whole life. This gives me relief to know that Im not crazy for being an existential empathic person. That’s just me. Now I will celebrate these traits and continue to be the person I am!

  17. Alison

    This is me !! I seem to live my life in my mind and it causes me to not live in the moment which i need to do to be happy i feel. Outcome has been a lot of depression which i still seek counselling for i wish i could be more laid back and not take life so seriously but i will never stop being empathetic towards others as i see so many people damaged by others judgment of them.

  18. Alan

    I’ve gone through all of this. I really, really need to find some way to change reality. My biggest fear is that of, not being able to do it or die before achieve anything. I feel that i have one enormous purpose in life, but i need to remind myself every day so i dont lie down to everyday minor stuff. Its really difficult but is there. I can see it. Also, being such a hard work task, it will give a gigantic reward too. Not that i want one, but its always welcome. Better if its a non material reward, perhaps, one personal reward… just asked to join the FB group. really looking forward it

  19. Palak

    This personality type is very relatable for me! I’m curious to know from — Anna or anyone else that is also a deep thinker — what are some benefits you’ve found as a deep thinker? And are there are any tips you’ve found to work for you in navigating the day-to-day modern and often-shallow surroundings? How do you keep your satiation for deep stimulus (for a lack of a better term) satisfied?

    I’ll admit that some things that have worked for me as a deep thinker are: having an analytical job, being extremely creative when I want to be, having deep conversations with friends/finding people that appreciate deep thinking, and being what some may call “intriguing”

    However, the downsides I have faced are that it’s hard to find a community of deep thinkers and it’s hard to snap out of my own mind. So any tips here would be helpful!

  20. April Miller

    This described me to a “TEE” Not to mention that I’ve always been very empathic and sometimes so intuitive it’s almost eerie , so it tends to cause me to remain an introvert for the most part..

  21. M. Mack

    WOW! I think that 85-90% of this describes me. I have a hard time NOT thinking about things and the relevance of one event or person to another. I don’t have trouble making small talk or “friends”, but it most exchanges certainly leave me empty and searching for more. What resonated most for me was the “looping”. I think about things, events and their meanings only to find myself frustrated with never feeling I’ve “figured it out” or have the answers. It’s tough, but it’s who I am! Glad to know I’m not alone.

  22. Dounia

    I loved this article, it really touched me because I can relate to all of what you mentioned.
    I am so reliefed that I have found this. It made me feel that I at least belong to a group of people in this world.
    I would love to make a group of friends that are deep thinkers like me, at least we can stop feeling lonely together.

  23. Callum

    You know, it is quite scary when someone articulates the complications of your life with such precision. Totally relate to most of what was written, other than “humanity is doomed” part. I am an autistic guy who had to learn how to behave properly around others because people found me; loud, inappropriate, and dumb. I’ve had to change so much to fit in (which I find cruel and draining) and so I’ve become a recluse to avoid having to give a shit about others as much and their materialistic and meme obsessions. But I am actually quite content with my life, found a girlfriend (before I became really reclusive) and she loves and accepts me, been together for 5 years, going strong. It took her a while to understand, but she is just as broken as I, just in different ways, we help fix each other and communicate a lot.

  24. Ann

    This article blew my mind. I feel my family and close Circle do not know who I am. I have soerated myself from people beacuse of this. I feel I am a misunderstood person beacuse of my deep thinking . I DO SEE A LOT and wish sometimes I could turn it off. Also, thinking I am snooty or mean or anti social is what I get a lot from people. They are always begging me to go somewhere or do something against my will which makes me uncomfortable ALL the time. Then I am upset with myself because I either know something was coming or saw something about a person and I do not want to be around. There are two people that really know who I am. Most people call what I have a gift. To me I cant even explain it to people what I see when I am with them. I watch every body language, movement and how people operate. I can’t even tell most people I am with because they will never understand or think I am judging the person So most of the times I just find a corner , withdraw myself or do not participate and make excuses. Like I didnt feel gold or whatever. The worst part for me is looking at my close family and feel wow they dont even k ow me. I mean they k ow they obvious and what I express. However, most tinea they blow me off or think I’m too much. I want to separate myself from them as well. Even the person I have been with for 23 years.

  25. Ramesh Krishnan

    I am glad that I found this post. I agree with almost everything that has been stated here. To add to this, I would like to share something about myself. About five years back, I was diagnosed with a condition called Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). However, I had been suffering from this condition since childhood. Does someone in the group face a similar situation? Do you feel that there could be a connection between ADD and deep thinking? I would like to hear all your views.

  26. Shaunak Agastya Vyas

    I have been under psychiatric treatment for 13+ years. This article has finally helped me to understand the state of my mind. I felt very much connected while reading it. Thank you so much, Anna for writing and sharing it. ‘Learning Mind’ has been really doing a phenomenal job for people like me. Amen.

  27. Mark van Rijnsbergen

    Haven’t read a better description of who I am and how I function… thank you so much Anna!

  28. Kara

    Sorry,the quote was a typo too. It was ~ Life is not life without having lived through every moment. ~ Grammar (typo?)aside… Reading this late at night the third time this year… Or more, so let the rambles out I guess…Hope this is somehow uplifting to those who question their ‘ inner knowing ‘ if you will.

    Creativity is a gift so don’t waste it in the moment!

  29. Sakhile Padi

    I woke up feeling so detached. I am a deep thinker and a loner and I love that about myself. I just don’t like how hard it is to connect with people at my level. It was good to come across this article. To read something from another deep thinker.

  30. Dana

    so glad to find this article. Yes it is so difficult to make a connection with people. You are not alone.

  31. Anita

    Mmm, well, am now wondering what makes a deep thinker, become a deep thinker, or how does one end up finding all of this question in our head.
    Basically, why am I the way I am, and why does everything that I begin to understand often just turns into bigger questions in which I often find myself emerged into later on as peeps stare at me like I am literally green or something…
    I know none of this makes any sense…
    …or does it, I don’t know, I think I got lost somewhere sorry, I just love thinking…😇

  32. Lynn

    I love this article. Every thing she says is spot on. Would some one please Make a road chart for the exit out of my head. Ingrorrace truly is bliss, too much insight can mess you up mentally and emotionally.

  33. Karol Harper

    I can relate to you. I sometimes find “typical thinkers” easier to get along with than ‘deep thinkers”. There seems to be an arrogance and feeling of superiority in too many of those of us who live in the deep. I get this feeling that they think they are special…….I know this, because I have succumbed to it in the past. There are NO satisfactory answers to the questions except for the existance of God. Thus the nihilists have it right………no God, no reason to exist……….except to eat, drink, and be merry. And yet we know, deep inside, that there IS more than that. I am 76…………and I tend to live within my own head…….I would like to understand the people who do NOT live in their head. What is their life like? Are their thoughts constantly tumbling all over themselves, overflowing the closets of their minds? Or are their thoughts clearer and simpler?

  34. Bret

    I guess Im a deep thinker. I hate it too. Because as an American, I hate my culture and society so much that I refuse to be a part of it. Hence the loneliness. And I refuse to bend myself to the stupidity of my peers. America IS FINISHED. No doubt about it. And I will NOT LOG IN TO POST A COMMENT EITHER. On any website. that needs to be abolished right now. I WILL NOT LOG IN

  35. Eric Medina

    hi my name is Eric I am a in depth thinker. I can agree with most of this information. my life is totally different. my life is affected by false opinions and judgment that has caused physical and mental harm to me from people who are closest to me and someone I talked to for a total of 3 hours in a months time. I am a man of God but I don’t believe in religion.
    I speak Gods truth and I am criticized from both worlds religous people and non believers. I have the answer to lifes main issues but for this reason I have no support because the people around me don’t agree with my actions so everything I do or say is wrong. I am surrounded by negativity. This affects my purpose because I have to explain myself over and over to where I do secluded myself but it’s to avoid the mental abuse I have even today. have you ever studied a in depth person that believes in God that has no support to help accomplish this goals that with have such a huge positive impact in our society? My life is actually a tons more information but no one ever really cares what I say because no one cares these days. They just look at themselves all day through Facebook. I have so much knowledge to share. God has given me so much information to help others that I am selling everything I own to make this center possible. All while dealing with myself and my surroundings. I even gained information to help someone out of a unfortunate situation without drugs or therapy. I’ve actually helped 5 people so far. God gives me conformation in different ways. The information he gave me and after I have used this information I gain a understand to perfect these skill in 3 months on my own. He then gave me my conformation by showing me how he had someone else doing it. Well someone during world war 2 had this information but he used it the wrong way. he is actually a very smart man. They even made a movie about him in 2012. There is no way I had his exact information just pop up in my head. I didn’t read it anywhere because I have dyslexia and a ADHD. All these mind deficiencies are for only one purpose and it’s to bring a balance to this world because ethics is literally being lost daily because of social media.

  36. Joy guillemin

    I am a deap thinker and very spiritual I am just like u ! I read this and I seen myself. I am a healer and an impath that. Is also wanting to create a way for people like us to heal the World though reshaping our future one positive reinforcing vibrational coaching meditaive law attractive. Enviromental. Preserving no footprint leaving precarious human free will perpetuating higher rising emotinal healing as ascending to the music and scriptures to discover the power within

  37. Dare

    As a 17 year old, finding out that I have same thoughts as a 70+ year old feels weird

  38. J. Roxanne

    I’m also a deep thinker and do find it some what difficult to find like minded individuals, however I do get out, I do socialize even if its superficial, I have a few friends even if their not on my level; I engage in Martial Arts; Currently learning a foreign language in college. I know, I may never meet my deep thinker soul mate in my life time, yet I will continue to get up every morning, get out of the house, and continue to learn and speaking with people, even if their not on my same level…

  39. Nana

    I guess I googled this and happened upon this website out of: the need to feel less alone in my thoughts. I was actually shocked about how accurate a lot of this is. The comments are interesting, I also find it difficult to believe a god exists but I find myself unwilling to say a god doesn’t exist at all. But then I also question where the idea of gods came from and why humans want to cling onto the idea of gods so badly. Recently I’ve felt overwhelming hopelessness at today’s society (it probably doesn’t help that Im diagnosed with anxiety/depression) so that makes me think even more about things. This was a good read. I wonder why we have to be the odd ones out who can’t stop thinking deeply.

  40. bs

    The article and comments are highly inspiring and provoking to read more.

    So, I have become a member.

    But, would like to know if there is any mandatory fee or contribution, which I may not be
    able to afford.

    Meanwhile, I want to say that there is a force which created the universe, and is still keeping it going.
    Not only that, when I am asleep, my vital body functions go on working as usual without me or my relative or friend
    assisting. Now what does it matter, whether I term this Force as ‘God’ or ‘M’, as long as it [or ‘IT’] keeps my vital functions
    going and keeps me alive. I am grateful to this FORCE ‘M’ which ensures that my heart, my lungs and their other colleagues do the work without any break or leave or without any grudge when endanger them by some of my
    ‘not -so-appreciable’ actions or rather reactions.

    The article and the comments are worth reading and thinking over and over again. I will read them. again and yet again.
    With regards, bs

  41. SilkRoadBaby

    Older deep thinkers aren’t as socially or mentally hobbled as this psychology writer makes them out to me. She’s painting a picture with too broad of a brush stroke. Maybe YOUNGER deep thinkers are wallowing helplessly, but not those who have some experience under their belt already.

    1. Aeroldy

      Yes SilkRoadBaby, I agree with you on your comment. Having sorted out my individuality over decades I now understand why I am a deep thinker and very glad to have learned that. Unfortunately in my family I appear to be the only one so have endured ongoing shaming from my siblings. Enough in fact to cause my distancing both geographically and mentally from most of them.
      After three therapists over 8 years insisted on that action I took the plunge and moved on. Still dealing with that through establishing personal boundaries but have it under control and indeed, I am the happiest one.
      No issues with socializing or the multiple social problems mentioned in this article.
      Having a wide range of interests has caused a focused level of introspection to reorient my primary passion. Now have a grip on it, am moving forward and realigning my life. It’s been a long road but definitely worth arriving at where I am now. Life is good, go with the flow as they say.

  42. Joe

    I googled, “I’m a deep thinker and have no friends” thanks for this article. Sad to think I asked google this but maybe Google is the deep thinker we sometimes need. I looked it up because I’m at a loss for what to do. I desire friendships but am aware of the outcome. Hopefully joining here can help with some of this.

  43. Oyenike

    Could deep thinking be the cause of some suicide cases? Since there seem to be a unanimous agreement that it could be frustrating, lonely etc to be a deep thinker. Plus, could it also be attributable to losing ones temper more often while relating with the seeming “clueless” majority?

  44. Shannon William Fincher

    I just read this article and realized I can relate on every single level of this article from beginning to end. I’ve always felt socially awkward as if I didn’t quite fit in some how even though I wanted to and I tried to. But I never really could. I have very few people in my life that I would consider true friends.. For as long as I can remember ive been able to see in my mind a finished project, or product in my mind and I instinctively knew how that project was made, or what that product needs in order to be created, but I have no idea the necessary steps or procedures from start to finish . Its like I can see tbe beginning of all things. And I can see the end of all things. But when it comes to the middle of all things. I see nothing, I know nothing and I cannot for the life of me figure out how the middle works. Im constantly in my mind trying to dissect the meaning of it all I can lose anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours in my head picturing images and word playing trying to make it all fit.. Into what I don’t even know. I get upset and angry when I’m in my head and some one like my mother ask me a question which I always answer but my answers for the most part she doesn’t understand. Which leads to follow up questions and I visibly can be seen getting irritated now and I’ll usually reply to her, something along these lines right here!
    ( what do you mean I just answered your question mom. ) and she’ll say something like (no you didn’t , this is what you said) And in my mind it all makes sense but to her I’m being a smart ass and she’ll get mad and she will say say something like this , why is it when anyone asked you a question you get all defensive and get a attitude.. Well now that I read this article I have a answer.. I also have a uncanny ability to analyze a person’s behavior and there body language as well as there over all demeanor and well that guy right there well he’s is lying his ass’s off.. Shes nervous about one thing or another.. And him over there he’s scared to death about some one finding out about something..
    I’m hoping since I have just finally found this information maybe I will find some answers that will help me understand myself a little more better..

  45. Darren Sparks

    My next tattoo:. “Ignorance is Bliss”. I constantly feel like I’m surrounded by idiots.

  46. nick

    wow spoke to me!!! I do think I am more of an extrovert but once I get to know the person well 🙂

  47. Chaitanya

    Little bit scary initially because I can see myself here. But explanation made it clear.

  48. Steve

    Excellent write up! I can relate to all of it but are there really no answers to the big questions like why are we here? Life after death? Etc. I think that there are in Fact true answers that anyone can find out for themselves but the answers are non transferrable to another person and can only be found by deep thinking and raw determination to discover the truth. Someone that KNOWS, without a doubt, through personal experience, that extraterrestrials (for example) visit Earth on a regular basis and abduct people for the purpose of genetic manipulation, cannot simply say “they’re here, this is what they’re doing and this is why.” (They could technically but it would be about as tangible as a fart in a hurricane) The only people who can attain this level of knowing, are those who have first hand knowledge through experience. Therefore, those who seek the truth, shall find the truth (probably) But spreading the truth with others who are not looking for it, is nearly impossible and oftentimes mortally dangerous, especially when it comes to spiritual subjects. My whole point here,is that, being a deep thinker and finding real truths about the nature of reality, is and always has been, the “dark” path, or the occult, or blasphemy, or some other bulls$&#+, that has been perpetuated by the ignorant, mundane masses that fear the unknown. Which force us into hiding our insights. Articles like this one provide a bit of comfort to those of us who feel alone in a world full of people. About 8 billion or so.

  49. Thinker

    He, Iam also a deep thinker. I find myself why I am was so different from other peoples. Now i finded I am a deep thinkers
    Thanks for the article

  50. John

    Good to know there are others like me and I’m not a lone wolf. It is indeed debilitating, realizing the true human nature and what moves people around you turns you down. You just want to live in your world and deal with like-minded people that can discuss about abstract ideas, and not just the latest Kardashian fad or Kardi B song. It’s a lonely, at times sad, depressing and without end path. We just have to cope with it and make the best we can.

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