What if I told you that you might be stuck in life even if it doesn’t feel like this? Moreover, it could happen even if you live your purpose.
The situation when you find yourself stuck in life may occur for plenty of reasons. But a common root is a lack of progress, action and growth.
You may be quite content with your life, have a job of your dream and be in a happy relationship. Yet, sometimes you feel like you don’t live to the fullest, your potential remains unfulfilled and your whole life has turned into a boring routine.
Could you be stuck in life? Here are some signs for you to know for sure.
1. You feel like you don’t make progress in life
Do you often feel like your professional or personal growth has stopped? You may have achieved much and have worked hard in order to be where you are today. But at some point, it feels like there is too much routine and too little progress.
It could be that you have remained in the same job position for too many years or don’t devote much time to self-improvement activities. Another reason might be that you do only the absolutely necessary stuff and don’t put a single bit of extra effort into moving forward. As a result, you feel like your potential is left unfulfilled and you are stuck in a life that looks like one big monotonous routine.
2. You are deeply buried in your comfort zone
First of all, I’m not a proponent of the idea that everyone needs to step out of their comfort zone. I believe that it is perfectly okay to live a simple and comfortable life according to your needs and interests.
Yet, when you are just too comfortable all the time and never challenge yourself, you stop evolving and, as a result, find yourself stuck in life. In this case, it is important to find a healthy balance between comfort and growth.
For example, if you are an introvert who loves books and solitude, I’m not suggesting that you should shake your quiet life and go to a rave party. However, you can still challenge yourself with the things you enjoy. Why don’t you try reading a book in a foreign language you learned in school? Or what about books on philosophy/science/etc. which are not as easy to read as your favorite fantasy novels?
The point of challenging yourself is not to force yourself to do stuff you don’t like. It is about trying your best with the things that are hard and require more effort than your usual activities.
3. You don’t learn anything new
Learning new things is a lifelong process and when it stops, so does the growth. You can’t evolve as a person without expanding your horizons with new knowledge and ideas.
It’s so sad to see today’s people who aren’t curious and are interested in nothing but their own persona. And it becomes even sadder when you consider that we live in the age of information when the knowledge is so easily accessible. Yet, most people choose the ignorance.
So don’t be like them and try to preserve curiosity and willingness to learn. Reading and having meaningful conversations have been and will always remain the best ways to gain new knowledge.
Learning new skills is another effective tool when it comes to giving your personal development a boost. Your childhood dreams may help you with this. Did you dream about playing the violin or becoming a singer? It’s never too late to master a new skill, even if it’s only for fun.
4. You are too afraid of changes
Do you often catch yourself thinking about all the bad things that could happen in your life? Do you avoid all kinds of changes because you are afraid to let go of the current state of things?
We are all afraid of losing our loved ones or getting ill. It’s completely human. But when your fear becomes so big that you avoid the smallest change, you are, in reality, stuck in life.
Change is an inevitable part of life. It’s not good or bad, it’s just the way it is, and we need to accept it. All people crave for stability at some point and do their best to preserve all the good things they worked hard for. But if something in your life changes and you continue to dwell on the past, it’s like trapping yourself in a place that doesn’t exist anymore.
5. You are avoiding the uncomfortable things too much
We constantly say that it is perfectly healthy and even necessary to cut toxic people from your life and stay away from the things that make you feel uncomfortable. But what if there is so much avoidance that it becomes unhealthy?
Let’s say that you suffer from social anxiety. Some people suggest that in order to combat it, you need to challenge yourself with the tasks that terrify you, such as asking for directions from the people in the street. While it may indeed work for some, others find it absolutely devastating.
Once again, it’s all about a healthy balance. When you listen to your social phobia just too much, it eventually makes you stay away from everything and everybody. Such behavior is unhealthy and prevents you from enjoying life. To stop being too avoidant and feeling stuck in life, you need to challenge yourself in appropriate ways.
In our example of social anxiety, I wouldn’t recommend extremities such as forcing yourself to talk to strangers or giving a speech in front of a huge audience. But you could, for example, start with some jogging in a public park or going on your own to an exhibition devoted to your favorite artist.
Remember that stopping too much avoidance is not about throwing yourself into the fire but taking small steps every day. At least, this is true in the case of mental illness.
6. You often feel bored or tired for no reason
You love your job and are a pretty happy person. Yet, you often feel bored or tired without any obvious reason. Even people who live according to their true purpose sometimes find themselves stuck in life. It can happen to you even if you are on the right path, but your life just lacks action and development.
Setting a new goal or finding a new hobby could light you up again and keep you away from boredom and a lack of motivation. Exploring new things, such as traveling to an exotic destination, could also help you escape the routine.
Do these signs of being stuck in life sound familiar to you? First of all, don’t panic. You are doing great and all you need is to add some more effort to your daily routine. Remember that it’s about taking small steps every day towards becoming a better person and moving forward in life.
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