8 Struggles of Being a Deep Thinker in the Modern World

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Being a deep thinker is a great gift as it allows you to delve into the very essence of things and be more conscious.

Still, in modern society with its materialistic consumer mentality, this constant inquiry and profound awareness that accompany being a deep thinker can be quite challenging.

Here are some struggles that only deep thinkers can relate to:

1. Feeling of detachment

In a world ruled by greed, primitive desires and material interests, where people’s intellectual, moral and spiritual level is constantly going down, it’s no surprise that deep thinkers often feel like they don’t belong here.

Sometimes, you just can’t understand other people and their actions, which makes you wonder why you are such a misfit and feel like you come from another planet.

2. You have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities

Similarly with the feeling of detachment, you don’t resonate with the interests and aspirations that are common to the majority of people and don’t enjoy things everyone loves. Those popular TV shows everyone talks about or usual activities like going for shopping with your friends and talking about clothes only irritate you.

You often wonder how it’s possible to waste so much of time on the things that don’t really matter. In general, you have little or no interest in the mundane and material side of being.

3. You have a profound frustration with modern society

Whether you follow what’s happening in the world or not, the only thing is clear – you are quite pessimistic about the future of humanity. It’s all because you deeply realize that humankind is constantly moving away from the true values and the things that really matter. All this ignorance and superficiality of modern people often make you think that the human race is doomed.

4. Others confuse you for being arrogant/weird/absentminded

For the most part, deep thinkers are introverts who remain immersed in their thoughts most of the day and don’t open up to other people easily. For this reason, those who don’t know you well may get a wrong impression that you are full of yourself and are acting snobby, avoiding small talks and group activities.

Some may think you are a weirdo or an absentminded daydreamer who just sits there and has his/her head in the clouds all day long.

5. The necessity to solve everyday problems can be a real challenge

You may have reflected on the questions that most people have never asked themselves and have read more books than anyone around you, but solving everyday problems can make you feel really helpless. The mundane aspects of being have never really interested you and your practical thinking skills are not that good, so you try to avoid dealing with such issues at any cost.

6. Periods of introspection and causeless sadness

If you are a deep thinker, you are probably familiar with the feeling of sadness you may have from time to time for no obvious reason. It can be compared to depression of a sort.

In these periods, you are just drawn into yourself, analyzing your life or reflecting on existential issues. Nothing can really get you out of this state unless the flow of your thoughts comes to some conclusion.

7. Lack of understanding

When you have that thoughtful expression on your face, even your close ones may assume that something is wrong with you and start worrying about you, asking questions like “Is everything all right?” or “Are you ok?”

The problem is that it’s not always easy to explain the cause of this mood. It may be something as simple as a book with a sad ending or a thought-provoking documentary you recently watched – literally anything can put you in deep thoughts.

8. It can be difficult to get out of your head and return to reality

When you are reading a book or are simply immersed in your thoughts, it’s like if you were traveling to an alternate reality. A real struggle is when you have to come back to the “real” world and return to your job, everyday duties and activities. This return is always accompanied by a feeling of confusion and even frustration.

Remember those mornings when you are having a beautiful dream and it is suddenly interrupted by the sound of the alarm clock? This is what it feels like when you realize it’s time to get out of your head and come back to the real life.

Are you a deep thinker? Can you relate to any of the above-described points? Share your thoughts with us.

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Anna LeMind

Anna is the founder and lead editor of the website Learning-mind.com. She is passionate about learning new things and reflecting on thought-provoking ideas. She writes about science, psychology and other related topics. She is particularly interested in topics regarding introversion, consciousness and subconscious, perception, human mind's potential, as well as the nature of reality and the universe.

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  1. Gautam Ghosh March 24, 2017 at 3:58 pm - Reply

    Oh ! It seems that you are writing about me .

  2. Ava March 27, 2017 at 2:49 am - Reply

    All these comments are as interesting as the article itself. I see myself in most of you. I am different to most people I know and for most o them different = difficult. I’ve also suffered depression and sadness because I’ve felt like I’m not understood. However this gift is what now gives me strength as I’ve come to know and understand who I am, that gives me great confidence these days but getting here was the opposite, full of insecurities etc. always wondering what others were thinking.
    Now I am happy because it comes from who I am, not what I am, I no longer need validation from others. I’ve learned to enjoy walking my journey alone and sharing what I’ve learned with others when it is permitted I don’t care for all the political correct stuff.it does nothing for me, I prefer people to be real and authentic without all the bull. I only took 60 years to get here but I’ve arrived and now I’m a formidable personality, sometimes too much for others but that is fine. I love who I am these days.
    Be well my fellow travelers, we are here for a reason 🙂

    • Darren May 18, 2017 at 10:45 am - Reply

      This is an amazing comment, I’m 18 and I’ve always been a deep thinker and wrapped up in meditation. I always thought it was something I would just outgrow and I would eventually conform to society, but that’s literally impossible unless I want to die inside. I just thought it was cool that your 60 and are still on your true life path. I kind of figured that to make it in today’s world you had to conform to the stupidity and keep life’s greatest questions to yourself. I’m just glad to see I’m not completely alone. I met a 59 year old man at the park the other day while I was playing guitar and we literally talked for 2 hours about our life expiriences and it really offered me some solice that the entire world isnt chickens with their heads chopped off. He seemed like he really chose his life and seeing your comment just confirmed that I need to be 100% me even if it means traveling alone most days.

  3. Pollyblue April 5, 2017 at 7:20 am - Reply

    Wow, I had just been trying to relate to my husband thus evening about my latest internal conflicts and frustrations that I really couldn’t explain, and then I came across this article. It made me cry, I felt lime maybe I wasn’t alone and just maybe I could find someone in the world to talk to who might understand me. I read the whole thing out loud to him and he said it sounds like I wrote it, I feel like I could have. Thank you for the validation.

  4. matthew April 8, 2017 at 12:48 am - Reply

    hey so this little article really reaches out to me, im married and have been for years now, and my wife still thinks of me as distant and there is no real way of explaining that im not. i would love to share conversations with her or anybody in that matter, but i literary suck at staring a conversation, so any tips on socializing would be great for me. also glad to see that im not the only one.

  5. Ben April 9, 2017 at 11:22 am - Reply

    Good article. Feeling misunderstood isn’t fun. Power to you all.

  6. Sanjay Kumar April 9, 2017 at 11:32 am - Reply

    Comment…I used to think that there must be few man in the world with this kind of mind situations as mine. this article totally match to my behavior.

  7. Ollie April 10, 2017 at 7:52 am - Reply

    We do cross paths with people like us or others who also have some of our traits. This connection does give us great relief and belonging however the majority of people can’t relate or understand to our persona whether by distractions of life or avoidance due to the negativity and often unpleasant realisations around the truths of our existence. Be brave and persevere with our honest endeavors to confront and question our reality. Be who you are. Its minds like ours that challenge the establishment and its actions, we are a powerful and threatening entity to it and we are dangerously obscure, hence our withdrawn personality

  8. ikirkie April 19, 2017 at 2:42 am - Reply

    “You think too much!”
    How many times have I heard that piffle in my life?
    I am each and every one of those eight points. Thx.

  9. Jenson Mccall April 23, 2017 at 1:43 pm - Reply

    Hello, i was just reading through the comments and everyone on here seems to be about 40 – 60, married, has kids. but im only 14 and i am a really deep thinker, i feel like an alien to everyone else. i have my group of friends (4 of us) but i still feel like they dont understand me when i tell them how i get, because i am badly depressed. but they just tell me its gonna be ok. i was just wondering what age did you people start to become a deep thinker? because im 14 and i can look into the full perspective of things and take my mind on a journey.

    • jake May 31, 2017 at 9:09 pm - Reply

      hello everyone i’m 18 and i’m everything of all what you said in comments and @jenson mccall i’m 18 i started to think deep when i got 18.i’m curious about all of you people .curious to meet you all . maybe if we could discuss in group video calling

  10. Luke Reppucci May 4, 2017 at 2:46 pm - Reply

    Yes, I feel like my life is a constant existential crisis punctuated by fleeting distractions and other brief periods of respite that come only after reaching conclusions that are sufficient to temporarily assuage my mind. This relates to my horror at the true implications of naturalism, namely nihilism and antinatalism. I have to leave open the possibility that this worldview is wrong in order to continue functioning, which is already difficult enough (at times almost prohibitive) considering the mere possibility (however great or small) that naturalism’s dictates are indeed correct, and that we are all doomed. If this is true, then the sophisticated consciousness we possess, which allows us to have these realisations, is a cruel, sick joke this universe (or multiverse!) has played on us.

  11. Cal Pace May 8, 2017 at 9:45 am - Reply

    I have been on this journey of trying to understand and truly find myself for about a year now. I am only 18, I am glad I’m figuring all of this out this early. I hate feeling like I don’t truly belong anywhere. I absolutely love my ability to see the big picture and to analyze every little detail that is possible. It allows me overcome so many obsticales that most can’t, at times I feel very useful.

    I absolutely hate small talk it’s boring. I can sit and talk about deep and intricate topics all day, but I don’t know anyone like me. When I’m alone (which is often) I think about everything possible known to mankind (why are we here, what is my purpose, psychological, etc.). I go through periods of depression and in those times I have no energy to think or do much of anything. In times like that I’m usually engulfed in television and other forms of entertainment that draw me away from reality.

    But when I finally make it through I come back to my self and get a handle on my immense anxiety and stress. At those times I can think of rational ways to beat my issues. Previously I would let my negative thoughts and insecurities reign but hopefully now I can keep things optimistic. Thank you for this post and I wish all of you luck on making the best out of our situation.

    • jake May 31, 2017 at 9:16 pm - Reply

      while i’m thinking like you i was looking for people like me and all of you seem to be like me now i’m more curious about how do you all live and what do you do or what are interests or hobbies?

  12. Amelia Aviles May 27, 2017 at 8:11 am - Reply

    All of the above exactly the same of what I am😅

  13. Aine June 1, 2017 at 9:25 pm - Reply

    This article made me feel so much better. I have all those struggles and wonder if I am weird and tend to isolate myself. Thank you for writing and sharing this and spreading your wisdom so people like me can read it as it speaks to the heart 🙂

  14. Rabia June 11, 2017 at 11:16 pm - Reply

    Thanks for putting it out there; I’ve needed to read this for years…to know once-and-for-all that I won’t be understood by the vast majority of people, that the problem is neither with me nor with them since the majority just don’t/can’t/won’t think that deep EVER! I’ve always been under the impression that if i strike a deeper discussion, others will be able to share their reflections…following each disappointing encounter, i would tell myself that i have a knack for ending up in the wrong social circles. Hearing from you all has saved me all the effort of bringing up deeper discussions in the future only to be disappointed by the inability of others to relate. Instead i’ll use that energy in trying to strike normal conversations or appearing engaged in one with a smile that resembles my genuine one 🙂 Thanks a lot fellows!

  15. Will June 28, 2017 at 4:00 am - Reply

    We’ve become the anomaly of society. The misunderstood black sheeps. But deep inside, we know that the path we’re in is a point of no return. I pretend to be a part of the society sometimes for the sake of living. I have become so good at pretending. But I can’t always do it, so I just get in my deep slumber of thoughts instead. We’re more aware and self conscious than the majority of people. My main issue is how to live without being a part of this selfish society. It’s all about survival now.

  16. David June 29, 2017 at 3:18 am - Reply


    Just thought I’d comment because this article seems to be about me and about you people.

    I guess there Is an underlying issue with us, We simple need to stop caring too much and that’s our problem, Our deep thinking is only causing us more pain than anything. Behind that smile Is a sad face and sometimes a bad feeling inside.

    Ive been through very tough times recently, I’m not sure If I should continue the way of a deep thinker or change my way like everyone else but I don’t want to be someone who is neglectful, disrespectful and not humble enough etc…

    I think It’s just better to let go, Stop thinking and move onto what makes us happy just like the rest of the population. Yes, There are Wars going on, Poor people in the world, People dieing etc… but look on the bright side, We seem to be doing OK and we should be more grateful for what we have rather than feeling like miserable gits all the time.

    Hope this helps someone out there and my sincere apologise to anyone If I upset you.

    All the best,

  17. Cheryl July 21, 2017 at 7:25 pm - Reply

    This is definitely me but I got to this stage very late in life. I’m now 74 and for the past 10 years have been engaged in very in-depth, honest critical thinking and questioning of everything! It’s frustrating to not be able to find people in the “real” world” (not online) who are on my frequency of thinking. I disagree with something said in No. 1 though. – I do NOT feel like a misfit, I feel like everyone else is. I always wonder what is wrong with them, being concerned only with very superficial things. Mindless chit-chat makes me glassy-eyed and I just want to go home and be with my own far more interesting thoughts. It’s true I have no interest in mainstream culture and popular activities – they have no meaning for me – and I definitely have a profound frustration with society, all religions and the world/people in general. I am profoundly sad at the state of the world so I’d say I’m existentially depressed. I am a true introvert but can “wing it” for 10 minutes and act superficial like other people, then I’ve had enough. I’m an atheist and an antinatalist and I think life is tragic and should never have existed – far to much suffering for both people and precious animals.

  18. Sandra Castle August 20, 2017 at 7:32 pm - Reply

    I have been a deep thinker since the age of 5. It started one day when I turned my homemade stilts upside down, put my doll blankets on for cushions, and was walking around like I was on crutches. My mother saw me and said, “Quit playing like that or God will make you a cripple.” I stopped, sat down and started thinking about what she had said. I only had a vague opinion about God at that time, but I was sure what she said wasn’t true. Since then it seems that I questioned almost everything I was told or heard.

    I was shocked when I first realized I was different. A good friend and I were on the beach and I asked her what she thought about the whole God concept. She replied, “I don’t know, I’ve never really thought about it.” I was 21 at the time. I had always thought I was just a weird introvert. Now I wondered how anyone could not think about these things.

    I am 68 now and have come to realize that I am only different to those who are shallow minded and ruled by what society tells them. Philosophers (deep thinkers) have, in the past, been revered for their deep thinking about the ways of the world and the motivations that move people. However, in today’s society we are expected to go along with what everyone else does or thinks. I reject this construct because it is not what my self has discovered to be true for me because I have thought through it all.

    It is difficult and lonely sometimes. I abhor small talk. I do not see the purpose in wasting words on mundane chatter. I long to have deep, meaningful conversations with others. I just don’t run across very many people who can or will reciprocate. My mind is always on. I often wonder what goes through the minds of those who are not like me.

    From the comments here, I think it would be a wonderful idea for those of us here to get together to share some of our thoughts. If someone comes up with a viable way to do that, please let me know about it.

    Peace, love and serenity are best.

  19. Ochulo chinonso September 1, 2017 at 1:53 am - Reply

    I think this is the best article I’ve ever read in my entire life… Thumbs up and thank you for the light

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