Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic values, this constant inquiry and a profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging. Our consumerist society is killing deep thinking and is cultivating ignorance, and it makes sense why. Ignorant people who don’t question themselves and the world are the easiest targets for manipulation and mind control.

This is one of the reasons why deep thinking is not ‘in fashion’ in the modern world. Those of us who have this rare ability to look right into the depth of things often end up lonely, unhappy, and unaccomplished. It’s all because being a deep thinker comes with a number of struggles and drawbacks most people are unaware of.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires, and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

One of the reasons why a deep thinker may struggle with relating to other people is a lack of meaningful communication. With all the ignorance and superficiality today, it’s not easy to find someone to talk about the things that truly matter. This is why deep thinkers often end up alone as they prefer loneliness to forced friendships.

This type of person is unlikely to tolerate shallow relationships and fake friendships. And no need to say that these are incredibly common nowadays. It’s becoming more and more difficult to make friends with genuine and deep people who don’t have hidden motives. Sadly, the consumer mindset has changed much more than just the way we see material objects. It has also altered the way we see each other.

With time, all this may make you feel alien to this society and world. Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly to the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

A deep thinker will often reflect on the world’s problems and will tend to take them to heart. No one will disagree that our current society has lots of issues to solve. From wars and social inequality to disrespect towards Mother Nature and other living beings on the planet.

Deep thinkers get genuinely concerned and disappointed with all this injustice, greed, and violence we witness today. And the worst part is that one person can do very little to change the whole world. Thus, all a deep thinker is left with is worrying about the things they cannot influence.

4. Being indecisive and failing to take real actions

Deep thinkers are highly self-aware and reflective. However, no matter how good these traits may be, they have one significant drawback. Those prone to deep thinking have a really hard time when it comes to taking real actions to change their life and the world. These dreamers with theoretical minds prefer to live in their own heads, immersed in their thoughts and visions.

For this reason, turning ideas into a reality, and putting plans into practice can be challenging for them. This indecisiveness and a lack of action often cost deep thinkers success and accomplishment.

It may not be a problem, however, as a deep thinker is rarely interested in becoming a success story. At the same time, when you realize that your life needs a change or you could make a real difference in the world, but you fail to act on it, this brings you deep disappointment with yourself.

5. Overthinking

It makes sense that deep thinking almost always equals overthinking. One of the telltale traits of a deep thinker is the tendency to overanalyze their actions and behavior. They find nonexistent mistakes, failures, and flaws, and blame themselves for those.

The truth is that a deep thinker can often be too hard on themselves. This makes them focus on the negative and worry too much about insignificant things.

Overthinking is another thing that can prevent deep thinkers from believing in themselves and succeeding in life. A person who is too hard on themselves tends to overlook their strengths and talents.

6. Poor social skills and difficulty relating to others

Deep thinking often comes with social incompetence. Social skills are usually an innate quality, even though they can be developed.

Yet, social communication mainly relies on the practical, everyday side of life. And this is something deep thinkers are not really good at as they tend to have highly theoretical minds. This inability to connect with other people easily makes the feeling of detachment even more intense.

At the same time, the tendency to think deep leaves a mark on your perception of other people as well. Being a deep thinker is not only about trying to solve the world’s problems or eternal dilemmas. Many deep thinkers are fascinated with the human psyche and its mysteries. The ability to analyze human nature in depth also affects social situations and day to day interactions with people.

A deep thinker with an analytical mind can easily detect inconsistencies in someone’s behavior which indicate lies, authenticity, and hidden motives. As a result, this ability inevitably leads to disappointment. The more you deal with people and see their true nature, the more alone you feel.

7. Others confuse you for being arrogant/weird/absentminded

For the most part, deep thinkers are introverts who remain immersed in their thoughts most of the day and don’t open up to other people easily.

For this reason, those who don’t know you well may get the wrong impression that you are full of yourself and are acting snobby, avoiding small talks and group activities.

I like deep thinkers. I don’t like to have normal conversations with people. I love learning about what makes them who they are. Their thoughts. Views. Who is important to them. What is important to them. Let me pick your brain

I like deep thinkers. I don’t like to have normal conversations with people. I love learning about what makes them who they are. Their thoughts. Views. Who is important to them. What is important to them. Let me pick your brain.

Some may think you are a weirdo or an absentminded daydreamer who just sits there and has his/her head in the clouds all day long.

8. The necessity to solve everyday problems can be a real challenge

You may have reflected on the questions that most people have never asked themselves and have read more books than anyone around you.

Hours of your life may have passed trying to find answers to meaningful questions and figure out what this existence is all about. You may have remarkable insights and may notice things most people are unaware of. However, solving everyday problems can make you feel completely helpless.

The truth is that deep thinking rarely equals practical thinking. Ask a deep thinker to explain to you the essence of existentialist philosophy for your college paper, and they will. Ask them to help you buy a washing machine for your new home, and they will scratch their head, feeling clueless.

The mundane aspects of being don’t really interest a deep thinker and their practical thinking skills are not that good. So they try to avoid dealing with such issues at any cost.

9. Periods of introspection and causeless sadness

If you are a deep thinker, you are probably familiar with the feeling of sadness you may have from time to time for no obvious reason. It is a sort of existential depression.

Pain and suffering are always inevitable

Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men must, I think, have great sadness on earth.
-Fyodor Dostoevsky, “Crime and Punishment”

In these periods, you are just drawn into yourself, analyzing your life, or reflecting on existential issues. Nothing can really get you out of this state unless the flow of your thoughts comes to some conclusion.

Thinking in depth is directly linked with reflecting on existential questions. A person who has never asked themselves about the meaning of life and everything can’t be really considered a deep thinker.

Is there life after death? Who am I? What is my purpose in this world? Questions like these are certainly interesting to think about. At the same time though, they have no answers. So reflecting on these matters automatically means that you will be chasing the elusive truth for a lifetime and will never reach it.

10. Lack of understanding

When you have that thoughtful expression on your face, even your close ones may assume that something is wrong with you and start worrying about you, asking questions like “Is everything all right?” or “Are you ok?”

The problem is that it’s not always easy to explain the cause of this mood. It may be something as simple as a book with a sad ending or a thought-provoking documentary you recently watched – literally anything can put you in deep thoughts.

11. It can be difficult to get out of your head and return to reality

When you are reading a book or are simply immersed in your thoughts, it’s like if you were traveling to an alternate reality. A real struggle is when you have to come back to the “real” world and return to your job, everyday duties, and activities. This return is always accompanied by a feeling of confusion and even frustration.

Remember those mornings when you are having a beautiful dream and it is suddenly interrupted by the sound of the alarm clock? This is what it feels like when you realize it’s time to get out of your head and come back to real life.

How to Cope as a Deep Thinker in the Modern World?

Are you a deep thinker who struggles with staying connected to reality and those around you? You may want to check my related articles for some guidance:

Can you relate to any of the above-described points? Share your thoughts with us.

P.S. After numerous requests from our readers, we created a community aimed to bring like-minded deep thinkers around the world together. If you are interested, join our Facebook group“Deep Thinkers in the Modern World”.

P.P.S. If you are a deep thinker who feels alien to modern society, check out my new book The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In, which is available on Amazon.

Anna LeMind, B.A.

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    As a 17 year old, finding out that I have same thoughts as a 70+ year old feels weird

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    I’m starting to find believing that God exists difficult.

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      Examine your concept of God. Is it informed by western religions? What are the eastern concepts. What are the actual translations of words like the Hebrew word we are told is God? Sin? Religion binds the mind. You have no need of a man/woman teach you. But be guided by those who have gone before you. Love to you.

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        Nope I don’t believe in religion I know my God to be true. I have facts and the words of people that told me before I spoke what I knew

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    J. Roxanne

    I’m also a deep thinker and do find it some what difficult to find like minded individuals, however I do get out, I do socialize even if its superficial, I have a few friends even if their not on my level; I engage in Martial Arts; Currently learning a foreign language in college. I know, I may never meet my deep thinker soul mate in my life time, yet I will continue to get up every morning, get out of the house, and continue to learn and speaking with people, even if their not on my same level…

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    I guess I googled this and happened upon this website out of: the need to feel less alone in my thoughts. I was actually shocked about how accurate a lot of this is. The comments are interesting, I also find it difficult to believe a god exists but I find myself unwilling to say a god doesn’t exist at all. But then I also question where the idea of gods came from and why humans want to cling onto the idea of gods so badly. Recently I’ve felt overwhelming hopelessness at today’s society (it probably doesn’t help that Im diagnosed with anxiety/depression) so that makes me think even more about things. This was a good read. I wonder why we have to be the odd ones out who can’t stop thinking deeply.

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      Are you a active person?

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        Yeah actually, I go to class during the week and I go hiking on weekends. I take my dog out for walks, go on bike rides, sit in cafes doing my homework. Every summer I go abroad to study and go on adventures. I’d say, I’m a pretty active person.

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    Hi there. God is real because once you get to know the Holy Spirit and test Him+ allow Him to heal you, then you know there is power that is out there that genuinely wants the best for you. Thank you for this website. Its time I ask the Holy Spirit what to do with the depths of my soul which I find so difficult to leave. Indeed day to day activities are a struggle but I know He will help me as He has done for me in everything else.He bought me here to find out the underlying reasons for my problems so that He can heal me from the root up.Thank you Jesus!

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      I hear you repeat what they say in the church. What did God heal that you needed healing with? A headache?

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    Sakhile Padi

    I feel that it’s up to each individual to investigate with an open mind what religion really is and then decide what they choose to believe. If it makes sense to you, makes you feel better – it’s your life.

    I am an African, so exposed to African beliefs at a young age. I was also Christian for a long time because colonialism brought Christianity to South Africa. I live in a Muslim country, I have spent a month in Rishikesh India which is very Hindu. I am currently not religious. I find religion to be stuff that people made up to help them feel better, have order, control others.. many different reasons.

    I do believe that there is a creator, simply because I find nature to be too complex to have been an accident. It seems to well thought out, planned, how everything in nature works together.

    So I guess I’m agnostic. But I don’t believe in anything else which makes no logical sense. I decided for myself and I actually don’t care if people are religious or not. But I definitely felt soooooo free when I decided to quit being religious.

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    The article and comments are highly inspiring and provoking to read more.

    So, I have become a member.

    But, would like to know if there is any mandatory fee or contribution, which I may not be
    able to afford.

    Meanwhile, I want to say that there is a force which created the universe, and is still keeping it going.
    Not only that, when I am asleep, my vital body functions go on working as usual without me or my relative or friend
    assisting. Now what does it matter, whether I term this Force as ‘God’ or ‘M’, as long as it [or ‘IT’] keeps my vital functions
    going and keeps me alive. I am grateful to this FORCE ‘M’ which ensures that my heart, my lungs and their other colleagues do the work without any break or leave or without any grudge when endanger them by some of my
    ‘not -so-appreciable’ actions or rather reactions.

    The article and the comments are worth reading and thinking over and over again. I will read them. again and yet again.
    With regards, bs

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    Older deep thinkers aren’t as socially or mentally hobbled as this psychology writer makes them out to me. She’s painting a picture with too broad of a brush stroke. Maybe YOUNGER deep thinkers are wallowing helplessly, but not those who have some experience under their belt already.

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      Yes SilkRoadBaby, I agree with you on your comment. Having sorted out my individuality over decades I now understand why I am a deep thinker and very glad to have learned that. Unfortunately in my family I appear to be the only one so have endured ongoing shaming from my siblings. Enough in fact to cause my distancing both geographically and mentally from most of them.
      After three therapists over 8 years insisted on that action I took the plunge and moved on. Still dealing with that through establishing personal boundaries but have it under control and indeed, I am the happiest one.
      No issues with socializing or the multiple social problems mentioned in this article.
      Having a wide range of interests has caused a focused level of introspection to reorient my primary passion. Now have a grip on it, am moving forward and realigning my life. It’s been a long road but definitely worth arriving at where I am now. Life is good, go with the flow as they say.

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    I googled, “I’m a deep thinker and have no friends” thanks for this article. Sad to think I asked google this but maybe Google is the deep thinker we sometimes need. I looked it up because I’m at a loss for what to do. I desire friendships but am aware of the outcome. Hopefully joining here can help with some of this.

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    Could deep thinking be the cause of some suicide cases? Since there seem to be a unanimous agreement that it could be frustrating, lonely etc to be a deep thinker. Plus, could it also be attributable to losing ones temper more often while relating with the seeming “clueless” majority?

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    Shannon William Fincher

    I just read this article and realized I can relate on every single level of this article from beginning to end. I’ve always felt socially awkward as if I didn’t quite fit in some how even though I wanted to and I tried to. But I never really could. I have very few people in my life that I would consider true friends.. For as long as I can remember ive been able to see in my mind a finished project, or product in my mind and I instinctively knew how that project was made, or what that product needs in order to be created, but I have no idea the necessary steps or procedures from start to finish . Its like I can see tbe beginning of all things. And I can see the end of all things. But when it comes to the middle of all things. I see nothing, I know nothing and I cannot for the life of me figure out how the middle works. Im constantly in my mind trying to dissect the meaning of it all I can lose anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours in my head picturing images and word playing trying to make it all fit.. Into what I don’t even know. I get upset and angry when I’m in my head and some one like my mother ask me a question which I always answer but my answers for the most part she doesn’t understand. Which leads to follow up questions and I visibly can be seen getting irritated now and I’ll usually reply to her, something along these lines right here!
    ( what do you mean I just answered your question mom. ) and she’ll say something like (no you didn’t , this is what you said) And in my mind it all makes sense but to her I’m being a smart ass and she’ll get mad and she will say say something like this , why is it when anyone asked you a question you get all defensive and get a attitude.. Well now that I read this article I have a answer.. I also have a uncanny ability to analyze a person’s behavior and there body language as well as there over all demeanor and well that guy right there well he’s is lying his ass’s off.. Shes nervous about one thing or another.. And him over there he’s scared to death about some one finding out about something..
    I’m hoping since I have just finally found this information maybe I will find some answers that will help me understand myself a little more better..

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    Darren Sparks

    My next tattoo:. “Ignorance is Bliss”. I constantly feel like I’m surrounded by idiots.

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    wow spoke to me!!! I do think I am more of an extrovert but once I get to know the person well 🙂

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    Little bit scary initially because I can see myself here. But explanation made it clear.

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    Excellent write up! I can relate to all of it but are there really no answers to the big questions like why are we here? Life after death? Etc. I think that there are in Fact true answers that anyone can find out for themselves but the answers are non transferrable to another person and can only be found by deep thinking and raw determination to discover the truth. Someone that KNOWS, without a doubt, through personal experience, that extraterrestrials (for example) visit Earth on a regular basis and abduct people for the purpose of genetic manipulation, cannot simply say “they’re here, this is what they’re doing and this is why.” (They could technically but it would be about as tangible as a fart in a hurricane) The only people who can attain this level of knowing, are those who have first hand knowledge through experience. Therefore, those who seek the truth, shall find the truth (probably) But spreading the truth with others who are not looking for it, is nearly impossible and oftentimes mortally dangerous, especially when it comes to spiritual subjects. My whole point here,is that, being a deep thinker and finding real truths about the nature of reality, is and always has been, the “dark” path, or the occult, or blasphemy, or some other bulls$&#+, that has been perpetuated by the ignorant, mundane masses that fear the unknown. Which force us into hiding our insights. Articles like this one provide a bit of comfort to those of us who feel alone in a world full of people. About 8 billion or so.

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