One of the best things to do in life is to learn how to stop dwelling on negativity. It’s harder for some than others.
Negativity slows us down, prevents us from reaching goals, and even kills our desires and dreams. So, it’s obvious that we should reduce negativity as much as possible. Now, I would first like to explain that negativity and bad thought patterns are not the same as depression. With having bad thought patterns, you can actually stop dwelling on problems by taking certain steps.
Depression vs Negativity and What People Are More Prone to Dwelling on the Negative
Depression, much like anxiety disorder and bipolar disorder, is a disease. What applies in this post will not work for serious mental illnesses like this. I wanted to get that clear first off.
Negativity or pessimism, on the other hand, can be dealt with quite effectively if you’re willing to utilize the help. Learning how to stop dwelling on the dark side of things takes time. There are certain types of people who find it quite difficult to stop dwelling on negativity. Here are a few examples:
- Genetically pre-dispositioned to think in a negative manner
- Those who have fallen into negative patterns from past hurts
- Lonely people
- Bitter people
- Those who cannot stop living in the past
- People stuck in comfort zones
I am sure you know some of these people, and I bet you’ve wondered why they act and react in the manner they do. Then again, you may have an idea why these people are the way they are. However, there is always hope in turning negativity into positivity with most anyone. To stop dwelling on the bad stuff, you can take a few actions. Listen up!
How to take control of your problems and stop dwelling on them:
1. Recognize negative thought patterns
Not a single thing can be done until you’ve recognized your negative thought patterns. You can try to distract yourself, or you can try to drown your sorrows in some way, but a pattern means… the negative thoughts will come back. If you have a problem that seems to repeat itself, that’s a problematic pattern, which is basically the same thing.
To recognize these patterns, pay attention to how you think in general. As you talk or respond to others, nothing, if everything said, is more or less gloomy. Do you always think the worst of people, or do you always assume something bad is going to happen? These are patterns. If you’ve recognized them, then you can move on to another way of dealing with these problems.
2. Understand the two origins of negative thoughts
There are two very distinct origins of problematic thinking or negative rumination. You either think in terms of dwelling in the past, or you worry about the future. To break it down into simpler terms. If you have negative feelings about a situation, it could be because a similar situation turned sour during your past.
Worry is just worrying. If you don’t know how to stop dwelling on problems or negative thoughts, you will worry about everything that may happen in the future. If you have an event scheduled, especially if you’re an introvert, you will worry until the event is over. Only then will you feel relaxed again.
So, understanding that these thoughts come from the past and future mindsets, you can teach yourself to think in the present time…mindfulness, basically. And this can be done with meditation.
3. Confront the behavior
Sometimes you never notice the bad behavior and the negative habits, but if you do, then it’s time to confront these things. Confrontation with your own problems and negative thoughts will never be easy, but if accomplished once, you can do it again and again, until your outlook has changed quite a bit.
When you confront this behavior, ask yourself why your negativity is so important. Find out why a positive outcome can be just as probable as a negative one. Also, remember, problems sometimes go away without scars or resentments. Confront what you’re feeling and then move on to other strategies.
4. Have a positive forecast
While you may not be able to control everything in life, you can start thinking a bit better. I know, I know, that’s the whole point, you cannot seem to stop dwelling on problems.
How about this? Let’s try to forecast how our future will be, but in a positive light, just as an exercise. Visualize yourself as having a positive outcome in a dreaded situation, and try to practice this forecasting more and more until it becomes a more natural outlook. Yes, it takes a while to train ourselves to think this way, so be patient.
5. Seek a support system
Okay, with this tactic, you must be careful. While isolation can be really bad for your thinking, choosing the wrong friends can also be just as bad. So, in order to stop dwelling on problems, you must seek the right kind of support system to help you remember your positive goals.
You will want friends who support you, yet help you correct your mistakes. These shouldn’t be the kind of friends who are always criticizing you, however. Most importantly, don’t go this life alone. This is where negativity and problems will utterly destroy you.
Leaving the negativity behind
Life is full of problems. Sometimes, they bombard us every day, even to the point of almost suffocation. This is when it can get really rough. But think back, remember all the problems you had in the past and how you somehow survived those things. This is yet, another way to stop dwelling on your problems.
So, keep your chin up and spread what you learn to others who need to the help to make it through.
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