Are you prone to feeling sad for no reason? In reality, there is always a reason, it’s just could be less obvious.
It’s perfectly natural to feel sad when something bad happens in your life. It’s completely human to feel blue when life gets hard. And it doesn’t mean you are weak or have given up. All it means is that you are sensitive enough to react to a negative situation. But what happens when everything is fine, yet, you are feeling sad for no evident reason?
Probably the most obvious explanation would be a mental illness like depression, SAD or anxiety. Some other health-related causes include vitamin and mineral deficiencies, lack of physical activity and poor nutrition. In essence, we are biochemical machines, so our lifestyle choices have a huge effect on our moods. This is because our emotions are basically different combinations of the same hormones and neurotransmitters.
However, today, we are not going to focus on these widely known causes of sadness.
Let’s try to delve into the deeper roots of feeling sad without a reason.
Below are some unexpected causes of unsubstantial sadness you might have never considered:
1. You might be going through an existential crisis
An existential crisis makes you reconsider your whole life even when everything seems to be going smoothly. You start to ask yourself questions like, Does my life have a meaning? Why am I here? Am I walking the right path in life?
An existential crisis can be a painful experience which brings feelings of despair, disappointment and emptiness. And of course, it can leave you feeling sad for no obvious reason. It’s as if everything in your life suddenly ceases to make any sense and things fall apart.
However, an existential crisis often happens for your own good and eventually helps you find your purpose in life.
When you feeling sad without having a good reason to, carefully watch your thought process. Are you asking yourself questions about your place in this world and the meaning of your existence? If so, your sadness is probably a symptom of an existential crisis.
2. This could be a mid-life (or a quarter-life) crisis
A mid-life or a quarter-life crisis is similar to an existential one, but it makes you ponder over more concrete issues.
For example, if you are in your 20s, your crisis may have to do with your transition to adulthood. The carefree days of adolescence remained in the past, and you now have to face an adult life with its routines and duties.
You may also have noticed that your own perception of the world has become different. You no longer feel enthusiastic about things or have the energy to go out, meet new people and take up activities. This can leave you feeling sad for no reason because on the subconscious level, you realize that life will never be as full and exciting as before.
The same goes for other ages: in your 30s, you may struggle with finding the right career path. Having an unfulfilling, meaningless job you hate is enough to fuel a crisis. Similarly, you could still be single while desperately wanting to start a family.
Possible reasons for experiencing a life crisis at any age are countless, but they all have one common root. And it is a lack of fulfillment and satisfaction. Maybe you have given up on your dreams or are pursuing the wrong things. All this makes you feel like your life is moving in the wrong direction.
So to resolve this crisis, you need to find out what it is that makes you feel unfulfilled, unaccomplished and dissatisfied.
3. You are secretly lonely
Feeling sad for no reason could also stem from loneliness and a lack of understanding. Being understood is often more important than being loved. When someone truly understands you, you are connected on a deeper level. It’s not only an emotional connection but also an intellectual and a spiritual one.
But could you be secretly lonely without even knowing it? Here, I’m using the word ‘secretly’ because you don’t have to be alone in order to feel the pain of loneliness. You may have a special someone, family and friends, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t still feel lonely.
In fact, the deepest and most painful loneliness is when you feel alone and misunderstood in the company of other people. You could hang out with the wrong people or be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t share your values and goals in life.
Even if you are unaware of the fact that you are surrounded by the wrong people, deep inside, you know it. Hence, the feelings of unexplained sadness. It’s how your Higher Self is trying to communicate with you and direct you to the right people. And opening your eyes to uncomfortable truths is always a painful process.
4. A lack of growth
If you have the job of your dreams and the right people in your life, there is no reason to feel sad. But what if you still do? Another possible cause could be a lack of growth.
Are you too deep in your comfort zone? Have you isolated yourself from the world? Does your life lack development, movement and change? As a result, you find yourself stuck in a life that feels like an endless Groundhog Day.
However comfortable and happy your life may be – if nothing ever changes and you don’t grow as a person, eventually, you will find yourself feeling unfulfilled and sad. Then, you will realize that life is passing you by and you are just an observer, not a participant.
5. You are putting too much effort into meeting other people’s and society’s expectations
Today, we constantly feel the pressure of societal expectations. How we should behave, where we should work, what we should wear and so on. Apart from this, our families, friends, colleagues have expectations of their own too.
When we are trying too hard to meet all these expectations, this may take us away from our purpose in life. We may be neglecting our own needs for the sake of pleasing others. We could give up on our dreams just to follow a more secure and socially accepted path.
But even when we achieve all those things we are expected to, it won’t bring us true happiness if it contradicts our purpose in life. We will only find ourselves living someone else’s life. As a result, we will be prone to feeling sad for no reason.
How to Cope When You Are Feeling Sad for No Reason
If you want to end the feeling of unsubstantial sadness, you should find the root cause first of all. It’s a hard and time-consuming process. But before you do that, the question is, how to relieve the unsubstantial sadness?
Here are a few things you can do when you are feeling sad for no evident reason. Just remember that these things will give you temporary relief but not a solution.
Watch an inspirational movie or read an interesting book
A good remedy for negative emotions like sadness or boredom is to escape the mundanities of daily life for a little while. Spending an evening in the company of a good book or a feel-good movie is a great way to cheer up a bit. Try to pick something positive or at least not too dull.
Who knows, you may get an unexpected inspiration and ideas in the process. It’s a fact that some quality movies and books have the power to change people’s lives.
Call or visit your parents
Sometimes, in order to end our sadness, all we need is to feel the warmth of being heard and understood. Who can give you this if not the people who raised you? If you have a good relationship with your parents, call them just to hear their voice and see how they are doing.
It is even better if you can visit them, have dinner together and recall all the beautiful and funny moments of your childhood. Sometimes a short trip into the bright days of our past can do wonders for our mood.
See an old friend
It’s inevitable that we lose friends as we grow up. But it often happens that we lose touch with great people just because of the circumstances. Why not call an old friend to see how he or she is doing?
Even if it’s been years since you last spent time together, they may have remained the same great person you once had in your life. Why not re-establish this connection? It’s always an interesting experience to meet people you haven’t seen for years to see how they’ve changed and most importantly, how you have changed.
Go for a walk or arrange a trip
When you are feeling blue, nothing can be better than a change of scenery, even for a little while. If you have the possibility to plan a trip somewhere near or far, you may be surprised with how fresh images can cheer you up and awaken your lost enthusiasm.
It would be great if you could go somewhere in nature to enjoy lovely views, quiet setting and calm. Studies show that walking in nature can relieve anxiety, depression and bad mood. Moreover, spending some time on your own surrounded by the sounds of nature can help you reconnect with yourself. As a result, you may find it easier to hear the voice of your soul.
To sum up, if you feel sad for no obvious reason on a regular basis, you should probably re-evaluate some things in your life. Take your time to analyze yourself, your relationships and your life. You might come face-to-face with uncomfortable truths in the process, but it is worth it. Sometimes it’s the only way you can find your place in this world.
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